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If you’ve never tried this before with your partner, Dr. Carlen says to take your time and take it slow. “You don’t have to jump in with the dirtiest thing because it can come across as awkward or unauthentic,” she says. Instead of whispering in his ear that you want to have an orgy with him and 15 members of a football team, Dr. Carlen says tried-and-true dirty talk includes saying things like “I love it when you do (fill in the blank),” and the universally hot, “Oh, baby, I’m coming.”

But even if you are the queen of masturbatory techniques, you might still find it tough to climax during full sex, and this will almost certainly be because your clitoris is not getting sufficient attention.

Not only is the tongue the strongest muscle in the human body, but guys, you also have a lot more control over your tongue than you do over your penis, allowing you to apply direct pressure to specific parts of the vagina. It’s crucial to vary the pressure of your tongue once you finally move toward your target. Use a broad, flat tongue to fully cover the vagina—this will apply gentle titillating pressure and will help lube up the area with saliva. For more intense pressure of specific arousal spots, like the clitoris, use a firm pointed tongue to circle and flick.

And once you reach your second, the doors are wide open: “if you can have two, you can have three, four, or more! There is no limit on how many orgasms a woman can experience,” Rose says. If it doesn’t happen the first time, don’t worry—practicing is something you and your partner can both enjoy.

You see, most males will ejaculate quite quickly if they have their penises rubbed. This applies even if the circumstances aren’t very romantic – or even if they don’t particularly like the person who’s doing the rubbing.

The man lies down on his back. The woman faces the other way and sits down on his penis. Then, in her own time, she gradually lowers herself so that – with his penis inside her – her back is lying fully outstretched on the front of his body.

In answer to your question, maybe just try everything she finds good and try and get past that plateau a little bit further every time. And keep it fun, the whole orgasm thing, sex tricks aside, really is a head thing. No pun intended.

“Do you want to be the kind of guy who gives his woman multiple,full body orgasms any and every time you want. It doesn’t matter what size you are,how long you can last in bed or even if you have hard time getting or keeping an erection.If you are serious about giving a woman the most pleasurable orgasm filled experiences of her entire life then I want to show you how. In order to last in my business Ive got to be able to make any woman come,you need to be able to do it every time without excuses and you need to know a lots of different ways to do it.During my time in the business I spent all of my time doing 1 of 3 things: working.exercising and learning new and different ways to give women orgasms

All of these contractions are accompanied by a great sensation of pleasure and, in some women, the emission of a small amount of fluid from the vagina – a sort of female ejaculation, a process captured on video many times, and is a real phenomenon.

Honestly Breve you are thinking way too hard about the situation at hand. Women that can cum vaginally are rare. It just isnt something that all women can due. Try having her stimulate her clit while you are pumping and she will eventually reach her climax. Another thing that is rare but can be achieved is for your women to have multiple orgasms. you simply repeat the process that i just explained. if you can beat my record i would love to hear about. My record is giving my gf 6 orgasms in one 45 minute- 1 hour session. with her playing with her clit each time of course. good luck!!

It is at this point that the G-spot changes in texture from rough to smooth, a change which some people believe is caused by swelling of part of the clitoris, causing it to lie more closely on top of the vaginal wall.

Many women have trouble having orgasms, particularly women under 35 or so. In addition, many women who are orgasmic solo by hand or vibrator have problems getting there during couple sex. I suggest your friend and her husband check out the Info Library on my site, GreatSexAfter40.com. (It focuses on sex in the second half of life, but has tons of information for lovers of all ages.) The Info Library contains 100 articles, several of which relate to women’s orgasm difficulties and how men can help women have them. Articles can be purchased individually, or people can buy all of them (a much better deal). If the articles don’t provide sufficient relieve, then I’d suggest sex therapy. Your friend can find a therapist at the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists: aasect.org. Please tell your friend that her issue is quite common and that it CAN be resolved.

Michael, as always you continue to offer really sensitive advice to help women have more pleasure. I for one, wonder about how you “get it” so thoroughly. You must really listen to women. A quick read of any of your blogs and books would answer Lily’s accusations of missing the surround sound that makes the sexual experience so great for a woman.. I know you advise about that over and over!

– Use light, grazing touches. For the external parts such as the clitoris and the labia. Light touches to sensitive areas is a good way to turn her on and make her wet. Plus, it gives her anticipation making her receptive to aggressive fingering later.

It’s not true that you “have to learn to love yourself”. I never EVER ever could, but would only get close to that annoying plateau. I thought it wouldn’t happen, until one day, with a really patient partner, I discovered the glory of being on top. This is after 7 years of having sex.

Since we dont talk about it like guys, I do think its important to hear what works for other gurls. I dont have any problems now but when I first started I couldnt orgasm whenever I wanted but after learning a few techniques that worked and getting my mind on the right things I havent had a problem since. I agree with watching porn, it can be a big help but its not for everyone, and toys are the same but a dildo or a vibrator can rally make orgasming easier and better. Its not as hard as you think to get a vibrator so if you want one I would do it because of the sensations you can feel from them.

Some feminists reject the idea that men “give” women an orgasm. They claim that equality requires that each is responsible for their own orgasm. Other people see love making as a mutual activity of giving and taking.

For almost all girls, foreplay is massively important. If you think you can spread her legs, stick it in and have her screaming in fifteen seconds, you’re wrong. That doesn’t depend on the girl. No woman can come like that.

The unfortunate truth is that some people aren’t comfortable with words like clitoris, so for the purposes of this post I’ll refrain from the use of the word and call it “ringing her bell” after that ’70s song “Ring My Bell,” which I hope was referring to precisely what we’re talking about.

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2. “Make me feel like you’re enjoying it. I’m already thinking this is a chore for you, so if you make me know that you’re doing this because you want to, it’ll help in every way possible.” —Jordan, 27

Please bear in mind that – contrary to what many men think – sexual intercourse by itself is not likely to produce an orgasm. This is because intercourse alone is not very good at stimulating the woman’s clitoris.

The best feeling in the world is when a guy takes his time down there and knows how to tease And eventually gets to the good part which is the fast flick of his tongue against a girl’s clit. Gosh… that feels so damn good And remember… if you can’t find her clit… you can just ask

In contrast, the vaginal walls contain relatively few nerve endings. Only the lower third of the vagina has enough nerve endings to feel stimulation from a penis, finger, sex toy, or other penetrative object. This can make intense sexual stimulation, pleasure, and orgasm from vaginal-only penetration unlikely. In reality, the clitoris is perfectly placed. You might consider the clitoris to be “inaccessible” because in-and-out intercourse does not touch your button of joy. The challenge is for you and your partner to find and cultivate its potential.

“Dive into her like you’ve never tasted something as good in your life. ” golden. absolutely golden. this entire reply needs to be published in some sex bible. you nailed every part of the ideal process.

That being said I love when a guy is gentle and not invasive, and let’s me know if he thinks I taste/smell nice so I can relax and stop feeling self conscious. Just make me feel like you’re having a good time and aren’t just doing me a favor

For a woman, it’s often more important to connect emotionally before establishing a physical connect. Start off with something that you know will touch her heart. Plan a romantic evening – dinner, soft lights, music and wine – the works. Start with the wine to get her relaxed. Pull her close and let the wine and the music do the trick! Before you know it, it’ll be she who unleashes her moves on you!

Also known as the Venus Mound, the soft patch of skin above the vulva is the key to orgasm for many women, as sucking, stroking and rubbing this region also massages the shaft of her inner clitoris. While you’re going down on her, use three fingers to gently press upward on the bottom section of her Venus Mound while using her hip movements and breath patterns to guide your rhythm.

It’s unfortunate that anon can’t conveniently follow up, but I’d add to all the good above advice (particularly TPS, paulSC and Miko) – are you sure that what you describe as simply accepting a blow-off answer from the doc isn’t her way of telling you that she’s okay with things as they are and to just let it be?

The sure-fire option is to address her clitoris: by changing your thrusting motion so your pelvis grinds into her, or by slowing down (crucial, this) such that you can accurately use your thumb. (This same attention to detail goes for nipple pinching, spanking, or a wet finger pressing up against her behind. Flailing attempts are beneath you – do it well or not at all.)

“Part of this difference in perception could be due to women faking orgasms, which research has suggested women will do for a variety of reasons, including out of love for their partner, to protect their partner’s self-esteem, intoxication, or to bring the sexual encounter to an end,” the authors note.

Invest at least three minutes of your total 15 in kissing. Studies by Lafayette College in the US found that kissing reduces levels of the stress cortisol, quickening the time it takes to turn you both on. As you pay lip service, tilt your head to the right – scientists in Germany found this makes you seem more caring, flooding her system with the ‘connection’ chemical oxytocin, building trust and encouraging her to come quickly.

The woman can feel genuinely weightless and free-as-air – which is quite a novel sensation. Another bonus is that either partner can touch the clitoris easily. So it’s different and fun – and usually a great time is had by all.

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Every pussy is different. Let me repeat : EVERY PUSSY IS DIFFERENT. One style of tongue or the same place on the pussy or place on the clit is no guarantee that an orgasm will occur for every woman. Our pussies are not coke machines where you put in a quarter and an orgasm falls out. You need to explore confidently, enthusiastically, and pay attention to her requests, breathing, noises etc. Asking is good when you aren’t finding your way.

Lloyd says she hopes couples will consider the “golden trio” of behaviours for female orgasm. “I would like [women] to take that home and think about it, and to think about it with their partners and talk about it with their partners,” said Prof Lloyd. “If they are not fully experiencing their fullest sexual expression to the maximum of their ability then I think our paper has something to contribute to their wellbeing.” – (Guardian Service)

Touch her as close as possible to the way she touches herself. Her body is likely used orgasming in a particular way and you need to mimic that. Once it happens you can vary the fun more but you need to get over the, pardon me, hump.

Please bear in mind that – contrary to what many men think – sexual intercourse by itself is not likely to produce an orgasm. This is because intercourse alone is not very good at stimulating the woman’s clitoris.

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Many men find oral sex (also known as ‘blow jobs’) highly sensitive, so start gently and slowly and work up to a faster pace. You can experiment with different tongue, mouth and head movements to see what works best (but never use your teeth unless asked!).

I have a lot of go to moves, not quite sure what you mean by the question. For example, some of my go to moves are designed for a woman who has an especially difficult time finishing, but I also have a separate set of go to moves that are going to make me unforgettable with a girl who comes really easily.

What works for one person does very little for another, and while the percentage of women who managed to orgasm while receiving anal sex might rave about its greatness, there are plenty of women who just don’t like it.

I’m not interested so much in crazy sex tricks (I realize there has been a question on that) as much as I am in hearing from women who have been in a similar situation and got over it–ie, those who were sexually active for a while without ever having had an orgasm, until one day, everything changed. What did it take? How common is it, actually, for women to be unable to have an orgasm?

Once he is inside, keep up the clitoral stimulation, Rose suggests. She’s on to something: The majority of women worldwide don’t orgasm from penetrative sex alone, but instead can only climax from clitoral stimulation, reports a study in the journal Clinical Anatomy. “For most women, this is how they can get to full (and multiple) orgasms during intercourse,” she adds. (Upgrade the norm: How to Get More Pleasure Out of Common Sex Positions.)

Get hold of Kamasutra and surprise her with a new move. A woman’s body is a treasure trove of hidden pleasure points. And if our ancestors swore by the century-old sex guide, it could definitely show your lady love stars in the daylight!

This makes a lot of women believe that they can’t have multiple orgasms. But they can. All women can. By giving her a little time to recuperate and then SLOWLY building the pressure up again with a much lighter technique, you can make her come again a second time.

“Circles with your tongue are great. I hate flicking. I see it in porn all the time and I don’t get it. Let your tongue be wide and slightly firm, I HATE that thing when a tongue gets all hard and pointy at the tip.”

Back to the basics, stimulating the clitoris and (for some women) pressure in or around the vagina can cause pelvic fullness and body tension to build up to a peak. During sexual excitement, the clitoris swells and changes position. The blood vessels through the whole pelvic area also swell, causing engorgement and a feeling of fullness and sexual sensitivity. The inner vaginal lips swell and change shape, and the vagina balloons upward, causing the uterus to shift position. Orgasm is the point at which all the tension is suddenly released in a series of involuntary and pleasurable muscular contractions in the vagina, uterus, and/or rectum.  

As mentioned above, with additional stimulation a woman will move from the plateau phase into orgasm.  It’s often the transition from the plateau phase to the orgasm which presents most difficulties for a woman when she is trying to have an orgasm.

“The orgasm gaps between men and heterosexual women were well known prior to this study,” said Frederick. “The gaps between lesbian women and heterosexual women, however, were more speculative or based on small samples of lesbian women. This study highlights much more precisely that there are multiple orgasm gaps.”

Once her panties are gone or you’re inside them, her natural slickness will help you a great deal when your fingers start touching her bell directly. If she isn’t as wet as would be ideal, that’s OK because you’re an amazing lover and have a small bottle of organic, water-based lubricant in your jacket pocket just in case, right?

Try kissing and licking anywhere between her thighs to turn her on. Move on to the clitoris, starting with gentle licking or sucking. Get her to tell you what motion feels the best, what speed and what pressure turn her on the most. Try it with a relaxed, soft tongue, and change to a firmer, pointed tongue. Some women love an up-and-down licking motion, others like it to go from side to side (like a windscreen wiper), and others still like a circular or pressing-down motion.

EDIT: Holy fuck, was NOT expecting this kind of response. Read through the comments and thought I’d summarize the additions etc. people had to make. (including edits to my original post). Thanks all you lovely people for your additional advice!

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In the bottom third of the ellipse is the vaginal entrance. Push the tip of your tongue slightly inside. The walls of the vaginal opening are extremely sensitive, always approach them slowly and gently. The tip of your tongue, being soft and wet, should give her a feeling of pleasure.

(6) Take a vibrator to bed. Even if you do all of the above, some women still have trouble with orgasm, and need the intense stimulation only vibrators can provide. Today, one-third of American women own vibrators, but few couples include them in partner sex. Some men fear being “replaced.” Nonsense. Power tools don’t replace carpenters. They just get the job done more efficiently. Vibrators can’t kiss and cuddle, or make women laugh, or love them. They do just one thing, and some women need that one thing to have orgasms. Hold her close as you invite her to use the vibrator.

(4) Use a lubricant. Wetter is better. In just seconds, lubricant makes women’s (and men’s) genitals more erotically sensitive, so it helps women have orgasms. In addition, for women experiencing post-menopausal vaginal dryness, sex may feel uncomfortable without a lubricant.

For men and women alike, the act of giving oral sex can actually create sensations throughout her body that will enhance and increase feelings of sexual pleasure. Some women report that they get more aroused from giving oral sex, than from any other kind of foreplay activity.

That’s an excellent question to ask her, rather than a bunch of strangers on the Internet. You know her–we don’t. Every woman is different; there is no magic technique, no guidebook to stroke this part this many times and then lick here like so that will instantly produce incredible orgasms.

And perhaps the most obvious sign of her bodily arousal is production of vaginal lubrication, sometimes in large quantities, so much so that she may feel the wetness growing and seeping outwards into her underwear.

There has been a lot of new research on orgasm the past few years about the female orgasm, says Garcia. “We now understand that orgasm is a both a biological and psychosocial experience.  Studies have shown that psychological state, including whether someone is distracted or if they feel ashamed about engaging in sex in the first place (e.g., the sexual double standard), might limit the ability to experience orgasm,” says Garcia.

When we’re excited, our minds race and our bodies stumble to keep pace. In the heat of the moment, our caresses often become slovenly gropes and our lustful kisses deteriorate into something from a bad romance novel.

Congratulations. You found the G-spot. In cases like this, there’s a lot more to it than that. Don’t underestimate the emotional situation. If you are making her feel inadequate, you are undermining the whole thing. If you stop concentrating on your own enjoyment because you’re OBSESSED with making her come, then you’re denying her the pleasure of pleasing you. Don’t be a freak about it.

And many women experience their orgasm as a whole body sensation rather than just in their genitals. It’s probably safe to say that all women’s experiences of climax are different – both between different women and in the same woman over time.

hell i liked that point sex is all about a women-loved massage , but hell no kissing & massaging for about 30 min , some couples just do it in a whole 30 min can’t believe ,…but i of course like it, as it truly seems getting hurt painfully by sex , not that much pleasure, that’s why some men think women drive them begging at the end , no it’s just all what they want

More excellent advice. And get some erotica (books or DVD’s) to go with it. She can then experiment at her leisure without any stress. Forget all the worrying about desensitizing and such. Just have some fun. I suspect that there’s nothing wrong with your girlfriend that a little “education” can’t fix.

Great tips, and as a woman I totally agree with what’s said here. I hate it when a guy goes too quick from the get-go and will just find a way to stop him. Take your time guys and don’t use the tip of your tongue as much as the flat, soft top of the tongue. Em

Sometimes you’re in the mood to get some action but don’t actually feel like having anything inside you. Whether you’re on your period, have a UTI or just plain aren’t in the mood for it, the good news is, there are plenty of ways for you and your partner to get off together without having old-fashioned intercourse.

Just as important as making sure she is physically comfortable is settling in and ensuring that you are physically comfortable. Position yourself so that you’ll avoid any neck, hand, or forearm cramping for as long as possible. I mean it… get comfy.

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I call it multiple edging orgasms. It’s a simple way of combining two of the best orgasm intensifying techniques you’ll ever use, into one sex life altering move that will leave her breathless and wondering which way is up.

This is all good news for you. Because if you put even a little bit of effort into sorting out your approach and technique, you’ll set yourself miles ahead of the pack. When you’re through, she’ll be blissed out, panting and doe-eyed, looking at you like you’re an absolute rock star.

The complexity of sexual relations is shown by the fact that orgasm is not only enjoyed by the person having orgasm. The orgasm of the man is important to the woman, and reversely the orgasm of the woman is felt as important for many men, maybe too important.

Mic asked millennial men why they enjoy performing oral sex on their female partners, whether they think it’s important to having a vibrant sex life and whether they think they’re any good at going down. 

Well, reddit is heavily male dominated. And to be fair, men with good communication skills can give very relevant information. Actually, they can give more relevant information because it can be based on their experiences with many women instead of just one woman recounting her own experiences. With how much variance there is in people with regards to sex, that’s a good thing.

You can also try giving her different types of orgasms, one after another. For example, you can use your mouth and tongue to give her a clitoral orgasm and then use your fingers to give her a g-spot orgasm while her clit “cools down”.

Yes, you can do exercises for your vagina. Kegels will strengthen your vaginal muscles and can make it easier for you to orgasm. Do them by tightening and then relaxing your vaginal muscles (think about what you do when you really have to pee). You can do these anywhere at any time without anyone noticing.

Ask any woman how many times she’s laid on her back, bored and frustrated, her clit having retreated deep inside her, with some unfortunate, badly educated man between her legs, lapping like a thirsty dog, his tongue aching and almost numb, the only stiff part of him being his neck. I think you’ll be surprised at the answer.

About 10% of women have never had an orgasm — either with a partner or during masturbation. And quite a few of them have found their way into my therapy practice. That’s when I tell these women the good news: It is possible to learn to be orgasmic.

All of these contractions are accompanied by a great sensation of pleasure and, in some women, the emission of a small amount of fluid from the vagina – a sort of female ejaculation, a process captured on video many times, and is a real phenomenon.

Men, do not underestimate the amount of razor stubble on your face and how this feels. If a man has not had a shave in over 8 hours, his razor stubble could approximate the grain of 120 grit sandpaper, which is pretty abrasive. Sometimes a little pressure from the chin or upper lip can feel nice, but not if you’re exfoliating the top layer of musocal tissue. If you think back to the ice-cream example, it may help you remember: while eating an ice-cream cone, you wouldn’t stick your chin in it. So if you have razor stubble, make sure it’s only lips and tongue are contacting the area.

Then, use the longest finger of your right hand and move it slowly to the entrance of her vagina. Once you can feel her wetness, push your finger inside (again, move nice and slow). Your hand should be facing upwards, so that your finger can caress the front wall of her vagina, at the famous “G-spot.” Do while continuing clitoral stimulation with your tongue.

First, you’ve got “women” in your title, which assumes that anyone who has a vagina is automatically a woman, regardless of how they might choose to identify themselves. I think it’s pretty damaging to shut down entire avenues of self-identity by branding everyone as one gender or another simply based on what genitalia they happen to have.

We all like being good at things. (Remember how awesome it felt to get a gold star on that fourth-grade math test?) That sentiment also applies to sex: Being told how good you are at giving head is a pretty big ego boost.

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Your primary sex organ is your clitoris, not your vagina. But youou already know that from masturbation. So as long as you orgasm during intercourse, you should not feel like you are missing anything.

As she becomes more aroused, her clitoris becomes larger and goes through a number of changes that cause the angle of the clitoral body to change. Such changes are useful signs for a man aiming to make a woman come quickly and easily – they can be the clues to what to do next in the process of sexual arousal.

You sound luke that one guy who only got lucky due to a heavy amount of alcohol, and because all he has is fuzzy images from the night before thinks he is some kind of sex god who gets to criticise people on an online forum for stating their opinion, or are you incapable of knowing what a forum topic and post are about.

What happens in a woman’s body during a climax is very like what happens in your (male) body when you ejaculate. In other words, there’s a feeling of increasing excitement, building up to a point where everything ‘blows’ in a great blast of ecstasy.

Tease her and drive her crazy with anticipation – I like to kiss and lick my way to her pussy, gently breathe onto it, but then change course and work my way back up her leg. This can be done multiple times, as long as it’s funny. The best is when she can’t take it anymore and pulls your face between her legs.

In one study, researchers worked with 36 women who could not have orgasms in the missionary position. Half the women were encouraged to masturbate to become more comfortable with their genitals and their sexual responsiveness, a standard approach in sex therapy. The others were taught the CAT. Based on diaries kept during the 21-day period after this training, the masturbation group reported a 27 percent increase in orgasms during missionary-position intercourse, while the CAT group reported twice the increase, 56 percent.

Make sure your fingers are wet, and then, start by going down the side of the clitoris all the way into her vagina and then back out again. This common maneuver of the tongue can also work with fingers, as long as you keep the pressure light and the area very wet.

I am 34 and my wife is 31. We have been married for five years. Since marriage, we have never been sure whether she has had a real orgasm. I am noticing her interest in sex declining, and assume it is because she is not getting enough pleasure out of it. Please suggest how I can increase her sexual pleasure and provide her with an orgasm.

Stamina is the biggest key to great oral. One of the biggest secrets to being able to stick with it is to totally relax your jaw. The tendency most men have while licking is to clench up, which is what causes most guys to quickly burn out and not make it to the payoff.

If you want your man to go down on you, just ask him to. If you feel a bit shy, try getting into bed upside down – he’ll probably get the message. If he really isn’t in the mood, or the idea upsets him, just respect his decision and don’t try to force the issue. There is nothing wrong with having oral sex during a period, but a lot of men really don’t like doing it at that time of the month.

The risk of HIV transmission from oral sex is very low. The main risks arise if the person receiving oral sex has an STI or sores on their genital area, or if the person giving oral sex has sores in their mouth or bleeding gums.

Chances are, you’re well versed on all things clitoris-related and know both light touching and applying more pressure to this sensitive spot can result in orgasm. But Dr. Carlen reminds us to encourage our partners to explore the entire vagina — including the labia and vulva, which has the second-most nerve endings after the clitoris and the U-spot, the area on and around the urethra.

“In scientific terms, orgasm is characterized by subjective feelings of intense sensation and pleasure, including a sudden discharge of accumulated erotic tension at sexual climax and a temporarily altered state of consciousness. Orgasm is generally comprised of a series of psychophysiological responses, including genital reactivity, involuntary rhythmic contractions of pelvic musculature, changes in heart rate and blood pressure, and neurohormonal activation/deactivation,” says Garcia.

As we previously reported, the Girls creator underwent a total hysterectomy in an effort to end her longtime battle with endometriosis. While the decision to have her cervix and uterus removed was one she had to make for medical reasons, she’s still struggling with “a broken heart.”

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I’ve been seeing this girl for a while. We’re both in our 20’s. Everything is going great, except that she has never had an orgasm. Ever. Not even by her own hand. We are both sexually experienced and have been with several prior partners. I like to think I know what I’m doing–I can find the G spot–but I’ve never run into such a tough case as this one.

According to statistics from sleep company Zeo, getting seven or more hours of sleep per night increases youthfulness and physical vigor, while a sleepless night reduces attractiveness by 4 percent and elevates a stress hormone called cortisol by 37 percent, leading more frustration, irritability and unhappiness. Sex is a great stress reducer and sleep aid, but the irony is that in order to really enjoy it, you need to be well rested. Setting the stage for sex means setting the stage for sleep, so don’t be ashamed to make sleep a priority for both you and your partner. Better sex will surely follow. (See some other ways to lay proper groundwork in 8 New Year’s Resolutions for the Best Sex Ever.)

For better sex, the website www.massivestayingpower.com may be helpful if you need more information on how to reach orgasm during intercourse, which often depends on the man’s ability to engage in long lasting thrusting.

Fingering a girl into a satisfying climax may seem easy. Once you find yourself in the critical moment, you discover it can be as challenging as defusing a bomb with all red wires. And if you think gunning your fingers in like a jackhammer does the job, you’re very much mistaken. Here’s a guide on how to finger a girl for beginners.

It’s always good to try new things. I think that getting into a bit of S&M can be a lot of fun. And you’re right in that talking openly and having safe words is critical to ensuring you both feel safe to explore that side of your sexuality and enjoy it to the max.

“We had the rare opportunity to look at responses from over 50,000 people, including over 2,000 gay, lesbian, and bisexual men and women,” said David Frederick, lead author of the research from Chapman University.

Most women will not achieve orgasm through an ordinary genital sexual intercourse. And men often are tired after their orgasm. Because of this, it may be best to ensure that the woman has an orgasm before the man. She will still be excited afterwards, and will enjoy his orgasm.

2) Some woman have mindbogglingly specific things which need to happen before they can have an orgasm. A ritual almost. Certain things need to be done in a specific order combined with some specific fantasies. So try mixing things up. Experimenting is fun.

So, the question on all of our minds is, how?! “Many women don’t allow themselves to get fully aroused, and arousal is what fuels multiple orgasms,” Rose explains. This is a long road, and one you might not reach the end of on the first try, but Rose and Anami have a pretty thorough guide to help you get there. To achieve maximum arousal and multiple Os, follow these seven steps:

Thanks for your comment. She likes the foreplay to an extent. She does not want or has not used toys. The most I can do is with my fingers. Once in a great while and I do mean a great while I can perform oral sex on her. When this happens she does like it and has had orgaims. But getting her to go from just do it and get it over to lets play is hard. I beleive it is becaues of time and privacy. She does not want to plan sex and when the kids are gone for the day or a while she just is not in the mood.

We have to get a lot more going in our sex equation. “Adding in extra clitoral stimulation either with hands, mouth or toys can certainly help women climax while with a partner either while having intercourse or through foreplay,” says Morse. Oral sex is also a winner, so is nipple stimulation.  “Women’s brains process nipple and genital stimulation in the same region of the brain. So this can lead many women to experience nipple orgasms, as well,” says Morse.

a vibrator is not the solution cause then your woman experience an clitoral orgasm and not an orgasm through intercourse. order the dvd program penetration orgasm mastery and learn the secrets of penetration orgasm without vibrators but trhough intercourse. 100% money back guaranteed if you are not satisfied.

How refreshing to read an honest, accurate discussion about orgasms for women! Thanks for making it clear from the get-go that most women cannot have orgasms from intercourse alone and need other stimulation.

You may feel nervous before having oral sex – whether you’re giving it or receiving it. The best thing to do is to carry on communicating with your partner. Ask them to tell you what feels nice and let them know when you are enjoying something.

What you should do on your way down, however, is gently kiss her chest, stomach, and inner thighs—throw in some light nibbles, too. Do this until you reach the final point of destination, and then slowly and softly dig in with your tongue. Also, the slower the better – the wait will kill her with anticipation.

#2 Be patient. Great oral sex starts well before your face find its way between her legs. Good foreplay, done right is key to getting her warmed up and ready. A guy is like a light switch, you’re either up *turned on* or down *turned off*. Women are more like a rocket launch, a complex set of systems activated in the right order, and eventually turned on.

Statistically speaking, without having talked at all with the woman, clitoral stimulation of some kind is likely to be most effective in producing an orgasm. And be aware that there is a significant percentage of women who are anorgasmic.

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When we orgasm, it is a response of the nervous system to sexual stimulation. Both men and women can experience orgasm under certain conditions, typically following genital stimulation, but there is a lot of variation in people’s orgasm experiences, says Justin Garcia, Scientific Advisor for Match.com. 

The reason? During intercourse (missionary, doggie, woman-on-top, whatever), the penis does not directly stimulate the clitoris, the organ responsible for women’s orgasms. Sexuality experts reassure couples that the woman’s inability to experience orgasm during intercourse is (1) very common, (2) no reflection on her sexual responsiveness, (3) no reflection on the man’s sexual technique, and (4) no reflection the woman’s feelings about the relationship. I agree.

Many women experience frustration from their inability to feel sensation or sexual pleasure from vaginal-penile intercourse. It is common for women to feel closeness, and fullness, but not the intensity they believe that they “should” be feeling. With a little bit of learning and exploration, you can find ways to enjoy various types of pleasure, intimacy, and even ecstasy.

Further analysis of the surveys revealed that women who frequently orgasmed were more likely to have a longer duration of sex and were more likely to have a higher relationship satisfaction, with the study also suggesting that factors such as asking for particular behaviours in bed and flirting with their partner throughout the day were linked to small but significant associations with more frequent orgasms in women.

Thanks for the great info Michael! Just want to add in a little bit of my opinion. If guys want to make your female partner orgasm during intercourse isn’t easy and you need to last at least 5minutes above to make your partner orgasm. If people who can’t last longer than 5 minutes of thrusting your female partner, you should get a mini time out. But do remember, you don’t want to entirely end on intimate contact. Otherwise, you’ll have to re-work harder to get to another higher state of arousal. So maintain the caressing until you feel that hypersensitivity lessen and the heat returning to your moan zone. Hope it helps! =D

Is your girlfriend satisfied with how things are now? I think your quest is noble (though maybe more about you than her?), but your girlfriend’s *satisfaction* should be top priority, NOT her orgasm. Pushing her to have one is just going to make her tense, which will ruin her fun. I bet a lot of guys she’s been with have tried to do what you’re doing- maybe you could be the first one to say, Hey, I think you’re great, I like having fun with you, and I don’t care if you EVER have an orgasm. It doesn’t sound like you’ve been dating too long…. I say, for now, keep things light and fun.

One of the best “you on top” positions to get a woman off is a missionary while putting pressure on the clitoris with the lower pelvis/area right above the base of your penis. Rub hard into it on the in- and out-stroke.

In my research for this article, it turns out that a lot of (i.e. the majority) women are used to bad oral sex. One woman I interviewed even said, “With a lot of guys, I’d rather them just not. Some men seem to be absolutely hopeless with oral sex.”

Practise patiently until you can bring her to orgasm manually, or at least provide enormous pleasure. You will eventually have the skill to give her great pleasure in a variety of ways, and her sexual interest will soar.

I agree with those who have said that the Hitachi Magic Wand isn’t a good starter vibrator. That thing has some torque, lemme tell you. I think the vibe might be a good idea, but starting off small might work better.

While it took 30 minutes or so, and most women will NEVER come to this level of “self mental stimulation” necessary to have an orgasm, it does show how strongly her thoughts will influence her orgasm.

“The orgasm gaps between men and heterosexual women were well known prior to this study,” said Frederick. “The gaps between lesbian women and heterosexual women, however, were more speculative or based on small samples of lesbian women. This study highlights much more precisely that there are multiple orgasm gaps.”

Extra tip: finger her upper wall with two fingers, with a “come here” motion, at the same time as performing oral… this will put pressure on her g-spot, which in reality, is the internal part of the clitoral cluster.

The man lies down on his back. The woman faces the other way and sits down on his penis. Then, in her own time, she gradually lowers herself so that – with his penis inside her – her back is lying fully outstretched on the front of his body.

Virginity is a social construct. Also the gspot is a lie. Penetration is painful for most women to some degree. Very delicate tissues. You should be critical of what society has brainwashed women into doing. Don’t let yourself be pressured into penetration. You don’t ever have to do it. In my opinion the risk are not worth the perceived pleasure.

Let’s get this out of the way right off the bat: Health problems can get in the way of an orgasm. So, if something more than your sex life feels off, you should visit a doctor. In absence of a medical problem, however, a woman’s orgasms, or the lack of them, go way beyond what’s going on with her body. That means the main secret to a woman’s orgasms is that they’re as individual as the woman herself. Learning to bring yourself or your female partner to a climax, therefore, can be a learning process, where’s there’s always room for improvement. Here are three common things that can boost a woman’s orgasmic potential – and that couples tend to overlook. 

For her, this really does everything to do with being comfortable, relaxed, and free of anxiety. Every woman has to learn to have orgasms at some point…some of us figured it out independently at a young age, others may have had hangups or negative experiences with sexuality that made them feel they shouldn’t explore it. She has some learning to do, but it’s nothing the rest of us haven’t done (and continue to do…amazing how we can always surprise ourselves). It will probably be easier, at least at first, for her to learn this on her own and probably in private in conjunction with whatever she does with you.

The first and most important lesson is to practice developing a balance of tension and relaxation during sexual activity. But, my women clients ask, how can they be both tense and relaxed at the same time? It’s a good question, and here is my two-part answer:

Sexuality authorities also encourage couples to let go of the idea that women “should” have orgasms during intercourse. They encourage men to help women to orgasm using their fingers, hand, tongue, or a vibrator or other sex toys.

I blame bad communication and porn. Remember the last time you watched a man giving oral sex on camera? She was probably already naked when the film started. He will probably have given her tits a quick squeeze before going down on her, diving straight in, separating her lips and licking away furiously like a man possessed. If this is how you give head to your woman, you need to keep reading. Sure, the female arousal process can be very complicated. But once you understand a few things, your neck and jaw are going to thank me.

Every female is different. There is no point in rigidly following those ‘Ten Easy Steps to Give Her an Oral Orgasm’ articles in lads’ mags. It isn’t like an exam, with right and wrong answers. Sometimes you have to experiment to see what works for both of you.

For some women, orgasm during intercourse is nearly impossible, and it is very easy for sex to become some sort of contest between them and their partners to “make it happen.” Don’t try too hard. Don’t try every time. Don’t concentrate too much on the physical, or strictly on technique.

Give importance to foreplay: Keep in mind that intercourse alone cannot lead to an epic orgasm. You need to dedicate enough time to foreplay. This is not a race, so don’t be in a hurry to dive in and get to the end of the act. If you can master the art of arousing her in a slow and steady manner, chances are that she will last longer in bed and find the experience to be a lot more pleasurable and satisfying. Use your hands and tongue for the same. To help woman get multiple orgasms, help her to get aroused with manual and oral stimulation. For many women oral sex is the ultimate way to get aroused, so get into the act before the real action. Here are some best sex positions if you’re trying to get pregnant.

Have little pep-talks: Most men are averse to conversation, but you don’t need to have deep meaningful conversations; just talk or whisper in each other’s ears. That sleepy heavy voice that emanates during such moments is what makes the act a lot more sensual and intimate, both for you and your woman.  Also know exactly how women can fake an orgasm.

If you don’t have the staying power to keep going with penetrative sex, one answer lies in becoming amazing at oral sex. And you can also spend lots more time on foreplay and focus on finding the best position and movement for your partner so that you can bring that time down.

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There is also a place inside the vagina, which can be stimulated to give an orgasm. This point is named the g-point. It is, however, difficult to find this point and stimulate it in the right way. Women who succeed in getting orgasm this way usually use the intercourse position with the woman on top of the man. The reason for this is that this position gives the woman the largest options to control the movements so as to stimulate the g-point.

It seems as though the plateau of ‘basic arousal’ and the peak of orgasm are not all that far apart for many women. The trigger moment that tips a woman over from excited into orgasmic is not really that far beyond all the other sensations. This might be different from the way men sometimes experience arousal, because it’s not the same model of having a lot of tension building to major release. I realize I’m oversimplifying and making generalizations, but bear with me.

What is the connection between tensing muscle groups and having an orgasm? Arousal. Contracting (or tensing) certain muscles increases blood flow throughout the body and often to the genital area. And arousal, of course, is the road map that helps lead most women to orgasm.

Gently start to use your mouth on his penis or her vagina. Remember that oral sex is all about using both your tongue and your lips. If you are willing to explore the idea of the expansive nature of oral pleasure, then dive in with all parts of your mouth!

Wow. I’ve got news for you fella, I don’t know what planet you’re from, but on Earth anyone born with a vagina IS in FACT a girl/woman. Anyone who would tell you otherwise apparently failed Junior High School biology class or they value pseudo “political- correctness” over cold, hard facts. Also, “shutting down entire avenues of self-identity” isn’t damaging anyone any more than they’ve already been damaged by being born freaks who don’t even know whether or not they are male or female! And aside from that, nobody gives a shit whether or not sex workers are being sexually fulfilled through cunnilingus or anything else. And in case you were unaware, prostitution is stigmatized because it’s not only illegitimate but also illegal in most countries on Earth. God didn’t give us the gift of lovemaking so we could sell our asses on a street corner or to the highest bidder, but so that a man and women can express their love for each other. Also I doubt if you’re really that busy if you had enough time to write all that nonsense.

There are two issues here. The first is neck ache, which can be handled by switching position. Having her sit on a couch or the side of the bed with you between her legs can work. Alternatively, try putting a pillow under her butt to raise the area slightly.

The difference between people who are good in bed and people who are not isn’t that the people who are good in bed have learned all the techniques or discovered the secret. The people who are good in bed know that everyone is different, so the way you please a person is to listen to that person, talk about that person’s turn-ons and fantasies, and above all else, pay attention to the way that person’s body responds.

I’m not necessarily suggesting that. I think it feels more wholesome to share sex with someone you love, and I think it can be kind of damaging to have sexual encounters void of intimacy, especially at a young age where you are impressionable. I think it can mess with your expectations of relationships, making them unrealistic or your beliefs about the opposite sex (or sex you’re attracted to) a little skewed…..

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Make sure you know the tricks to arouse her naturally. By using your index finger stimulate her clitoris. The movements should be gentle and in circular motions. Be receptive to feedback and be attuned to both her verbal and non-verbal cues. Her little moans and inviting body language will tell you that you are on the right track. Once you have stimulated the clitoris move to the G-spot. It is believed that this spot, located atop the vaginal cavity, gives a woman the greatest amount of pleasure. Once she is aroused, getting into the act would be more fun, intimate and satisfying for both of you. Also read about the six fun facts that you need to know about the vagina.                                  

For some women, orgasm during intercourse is nearly impossible, and is very easy for sex to become some sort of contest between them and their partners to “make it happen.” Don’t try too hard. Don’t try every time. Don’t concentrate too much on the physical, or strictly on technique.

We love variety and the element of surprise. Men tend to think of sex as penetration, with foreplay consisting of undressing, a bit of kissing, perhaps some obligatory oral sex or massage of the nipples and breasts. But many women wish men paid more attention to quality foreplay.

Let’s face it: it’s incredibly sexy to observe someone else experiencing sexual pleasure. But to get the most enjoyment from offering a oral sex to another person, one needs to be exceptionally mindful and present during the act. Whether or not we admit it, if you are giving your partner oral pleasure simply as a means to an end, then you probably won’t enjoy it as much.

When you’re with a partner and you feel like the big O just isn’t going to happen, don’t resort to faking it. First of all, if he finds out, he’ll be really hurt. Second of all, that’s not going to help you in the future – if a guy thinks he’s doing the right thing (but he’s actually not), he’s just going to do it again. Instead, instruct him on what to do. Believe it or not, guys love the advice.

of course there are such things as G-spots, vaginal orgasms and multiple-orgasms (the kind where you shake all over and can’t walk for an hour). I’ve experienced all of them plenty of times, and there is not one time during sex without us experiencing orgasms. The secret is just to make your husband/boyfriend penetrate you deeply and keep his penis as close to your ‘front’ wall as possible, the G-spot is assumed to be near your front wall. Both of you have to be really wet, so don’t skip arousals and romantic turn-ons! I recommend gentle cullingus and even oral breast-stimulation (on the nipple, it’s AWWESOME) before ‘soft’ sex, and finally deep, breath-taking penetration. You have to try to ‘massage’ her front wall and clit with your penis first, before hard fast sex. My favorite positions are cowgirl (grrrr!), missionary with the man standing high or kneeling, the lotus (you can kiss and touch during sex), and cowboy! It’s important for your partner or yourself (whoever is on top) to try standing as high (and reach forward) as possible, it’s unbelievably orgasm-inducing. And remember to maintain eye contact, kiss and caress your partner, it’s called lovemaking after all! Believe me, guys, there’s nothing like vaginal orgasms!

#5 Under the hood. Give a few more slow licks from above the perineum to just under the clitoris. Finally, give another lick, but don’t stop at the top – keep it going up and it will lightly graze her clitoris. Do this six times, then again but on the seventh, pull your tongue back before it reaches the clitoris.

Interestingly enough, there was also a gap in the perception of orgasms. 85% of men said that their female partner had orgasmed – a significantly higher number than the percentage of women who confirmed that they actually had.

Remember, if you are generally satisfied with your sexual activity, there is no need to be dismayed by your lack of vaginal sensation or feel pressured to feel pleasure or orgasm during intercourse. Instead, if you wish, you can view and use sex play as an opportunity for you and your partner to experiment with and learn from your bodies. Either way, it is important to verbally let your partner know what turns you on the most. And remember, it may take time to learn exactly what that is.  

Kiss, show love, touch, caress, massage, look in her eyes and melt. Start when she’s dressed. Undress her slowly, lovingly, kiss her breasts and feel that it’s the most amazing thing you’ve ever done. It should be. If it’s not, she’ll know.

Orgasms are not all about foreplay. A recent study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that the consistency of orgasms is more about the length ofintercourse than the length of foreplay. And another study in the same journal clocked her average climax seven minutes after penetration. That makes now the ideal timeto climb politely aboard and start the final leg of her leg trembler.

By now, your girl should be clawing at the sheets, but don’t be mistaken in thinking you need one final trick to clinch the result. “Women hate too much chopping and changing of techniques,” says Dr Joni Frater, co-author of Love Her Right (Booksurge). “It distracts us, and takes our arousal back to the starting blocks.” You don’t really want to start over just before you reach the finish, do you?

Touch on the right side of a woman’s spine makes her melt more so than the left side, perhaps because the left side of the brain controls her right side and it’s the logical side that can talk her into anything. Whether you’re kissing her there, stroking her or gently teasing her with a tickler, just make sure your moves are curvy. You’ll cover more mileage, not to mention get better mileage out of your touch, since it’s significantly more intense than a straight touch.    

If I don’t orgasm within a few minutes, my fiance gets soft and falls asleep. He has implied that it’s too hard to do and takes too long. He loses “steam”. He has a window of opportunity to have sex or he loses interest and his erection. Pressure much? yes. I am a very affectionate and passionate woman and I’m attractive. He says I need more hair down there (no, I don’t shave the main stuff, just what creeps onto the legs). He also says I don’t have a smell…I’m “too clean”. I shower once a day and refuse to let my hygeine go. No fishy smells for me.

When I met my wife, she was 27 and never had an orgasm. After a year and lots of experimentation, we found the solution for her was oral, with her on top bearing down hard for 5-10 minutes. After 20 years it’s still the only thing that works.

Let’s get this out of the way right off the bat: Health problems can get in the way of an orgasm. So, if something more than your sex life feels off, you should visit a doctor. In absence of a medical problem, however, a woman’s orgasms, or the lack of them, go way beyond what’s going on with her body. That means the main secret to a woman’s orgasms is that they’re as individual as the woman herself. Learning to bring yourself or your female partner to a climax, therefore, can be a learning process, where’s there’s always room for improvement. Here are three common things that can boost a woman’s orgasmic potential – and that couples tend to overlook. 

You can increase the oral intensity once in a while by flexing your tongue and leaning into her while you lick. When you’re doing this in the heat of the moment, you can try pushing into her clit with a firm tongue and shaking your head vigorously from side to side, kind of like a paint shaker. Doing this for too long can rattle your brain a little bit, but it’s often very effective in short bursts.

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This one is particularly important for a few of reasons: (1) it has to do with giving a woman oral sex, (2) the advice comes directly from a female, and (3) that expert is an award-winner in her field named Dr. Jess O’Reilly, who dispensed this advice in a recent Reddit AMA.

According to sexologists at the Masters & Johnson Institute, cunnilingus is the most reliable route to orgasm for 80% of women. Lou Paget, author of The Big O (Piatkus), recommends the Kivin Method as the fastest way of getting there. “With one hand, pull up her clitoral hood,” he says. “Then lick from side to side across its base, just above her clitoris.” Place one finger of the other handon her perineum (the area directly below the opening of her vagina). When you can feel her pre-orgasmic contractions, you’ll know you’re in the right place.

After this first lesson, I send my clients away with a homework assignment. During sex, they are to tense up their muscles and let their minds go silent. This technique takes practice, but it can work over time. And more often than not, my clients return to a future session with their own good news to report.

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Allow her to the lead: If you really want her to get more epic orgasms, then don’t call all the shots. Allow her to take the lead as well and control the rhythm of things. Give her a chance when you have aroused her enough to get into the act. This will really help her be her best in bed and you should find the experience to be a lot more satisfying than you could possibly imagine.

This might sound weird, but I love the feeling of my spouse’s beard on my vaginal opening while he’s going to town on my clit. He’ll even press his chin hard against it because he knows it drives me wild. It just feels sooooooo good to me.

Chances are, you’re well versed on all things clitoris-related and know both light touching and applying more pressure to this sensitive spot can result in orgasm. But Dr. Carlen reminds us to encourage our partners to explore the entire vagina — including the labia and vulva, which has the second-most nerve endings after the clitoris and the U-spot, the area on and around the urethra.

What you should do on your way down, however, is gently kiss her chest, stomach, and inner thighs—throw in some light nibbles, too. Do this until you reach the final point of destination, and then slowly and softly dig in with your tongue. Also, the slower the better – the wait will kill her with anticipation.

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Don’t underestimate the power of relieving her mind of household concerns as a way to help her relax into the right frame of mind. As one writer pointed out, vacuuming, cleaning the sink, etc. will enable her to focus on you more.

This is all good news for you. Because if you put even a little bit of effort into sorting out your approach and technique, you’ll set yourself miles ahead of the pack. When you’re through, she’ll be blissed out, panting and doe-eyed, looking at you like you’re an absolute rock star.

Instead, Mindvalley Academy’s intimacy coach and author of Tantra Touch, Psalm Isadora, has eight simple steps to help women embrace their bodies and reach the blissful state of orgasm — potentially multiple times.

– The G-spot. The G-spot is a spongy part of the vagina located on the anterior part of the vagina or the upper part if the woman is lying down. If stimulated properly, it provides the most mind-blowing of all orgasms. However there is no uniform way to stimulate this, and it can vary per person. [Read: How to tingle her G-spot without using a flashlight]

#4 Still not time for the clitoris. Yes, there’s still work to be done before you get there. If you think of the lips as forming a long, vertical ellipse, the inside of this is what you should focus on next. As a reference, just above this ellipse, tucked into its hood is the clitoris. Just below it is the perineum, or what people often call the “taint” – that in-between-area that ain’t pussy and ain’t ass.

Tie a blindfold to each other’s eyes and embark on a glorious exploration! The lack of your visual senses will make your touch even more sensuous because you have no idea which pleasure spot you will hit next! The blind fishing expedition is bound to thrill her to no end!

My recommendation is to get some good massage oil (safe for the privates) and give her a sensual massage. Start at the shoulders, work your way down the sides of her body, her tummy, to her feet and then back up to her vulva. Go slowly and make it sexy. This will turn her on and it shows you care for her. Turn her on a lot with slow sensual touch, don’t let her cum, and then have intercourse when you are both ready. Again, let the sensation build, don’t try to get her off until your into the intercourse. This should strike an orgasm during intercourse or at the very least it will be highly enjoyable for you both!

But even if you are the queen of masturbatory techniques, you might still find it tough to climax during full sex, and this will almost certainly be because your clitoris is not getting sufficient attention.

Generally speaking, touching or pressing the clitoris, directly or indirectly, during intercourse will increase a woman’s potential to orgasm. Otherwise, it’s like trying to get somewhere in an elevator without pressing the button. Here are a few tips to help you and your partner have a more pleasurable, intense sexual experience:

Third, “oral sex” is problematic at best. What “sex” consists of is a complicated, difficult topic, and to presume that the activities described in the article constitute sex is to denigrate people who may choose to engage in these activities precisely because they do not see them as sex, perhaps because their religion forbids sex outside of marriage or something like this. If we just run around willy nilly calling things sex without engaging in constructive dialog about what is and isn’t sex, we pigeonhole people into viewing their activities in ways that may not be compatible with what they would prefer to believe if we had a more open, inclusive society.

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Swallow – You know what I’m talking about! If you’re doing it right, it will be inevitable that she will urinate in your mouth. Don’t be afraid. Encourage her. And when she does, give her the same courtesy you’d expect and swallow every drop.

Today I’m going to give you a series of basic techniques designed to give your beloved woman the very best in erotic, physical pleasure. In my experience, the clitoris is the most consistent source of orgasm for the majority of women. There are other ways to bring a woman to orgasm, of course, but this is where I encourage you to start.

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For some women, orgasm during intercourse is nearly impossible, and it is very easy for sex to become some sort of contest between them and their partners to “make it happen.” Don’t try too hard. Don’t try every time. Don’t concentrate too much on the physical, or strictly on technique.

This is all great advice but I’m just here to say that none of this will work if you don’t know what she likes. Pay attention to how she masturbates. For example, I will never get off if you go in up and down motions. It HAS to be side to side. And for some reason even after I repeatedly tell my partners what I need and physically move their heads while their down there they can’t fucking get it right. Even after years in relationships. I have only had two orgasms from oral in 10 years of sexual experience and a lot of partners. Because no one listens to me. Just listen to me for the love of God!!!!

It just really seems like it’s more about his pleasure than mine. His body..not mine. Emphasis seems to be on his erection. No foreplay, not much touching on his part, though i know every bump and hair on his body. I have to initiate, kiss, touch..etc. He is receptive, but only touches me long enough to see if I’m lubed enough to insert. Then, it’s magic and stars for him. I enjoy it, but would really like to have satisfaction too. Yes, I’ve talked with him about it. I’ve introduced toys, sexual instructional videos, books, ambiance, music, lingerie, suppliments, viagra, etc. He has reached complacency and is done wooing. He blames it on being old…he’s 46. I’m 43. He finally has the woman he’s wanted and the relationship he dreamed of for so long but doesn’t want to take the time to please me? Falls asleep while I’m working the toy to get some kind of satisfaction? Really doesn’t want any part in bringing me to orgasm unless it happens quickly? Yes, I give PLENTY of feedback when he is “working” on me. Now that I know it it “work” to him, it makes me even more paranoid. I have already faked it many times to boost his moral and keep it from fizzling. When I really want to acheive an orgasm, I end up having sex with myself while he snores. Very frustrated….talking about it only yields more excuses. I’m feeling the need to back off of the affection I show and rethink my adoration for him. I love him deeply and I know he love me, but this is a real issue.

There is also a place inside the vagina, which can be stimulated to give an orgasm. This point is named the g-point. It is, however, difficult to find this point and stimulate it in the right way. Women who succeed in getting orgasm this way usually use the intercourse position with the woman on top of the man. The reason for this is that this position gives the woman the largest options to control the movements so as to stimulate the g-point.

All of these contractions are accompanied by a great sensation of pleasure and, in some women, the emission of a small amount of fluid from the vagina – a sort of female ejaculation, a process captured on video many times, and is a real phenomenon.

Tie a blindfold to each other’s eyes and embark on a glorious exploration! The lack of your senses will make your touch even more sensuous because you have no idea which pleasure spot you will hit next! The blind fishing expedition is bound to thrill her to no end!

SO… send her texts telling her specifically what you’d like to do to her, throughout the day… build the anticipation. Talk dirty during foreplay, and during sex… when her mind is into it, and she lets loose, then orgasm will occur quicker.

Women can enjoy sex even if they do not get an orgasm. They enjoy the nearness and intimacy, the fondling and the feeling of love and desire. A request from the man that she must have an orgasm can be a problem for the woman. In spite of this, you should try to learn to satisfy her. I know of women who have left their boyfriends when they have met a man who knows the right way.

(5) Break out of routines. Ever notice how sex feels more arousing in hotels? That’s because hotel sex is non-routine. Biochemically, the brain chemical (neurotransmitter) dopamine governs libido. As dopamine rises, so does arousal and likelihood of orgasm. What raises dopamine? Novelty. So try something different—anything. Make love in a new location, in a different way, at a different time, or with a different ambiance, for example, candle light, music, and sex toys. Beforehand, try bathing or showering together, or treat yourselves to professional massages.

However other STIs such as herpes, gonorrhoea and syphilis can still be passed on through oral sex. And some infections caused by bacteria or viruses can be passed on through oral–anal sex, such as hepatitis A or E.coli.

– The vaginal canal. This tube of muscle is designed to accommodate a penis and allow the passage of a fetus during birth making it very sensitive to insertion pressure. Human fingers on the other hand, have lesser volume compared to a penis but being moveable makes for various stimulation possibilities.

Some guys will jump head first off the high dive into her lap and start lapping her up like their lives depended on it. There’s a time and a place for that, but her experience will be way more pleasurable if you start out very, very slow.

Furthermore, your suggested title also includes “giving,” which takes for granted that this isn’t going to be a commercial transaction. Sex workers already carry a horrendous stigma, having been marginalized morally and legally because of their choice of profession, and to describe sex as “giving” when it could just as easily entail purchasing is to brand paid-for sex as illegitimate or somehow not what we should care about when we’re discussing sex. That’s no good.

Speaking of conversations, let’s get to the difficult topic of communication during oral sex. So often people struggle to communicate about sex, particularly during sex. But how else will you know if your partner is happy with what is happening? So, in the same way you asked permission initially, now ask your partner if they are enjoying things. You can also ask if they might prefer something different, or if there is any discomfort. Don’t be afraid to gauge your partners pleasure by asking, asking, asking. Most people are very happy to engage with a lover who is so attentive and considerate.

That said, the tip of the clitoris is definitely a magic sweet spot. It’s slightly cloaked by a protective hood, so when you’re ready to really turn it up (generally at least 5-10 minutes into it), you’ll want to pull that back. There are two most comfortable ways to do this:

Sexuality authorities also encourage couples to let go of the idea that women “should” have orgasms during intercourse. They encourage men to help women to orgasm using their fingers, hand, tongue, or a vibrator or other sex toys.

Not surprisingly, women report that the most orgasm-inducing muscle contractions are in their lower pelvis. These are the same muscles you squeeze to stop the flow of urine midstream (a conscious contraction of this group is called a Kegel exercise).

When you think she’s ready to be pleasured by your tongue, hold off a bit longer still, then start off slowly. If you’ve just got home from a night out or she’s walked in from work, keep her half- or even fully dressed. There’s something exquisite about receiving oral sex in your best clothes – it seems like you shouldn’t be doing it, which only adds to the excitement. Push her skirt up and keep her legs closed. Hopefully she’s wearing skimpy knickers, so pull them to one side and slide your tongue over her clit and between her lips. Keep her thighs closed with your elbows. She’ll try to open them to give you better access – don’t let her. It will drive her wild – all she wants to do is fully expose herself to you and you’re stopping her. Apply some pressure with your tongue and use steady, flat, up-and-down strokes, but only two or three times.

Please help me, i have a friend who has been married for four months now and all the while her and her husband makes love, she doesn’t get to her orgasm. What should she do? Please help as it is tearing her hubby apart.

Also, I find that if I’m having difficulty getting off, visualization helps…fantasies, that sort of thing. If that’s something she’d be comfortable doing, she could try that. (Like maybe reading something mildly erotic before she tries masturbating?)

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Make sure your fingers are wet, and then, start by going down the side of the clitoris all the way into her vagina and then back out again. This common maneuver of the tongue can also work with fingers, as long as you keep the pressure light and the area very wet.

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Also there is Yogasm, where you girl can reach orgasm without touching her clitoris or stimulating. There is video of girl getting orgasm without touching herself on http://www.fapon.me (care its NSFW)

You said she feels like she has to pee? Good! That means you’re hitting the right spot. You just have to keep it up. Make sure she knows that this sensation is perfectly normal, and that she needs to relaxy down there, instead of tighten up – I know I get too tense to vaginally orgasm!

I’m glad you found the article uesful! It’s a very common thing for guys to last much longer with a condom on. You could try a desensitizing spray without the condom, if physical sensitivity is the main issue. I’d also suggest looking around this site for help. There are lots of articles with information about improving your sexual stamina.

And over the last 10 years or so, I’ve made somewhere between 20 and 30 women have multiple orgasms in just a few minutes… (I’m not a male gigolo; just a very horny man in Miami, a city with plenty of “resources” in the female department).

An alternative technique is sensory overload. “Simultaneous G-spot and clitoral stimulation is far and away the fastest route to orgasm,” says Hall. Having her from behind is the best position for this because while you work the former, you can call up sex-toy reinforcements to take care of the latter. “My recommendation would be one from the discreet but powerful Philips Sensual range.”

Stare with fiery intention into her eyes while you keep your hand going. If you’re comfortable doing so, talk dirty to her. Ask her in a whisper if she wants anything to change. That gives her permission to communicate in the heat of the moment. Keep your technique steady. If it feels incredible to her, don’t change anything even if she says she’s going to come.

Some men won’t even give it at all, but even of those who do, it is often a quick formality before sex. This is the wrong way to approach going down on her. Get in there, get comfortable, and enjoy it.

What people get off on sexually can vary as much as love songs on the radio. While some women may prefer to perform oral sex on the ladies they love, there are likely as many who prefer to receive it. And while one can’t claim to know for sure why people get off on the things they do, here are some reasons a woman might prefer to giving over receiving:

I was able to oragsum with my partner for 9 months and haven’t been able to in the last three. It’s something we will work through because we love each other. I understand how you feel in how’s your fault but it’s not. Iv cried many times thinking it was my fault. But it’s not, if you continue to think it’s your burden you will never get past your mental hurtle. Don’t let these guys blame you or make you feel worse, iv been in relationships like that and it’s no fun. The female oragsum can be really enjoyable if with the right person.. It doesn’t always have to hurt.

Extra tip: finger her upper wall with two fingers, with a “come here” motion, at the same time as performing oral… this will put pressure on her g-spot, which in reality, is the internal part of the clitoral cluster.

Instead of treating your partner like a machine whose job it is to give you an orgasm, heed the advice of Dr. Carlen Costa, a sexologist and relationship expert from Canada, and change your attitude first. “You’re supposed to own your orgasm,” Dr. Carlen says.

Also when you or she feels like she is about to “pee” or you want to make sure she is not faking it just move your fingers back about an 1/2 inch to an inch and you should feel it start to sort of balloon up i guess you could say and then just carefuly press on it and almost flaten it out and she will cum hope this helps!

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If you’re a woman who finds climaxing easy and can have orgasms during intercourse with little effort – even in a position where it’s difficult for your partner to access the clitoris with the fingertips – then you are very lucky indeed!

thanks to the ladies who’ve already said nix to the “vibrators are bad for women” comment, and seconded/thirded/whatever. especially the bit about how the more women have orgasms, the more able they are to have more in the future. for me anyway, and most of my female friends, it’s like a burner. you can keep it completely switched off as often as you like, and when it’s off, you don’t even think about it. but once you do light it, you can just go and go and go, varying intensity, whatever. you have to light it though first. otherwise it’s totally shut.

Many women experience frustration from their inability to feel sensation or sexual pleasure from vaginal-penile intercourse. It is common for women to feel closeness, and fullness, but not the intensity they believe that they “should” be feeling. With a little bit of learning and exploration, you can find ways to enjoy various types of pleasure, intimacy, and even ecstasy.