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The deeper vaginal orgasms are all about a very deep state of release and letting go. Feeling like you’re on the same wavelength as your partner can help. “Maintaining eye contact with him is intense, but this forces you to be more vulnerable and open, which is key to these deeper orgasmic experiences,” Anami explains.

So in the first paragraph, you state that regardless of position, only about 25% of women can orgasm during intercourse. The rest of your article blithely ignores that and suggests helpful positions. Really? Yet more helpful advice from a dude about how to make their women orgasm with “real” It makes me so thankful that I’m a lesbian.

if u have normal hands (man) second finger nucle in and pull up do the come here motion with your finger but it has to be quite fast and hard(please cut nails and use some sort of moistriser couple of days before hand so your hands are very smooth then use alot of lubracunt as it may take up to 30 mins if any longer please admit defet and try a few days later as you could make her sore. so while using the come here motion u will fell a pea size ball only 2 inches in place you other hand on the mound and push down u could even give oral while doing this please have alot of for play as well before hand when she gets the feeling to pee tell her not to tense up tell her to relax down there and just go for it she will have what u want and what she wants a brilliant orgasam please dont go loopy if it is pee she lets out or u will never get to try it again and u both loose out enjoy the golden shower if this happends please try and then let me know if it works

Women can struggle to reach orgasm if they aren’t feeling confident about their bodies or the relationship. In fact, women who are confident that they’ll orgasm are more likely to try a change of tactics if something isn’t working for them. A less confident woman may simply give up without getting her prize.

Whatever doctor told her she can’t have orgasms is full of shit. Barring any medical conditions, there’s absolutely no reason it would be impossible. For you, though, what you can do is provide sensuous, fun, warm, pressure-free, comfortable sex that is obsessively not goal-oriented. There is nothing unsexier than trying wayyy too hard to give her an orgasm; that experience swiftly becomes all about worrying that you’re disappointing your partner, or feeling guilty that he’s working so hard and nothing’s happening. Worry and guilt are unsexy emotions. So just enjoy each other, keep it light, keep exploring. It’ll happen.

And don’t worry, if it’s way too intense, she’ll stop you. Again, listening and paying attention to her response throughout is key. But as a rule of thumb: it’s better to lean slightly over the edge of too much stimulation into the land of potentially-another-orgasm than it is to delicately handle her like a fragile soufflé and give her an underwhelming/frustrating almost-orgasm.

We already know that variety is the spice of life, and this couldn’t ring truer than when it comes to oral sex. In other words, always keep her guessing, and she’s likely to do you the same favor in return. “Different strokes may work better on different days. If you find something she likes, come back to it repeatedly, with pauses in between,” Janet Lieberman, CTO at Dame Products, says, “Much like the trick of making a pool feel warmer by getting out and getting back in, taking a quick break and coming back to it provides a boost in intensity. It also helps you avoid overstimulating a specific cluster of nerves.”

There has been a lot of new research on orgasm the past few years about the female orgasm, says Garcia. “We now understand that orgasm is a both a biological and psychosocial experience.  Studies have shown that psychological state, including whether someone is distracted or if they feel ashamed about engaging in sex in the first place (e.g., the sexual double standard), might limit the ability to experience orgasm,” says Garcia.

In one study, researchers worked with 36 women who could not have orgasms in the missionary position. Half the women were encouraged to masturbate to become more comfortable with their genitals and their sexual responsiveness, a standard approach in sex therapy. The others were taught the CAT. Based on diaries kept during the 21-day period after this training, the masturbation group reported a 27 percent increase in orgasms during missionary-position intercourse, while the CAT group reported twice the increase, 56 percent.

OMGYES is a website that wants to help anyone who cares to make sex more pleasurable for women. They’ve conducted tons of research and put together interactive how-to simulations to help make you a better lover.

By now, your girl should be clawing at the sheets, but don’t be mistaken in thinking you need one final trick to clinch the result. “Women hate too much chopping and changing of techniques,” says Dr Joni Frater, co-author of Love Her Right (Booksurge). “It distracts us, and takes our arousal back to the starting blocks.” You don’t really want to start over just before you reach the finish, do you?

In answer to your question, maybe just try everything she finds good and try and get past that plateau a little bit further every time. And keep it fun, the whole orgasm thing, sex tricks aside, really is a head thing. No pun intended.

However, there are times when your woman will feel that she’s in the perfect position to get there, and that you’re doing things just right. You need to recognize when this happens, or ask her to tell you. You then need to not change what you’re doing and continue doing exactly the same thing for her.

Touch on the right side of a woman’s spine makes her melt more so than the left side, perhaps because the left side of the brain controls her right side and it’s the logical side that can talk her into anything. Whether you’re kissing her there, stroking her or gently teasing her with a tickler, just make sure your moves are curvy. You’ll cover more mileage, not to mention get better mileage out of your touch, since it’s significantly more intense than a straight touch.    

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Give your girl this style of multiples and you’ll notice they start happening much quicker. You can actually get to the point where one orgasm starts before the last is completely done. They start blending together and seem like one giant, never ending orgasm.

Create a romantic atmosphere: Remember stress and sex don’t go well together. So if you are planning a sizzling act for the bedroom, it’s imperative that you set the right mood for her. Gauge her emotions before you ask or initiate a lovemaking session. Is she in the mood for it or is she too stressed or tired? Knowing her mood is the key to start the night right. If you are oblivious to the emotions of your partner, then it’s foolish to expect an exciting climax from her, forget multiple orgasms.

When you go back to using your tongue, add a finger or two to stroke her G-spot on the first few inches of the upper inside wall of her pussy. Try matching pace and pressure with your fingers and tongue and then contrasting slow, firm strokes with your fingers and rapid flicks of the tongue.

First you’ve got to turn up the sexual tension by relying on the “anticipation of orgasm” technique (as explained in the article on foreplay). Once her underwear is off, the action can start moving faster: it’s time to show her that you know how to take care of her needs!

There are two issues here. The first is neck ache, which can be handled by switching position. Having her sit on a couch or the side of the bed with you between her legs can work. Alternatively, try putting a pillow under her butt to raise the area slightly.

Place your left hand on top of her pubic bone (at her lower belly) and apply pressure in a circular motion to a point directly above the one you’re already caressing internally (if this isn’t clear yet, keep reading and it will make sense). You should be stimulating the same spot from two directions (on the outside with the left hand and from the inside with the right hand, if you’re following me exactly!) You are now in the process of stimulating three of your partner’s most sensitive spots!

All this time, her legs should still remain together – keep them bound with yours. When you think she’s really getting fired up, separate them with a knee and slide it up to meet her pussy. Let her rub against it for a second and after leaving her nipples rock hard with a few parting, feather-light licks, you can go back down south. Free her legs and let her ride your face to ecstasy – this time, you should be down there a mere minute or two. Quickly get into a rhythm and find out what sensations she prefers – when I’m close, I just adore having my clit firmly sucked, but not too hard.

Let’s get this out of the way right off the bat: Health problems can get in the way of an orgasm. So, if something more than your sex life feels off, you should visit a doctor. In absence of a medical problem, however, a woman’s orgasms, or the lack of them, go way beyond what’s going on with her body. That means the main secret to a woman’s orgasms is that they’re as individual as the woman herself. Learning to bring yourself or your female partner to a climax, therefore, can be a learning process, where’s there’s always room for improvement. Here are three common things that can boost a woman’s orgasmic potential – and that couples tend to overlook. 

(1) Don’t expect her to have orgasms during intercourse. On TV and in movies and pornography, women always seem to have orgasms during intercourse. That’s much more fantasy than reality. In real sex, only about one-quarter of women are consistently orgasmic during intercourse. The old in-and-out can be great fun, but it brings only a minority of women to orgasm. Three-quarters of women need direct stimulation of the clitoris.

And the number one way she suggests increasing your sexual confidence and taking control over your orgasms is by partaking in a naughty bit of adult show-and-tell and masturbating in front of one another. Whether you choose to discuss in advance the fact that you’re about to give your partner the thrill of their life or surprise them by letting them come home and “catch” you rubbing yourself on the Jennifer Convertible sofa, is entirely up to you. And though you may be tempted to let them jump in and finish the job, Dr. Carlen suggests restraining your passions and enforcing a no touching rule for as long as possible — which will only make things hotter.

Lines like “it doesn’t mean we’ve had real sex – you’ll still be a virgin”, or “if you don’t want sex then you should at least go down on me”, or “it’s not as risky as having intercourse”, all suggest pressure and coercion. Remember that oral sex should be fun for both of you. If one person is doing it because they feel pressured, it can sour the whole experience.

Ok this is comin from my personal experience…I persoanlly love foreplay before sex wether it be by fingers or my vibrator I usually always use my vibrator before sex and sometimes during….I too have finally experienced a g-spot orgasim many times now and the easiest way we have found that I produced one at first was with a dildo, goin in and out almost at an upward angle toward the g-spot area and not too deep tho the g-spot is not that far in…Now I am able to produce one with my husband as well inside me both him on top and myself on top as well….I recomend experimenting if the two of you are comfortable with each other I would try it out….You can do a search on g-spot and it will give you some info almost a walkthrough on maybe gettin there and how to go about it…..Or even buy a penis ring with a vibrator on it so while you are having sex she will have clitoral stimulation as well……..I persoanlly dont think there is nothing wrong with makin a girl cum before sex I think it makes the joy of sex much better!!! But I do think you need to tell her to experiment with her self as well its hard for you as a man to know what to do to her if she herself really does not know what she likes!!!! Good luck

Smell is the strongest of the five senses when it comes to sexual functioning for two reasons: First, since anything musky mimics testosterone, it’ll kick her libido into high gear. Baby powder can have a similar effect by activating her “scent print,” which links babies to procreation. Second, because smell, sex and memory centers share close quarters in the brain, the scent of arousal leaves the most lasting impression. The second she gets a whiff of your musky cologne, she’ll be transported back to the last time she smelled it on your body.

Your girlfriend probably does not want to go to a gynecologist, because she feels that this is not the problem. One treatment for a dry vagina is lubricating gel. Do not tell her that she is lazy; instead try to understand her wishes and needs. Respect her, if she does not want to go to a gynecologist. To criticize her will kill all desire and she may resent this for a long time.

It’s always good to try new things. I think that getting into a bit of S&M can be a lot of fun. And you’re right in that talking openly and having safe words etc is critical to ensuring you both feel safe to explore that side of your sexuality and enjoy it to the max.

Men’s reasons for loving a little tongue action are manifold, but they mostly stem from the same fundamental (and not totally shocking) truth: Women like being eaten out, making that in itself a worthwhile pursuit. For many especially enthusiastic men, though, cunnilingus is about way more. 

I was sort of a late-bloomer to the whole O And at first, I wasn’t even very good at getting myself off (like the plateau thing your GF describes). But it’s like riding a bicycle (horrible metaphor, yes). Once you know how, you just can.

The sure-fire option is to address her clitoris: by changing your thrusting motion so your pelvis grinds into her, or by slowing down (crucial, this) such that you can accurately use your thumb. (This same attention to detail goes for nipple pinching, spanking, or a wet finger pressing up against her behind. Flailing attempts are beneath you – do it well or not at all.)

With some girls, the best way is to go down on them. This could still mean different things. You may need to go fast or slow or both or a little or a lot. You may need to start away from the clit or right on the clit. You may need to use your finger, or two fingers, right away or only after five minutes. You know what to do if you watch her, listen, notice what makes her gasp. What makes her squirm or pull away. Pay attention.

Do not pretend to f*** her with your tongue when you’re going down on her. Look at your tongue and then look at your penis. Do they look like they could be good substitutes for each other? Probably not. It’s fine if you want to explore the opening a little during oral, but try to avoid straight up tongue f****ng – I’ve never met a woman who enjoyed that!

Sexuality authorities also encourage couples to let go of the idea that women “should” have orgasms during intercourse. They encourage men to help women to orgasm using their fingers, hand, tongue, or a vibrator or other sex toys.

For most men, sex ends with an orgasm. This is very important for most men. And after the orgasm, most men are satisfied and not willing to participate in active sex any more for some time. All this is different for women.

Every pussy is different. Let me repeat : EVERY PUSSY IS DIFFERENT. One style of tongue or the same place on the pussy or place on the clit is no guarantee that an orgasm will occur for every woman. Our pussies are not coke machines where you put in a quarter and an orgasm falls out. You need to explore confidently, enthusiastically, and pay attention to her requests, breathing, noises etc. Asking is good when you aren’t finding your way.

The Key to Better Sex. OK. So maybe female orgasm doesn’t have one big secret. But while movies and Internet pornography often make sex look easy, the reality is that it takes some practice to really get it right. Fortunately, that’s half the fun.

And don’t worry, if it’s way too intense, she’ll stop you. Again, listening and paying attention to her response throughout is key. But as a rule of thumb: it’s better to lean slightly over the edge of too much stimulation into the land of potentially-another-orgasm than it is to delicately handle her like a fragile soufflé and give her an underwhelming/frustrating almost-orgasm.

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I call it multiple edging orgasms. It’s a simple way of combining two of the best orgasm intensifying techniques you’ll ever use, into one sex life altering move that will leave her breathless and wondering which way is up.

Tease her and drive her crazy with anticipation – I like to kiss and lick my way to her pussy, gently breathe onto it, but then change course and work my way back up her leg. This can be done multiple times, as long as it’s funny. The best is when she can’t take it anymore and pulls your face between her legs.

With age comes maturity, and with maturity comes the knowledge that sex usually just isn’t as fun when only one partner gets off. One of the primary reasons men say they love giving oral sex is partly selfish: Making women feel good makes them feel good. 

Like most things in life, there’s more to the clitoris than meets the eye. It’s more like an iceberg than a button. The little pea-shaped bulb that pops out over top of the vaginal opening is actually just the tip of it. It’s actually more of a wishbone shape, with two shafts that run down either side between her opening and hip creases. Rhythmically massaging this area before or while using your tongue is a great way to stimulate blood flow and add to the fullness of sensation.

Lots of women like though not all of them find it easy to orgasm on their sides. But the great advantage here is that either partner can reach down and rub the clitoris. Also, neither of you is having to take the weight of the other.

The type of tension that helps women reach orgasm is muscle tension (myotonia). Many women have the mistaken impression that they should relax and “just lie there” because they’ve heard that relaxation during sex is important. But it turns out that muscle tension is often necessary for an orgasm. In my experience, the majority of women learn to have their first orgasm by incorporating a fair amount of leg, abdominal, and buttock tension.

Orgasms are a full-body experience that includes rhythmic muscle contractions in and around the vagina, faster heart rate and breathing, raised blood pressure, and other exciting stuff like goosebumps or flushed, rosy skin. In fact an orgasm activates almost every part of the brain, so it really can be mind-blowing! (Get some surprising facts about a woman’s body in 10 Things You Don’t Know About Vaginas.)

Aside from using your hands and tongue, there are some tricks you can use to make oral sex even more exciting. For example, using mentholated mints or mouthwash before performing oral sex can heighten the pleasure. When your breath is fresh and tingly from a strong mint, your partner will feel the tingling sensation along her vaginal lips and clitoris. You could also try using warming or cooling lubricants or scented massage oils to arouse your girl and amp up the excitement.

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“I think part of it is getting some vicarious pleasure through my partner. Knowing that it’s hot for them turns me on, and eventually just the act itself turns me on. I like to imagine what it must feel like.” — Alec*, 24

I am 34 and my wife is 31. We have been married for five years. Since marriage, we have never been sure whether she has had a real orgasm. I am noticing her interest in sex declining, and assume it is because she is not getting enough pleasure out of it. Please suggest how I can increase her sexual pleasure and provide her with an orgasm.

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Let’s face it: it’s incredibly sexy to observe someone else experiencing sexual pleasure. But to get the most enjoyment from offering a oral sex to another person, one needs to be exceptionally mindful and present during the act. Whether or not we admit it, if you are giving your partner oral pleasure simply as a means to an end, then you probably won’t enjoy it as much.

For better sex, the website www.massivestayingpower.com may be helpful if you need more information on how to reach orgasm during intercourse, which often depends on the man’s ability to engage in long lasting thrusting.

With age comes maturity, and with maturity comes the knowledge that sex usually just isn’t as fun when only one partner gets off. One of the primary reasons men say they love giving oral sex is partly selfish: Making women feel good makes them feel good. 

You’re doing it wrong. You don’t want them to give advice here in this website, you want to LISTEN to their body and their moans, how they move, how they breathe. If you can learn to listen to what the body is telling you, you know what you’re doing is right.

Giving good oral is a knack. Like any other skill, all you can do to develop it is practice and repetition. It takes some time to be able to tune into a woman and intuitively read her arousal blueprint. But I promise it’s not as hard and mysterious as everyone makes it out to be.

The clitoris is the little nub of tissue that sits outside the vagina and a few inches above it beneath the upper junction of the vaginal lips. Even vigorous prolonged intercourse seldom provides enough clitoral stimulation for orgasm. Most women really need clitoral caresses from a hand, tongue, or vibrator. Unless she specifically requests intense touch, caress her clitoris very gently. It contains as many touch-sensitive nerves as the head of the penis, but they’re packed into an organ only about one-tenth the size. As a result, even gentle caresses may feel too intense for many women. Discuss If she doesn’t enjoy direct clitoral touch, caress around her clitoris.

“I highly recommend all women have a high-quality lubricant,” Scalisi said. “Water-based lubes like Sliquid Organics are great for toys while silicone-based lubes like the one by Pjur are better for intercourse, oral sex and fingering. The amount of natural lubricant a woman produces is not indicative of her level of arousal as everything from stress to dehydration to medications can affect the body’s ability to get wet.”

– Start touching everything except the clit and vagina. Don’t go for the sweet spots immediately. Build anticipation and make her beg by teasing her external genitalia and deliberately missing the sweet spots.

Tease her and drive her crazy with anticipation – I like to kiss and lick my way to her pussy, gently breathe onto it, but then change course and work my way back up her leg. This can be done multiple times, as long as it’s funny. The best is when she can’t take it anymore and pulls your face between her legs.

#6 Keep communication open. Keeping communication open is a good way to monitor your “progress.” This can be done simply by asking her if she’s enjoying what you’re doing with your fingers. You could also include dirty talk by telling her how you like her response to your stimulation which turns her on further.

Men, do not underestimate the amount of razor stubble on your face and how this feels. If a man has not had a shave in over 8 hours, his razor stubble could approximate the grain of 120 grit sandpaper, which is pretty abrasive. Sometimes a little pressure from the chin or upper lip can feel nice, but not if you’re exfoliating the top layer of musocal tissue. If you think back to the ice-cream example, it may help you remember: while eating an ice-cream cone, you wouldn’t stick your chin in it. So if you have razor stubble, make sure it’s only lips and tongue are contacting the area.

Please bear in mind that – contrary to what many men think – sexual intercourse by itself is not likely to produce an orgasm. This is because intercourse alone is not very good at stimulating the woman’s clitoris.

Me and my girlfriend of 10 years always get more turned on by trying new things or holding, tying the partners arms & legs down or whatever resistance makes you hornier. Just remember if you talk about it before or during and dont be to rough & have a safe word so you’re not hurting the other partner. Just remember

Men, when trying to make a woman come, and familiar with the way in which they stimulate their own penis during masturbation, will often apply much more vigorous and rapid stimulation to a woman’s clitoris at this point.

Reaching orgasm is one of the peaks of sexual experience, but surprisingly, this can be challenging for a lot of women. Apparently, one-third of women have never had an orgasm — and even fewer have ever experienced multiple orgasms.

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You’ve gotta learn how to push her buttons… which is actually really easy when you know the techniques. There’s an awesome guide called Revolutionary Sex that shows you everything. Here’s the guide: Revolutionary Sex – Give Her The Best Orgasm of Her Life

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It is at this point that the G-spot changes in texture from rough to smooth, a change which some people believe is caused by swelling of part of the clitoris, causing it to lie more closely on top of the vaginal wall.

#4 Adopt a comfortable position. As mentioned, girls take some time to reach the “big O.” If you’re going for the scenic route of the fingering session, you might as well be in a comfortable position to be able to sustain the stimulation until she cums.

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Naturally, use fingertips and lips. If whole, moist smooches around the neck may get the juices in the vagina going – what do you think kissing her down there can make? Let’s go further. At the time you experience she’s completely ready, I would recommend to accelerate the pace and also to increase the tension. At this point feel free to be a little harder. Then simply consider using your hands just by slipping a pair of fingers in the woman’s vagina. Accomplish this little by little until your mouth accelerate. The fist should be palm-up and 2 fingers slightly curved (we’re aiming for the G spot right here, let’s wait and watch if it’s going to give good results). Slip the fingers in for an inch and after that get them out… repeat that a few times. Then move them a few inches… and so a few times. Once you sense it’s getting broader, then feel free to get further as well as rougher.

Appreciate her performance: Tell her, literally tell her how good she is and how she makes you go weak in your knees every time you see her. Complimenting her performance in bed will make her more interested and keen on sustaining the act with vigor and passion. 

There is greater variability in female sexual response, by far, than there is in my little library of technique and experience, and, as a man, I’m humbled by the complexity of it all. And I’m very glad and extremely grateful anytime I get invited to a ringside seat at the greatest show on earth…

Using a condom or dental dam (a thin, soft plastic that covers the vagina or anus) will protect you from most sexually transmitted infections. If you don’t have a dental dam you can also make an effective barrier by cutting a condom lengthways from bottom to top forming one piece of material that can be used like a dental dam.

Women can enjoy sex even if they do not get an orgasm. They enjoy the nearness and intimacy, the fondling and the feeling of love and desire. A request from the man that she must have an orgasm can be a problem for the woman. In spite of this, you should try to learn to satisfy her. I know of women who have left their boyfriends when they have met a man who knows the right way.

However, there are times when your woman will feel that she’s in the perfect position to get there, and that you’re doing things just right. You need to recognize when this happens, or ask her to tell you. You then need to not change what you’re doing and continue doing exactly the same thing for her.

Do not fondle the genital area until she is ready (use lubricating gel, which you can buy in a drug store). You need to have patience. She may not get an orgasm until after 20 minutes or more. And sometimes it will not work, even if you do everything right. You need to love her anyway.

As sexual stimulation continues, muscle tension increases throughout a woman’s body: this will be released at the moment of climax. Her rate of breathing increases, her blood pressure goes up, and her heart beats faster. As she becomes aroused, the man will also find his arousal mirroring hers. If he is aiming to manufacture her coming, he may have to control his own increasing arousal while she catches up with him.

Moving back down, kiss down her stomach, sucking under her navel, maybe kissing along the edge of her underwear. Let your hands roam over her butt, squeezing, maybe smacking it if she’s into that. Pull her panties down (put a pillow under her hips to help with the angle) and take a deep breath before you dive right in. If you’re doing your job well, she’ll likely be squirming a little now, maybe panting.

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Hi. My wife doesn’t like oral kissing, nipple kissing and caressing, clitorial stimulation and she said she feels good only during intercourse. She also doesnt like prolonged penetration. Does he have problem???

First you’ve got to turn up the sexual tension by relying on the “anticipation of orgasm” technique (as explained in the article on foreplay). Once her underwear is off, the action can start moving faster: it’s time to show her that you know how to take care of her needs!

The tongue is more than capable of doing all the work itself, but you can take a woman even further by using your fingers. A great technique is to lick her clit and then gently put your middle finger inside her vagina. You can then rest you index finger and ring finger on the outside of her vagina. If she seems comfortable you can use the come hither technique. Using you index and middle finger, put them inside her vagina and then with the fingers inside her pretend you are signalling for someone to come over to you.

Also known as the Venus Mound, the soft patch of skin above the vulva is the key to orgasm for many women, as sucking, stroking and rubbing this region also massages the shaft of her inner clitoris. While you’re going down on her, use three fingers to gently press upward on the bottom section of her Venus Mound while using her hip movements and breath patterns to guide your rhythm.

G-spots and vaginal orgasms aren’t proven. They are only theories at this point. Many people believe, and many don’t. There are many studies where researchers say, “it looks like they are real,” and many studies where other researchers say, “it looks like they are not real.” few women claim to have vaginal orgasms. Most women orgasm from clitoral stimulation.

Every female is different. There is no point in rigidly following those ‘Ten Easy Steps to Give Her an Oral Orgasm’ articles in lads’ mags. It isn’t like an exam, with right and wrong answers. Sometimes you have to experiment to see what works for both of you.

8. “If I say, ‘Oh yeah, just like that.’ Then keep doing it just like that. Don’t try to be creative and change it up, if you find something that is clearly working for me, stick with it until I tell you otherwise.” —Bri, 25

While she’s orgasming, keep the stimulation the same for the first four seconds, then reduce dramatically and continuously, but don’t stop unless she pushes your hand away or motions for you to do so, which means you just have to slow down sooner next time.

Nice to see a answer on female orgasms that includes the fact the Clitoris actually extends down and around the vagina and lower portion of the anus. So many assume the Clit and Vagina are separate entities when they are actually as you said “as a network of nerves and muscles”. I’m always blown away how many females don’t know their own anatomy and how it works. Many miss out on great sex because of this.

Stamina is the biggest key to great oral. One of the biggest secrets to being able to stick with it is to totally relax your jaw. The tendency most men have while licking is to clench up, which is what causes most guys to quickly burn out and not make it to the payoff.

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“Dive into her like you’ve never tasted something as good in your life. ” golden. absolutely golden. this entire reply needs to be published in some sex bible. you nailed every part of the ideal process.

For the most part, you should be gentle with her lady bits. Run your entire tongue over the area, along with a couple of light thumps, as you make like a submarine and search for her labia/clitoral hood/G-spot. (So many parts, so little time.)

Cunnilingus before intercourse can significantly improve both partners’ experience because, to put it simply, it’s better when it’s wetter. (Plus, she’ll probably be more inclined to reciprocate, if you’re into that sort of thing.)

Be gentle at first and pay attention to your partner’s reactions both in terms of breathing and body tension. Slightly and gradually increase the pressure of your fingers following the same rhythm with your tongue (yes, it’s hard work to give an amazing orgasm!)

#5 Turn her on and make her wet. Turning her on with foreplay before fingering is a useful trick to make the experience more enjoyable for both. If she’s really turned on, she lubricates freely and she responds better to stimulation.

Vaginal orgasms are not invariably distinct from clitoral ones and there is a great deal of overlap between these interconnected erogenous zones, says Dr. Jess. “Research suggests that vaginal penetration alone results in orgasm for approximately one-third of women, but  this figure may be misleading, as the vagina and clitoris are not only close neighbors, but are, in fact, connected by a number of nerve pathways and muscular structures! The corpora cavernosa of the clitoris, which are two sponge-like tubes that form the erectile tissue of its body are located around the vaginal canal,” Dr Jess says.

Women vary quite a bit on what type of sexual activities lead to orgasm. “Research is mixed on this, but the best evidence suggest that most women do not reach orgasm from penetrative intercourse alone,” says Garcia. “Women’s orgasm often requires clitoral stimulation, so stimulation of the clitoral glans (the visible part of the clitoris) by women themselves or by their partner, and this might include manual stimulation or by receiving oral sex, is quite effective in inducing orgasm. Some women experience orgasm just from penetrative vaginal intercourse, possibly by stimulating the internal part of the clitoral organ,” Garcia says.

Make sure you know the tricks to arouse her naturally. By using your index finger stimulate her clitoris. The movements should be gentle and in circular motions. Be receptive to feedback and be attuned to both her verbal and non-verbal cues. Her little moans and inviting body language will tell you that you are on the right track. Once you have stimulated the clitoris move to the G-spot. It is believed that this spot, located atop the vaginal cavity, gives a woman the greatest amount of pleasure. Once she is aroused, getting into the act would be more fun, intimate and satisfying for both of you. Also read about the six fun facts that you need to know about the vagina.                                  

I call it multiple edging orgasms. It’s a simple way of combining two of the best orgasm intensifying techniques you’ll ever use, into one sex life altering move that will leave her breathless and wondering which way is up.

“I had a client who would regularly have 30 to 40 orgasms in a session with her man. She may be the extreme, but having one to five is totally normal and doable for any woman,” says holistic sex and relationship expert Kim Anami.

The sexual position that worked for us was woman on top, at a particular angle (that actually changes a bit as things go on). She has to be in control of this, and I basically need to let her determine most of the factors like angle, pressure, speed, etc.

As for vibrators, I think it’s an old wives tale that they somehow “desensitize” a woman for pleasure by ordinary intercourse. Some women I’ve been with never came during intercourse, but could with a vibrator, and if it weren’t for vibrators, they might never have come at I’m not threatened by that, and I don’t feel I “failed” to please. Other women I’ve been with had the ritualistic approach issues y6y6y6 mentions above, but could come anytime the exact right sequence of actions happened. Yet other women of my experience could come pretty much anywhere, anytime, anyway they wanted, and did.

Wow I have a girl friend that we have good sex . She had started taking some anti de present meds and after that it was impossible to make her come . I tryed a lot and talking some gentle spanks she likes , kissing her pussy , vibraters, bath tub , rubbing my cock all over her .i tryed a lot of new and all the past things she likes . After the med changes !!! All good . Her new doc have her some new mess for hormones inc testosterone . Women girls need that to . Or you may have the wrong partners . Keep it up 🙂 and take your time don’t try to hard or talk yourself onto you never will. Try some adult movies ??? I have no idea about you but I hope I can or have given you some new ideas !!

These differences mean that men often have the wrong expectations from a woman. Sometimes, it is the man, not the woman, who wants her to have an orgasm. Men also have incorrect expectations because of porn movies. In porn movies, the women cry and moan, so men believe that a woman is more satisfied if she cries and moans. In reality, a woman gets more silent and withdrawn when getting closer to, or having, an orgasm. It is not uncommon that women fake orgasm, cry and moan because that is what the man expects them to do. Of course, sex will be more satisfying if men understood women better instead of the woman having to fake an orgasm to make him satisfied.

EDIT: Holy fuck, was NOT expecting this kind of response. Read through the comments and thought I’d summarize the additions etc. people had to make. (including edits to my original post). Thanks all you lovely people for your additional advice!

As you’re telling her your plans, nibble her ears and pull her hair backwards to expose her neck. Caress, kiss and bite it and put a hand down her knickers to make fleeting contact. Don’t leave your hand down there long. Grope her thighs and don’t be afraid to be strong and assertive – if she knows you’re in charge she won’t know what to expect. Pay her breasts some attention. Leave her bra on to begin with and unveil one nipple at a time, always leaving her wanting more. You’ll know when you’re achieving this, because she’ll try and put your head and your hands where she wants them.

And over the last 10 years or so, I’ve made somewhere between 20 and 30 women have multiple orgasms in just a few minutes… (I’m not a male gigolo; just a very horny man in Miami, a city with plenty of “resources” in the female department).

Now head back to her clit and edge her to the brink of orgasm with your favorite oral technique. Then return to g-spot stimulation but this time give it to her through penetration. Place her legs up over your shoulders and thrust back and forth. Because of the angle created by the pillow, you’ll be thrusting directly into her g-spot.

That’s an excellent question to ask her, rather than a bunch of strangers on the Internet. You know her–we don’t. Every woman is different; there is no magic technique, no guidebook to stroke this part this many times and then lick here like so that will instantly produce incredible orgasms.

Also when you or she feels like she is about to “pee” or you want to make sure she is not faking it just move your fingers back about an 1/2 inch to an inch and you should feel it start to sort of balloon up i guess you could say and then just carefuly press on it and almost flaten it out and she will cum hope this helps!

Give her the same type of orgasm multiple times. For example, you can give her multiple clitoral orgasms one after another. Keep in mind that when a woman has a clitoral orgasm, her clit will get so sensitive that if you keep touching it, it can start to hurt.

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For the most part, you should be gentle with her lady bits. Run your entire tongue over the area, along with a couple of light thumps, as you make like a submarine and search for her labia/clitoral hood/G-spot. (So many parts, so little time.)

And remember, always first clarify what the woman wants. Many women enjoy sex even without an orgasm, and do not think that orgasm is necessary to be satisfied. Other women, however, are not satisfied unless they get an orgasm.

It sounds like maybe she’s just not that into sex. Has it always been this way with her, or did something change recently? Have you spoken to her openly to ask her what she does like, and what it is that she doesn’t like about oral etc? Maybe she feels insecure, maybe she doesn’t find the way you’re doing it turns her on and there’s a style she’s not spoken about. Or maybe she really just doesn’t have a high sex drive. These are things to discuss with her really, in as calm and non-judgmental way as possible.

According to sexologists at the Masters & Johnson Institute, cunnilingus is the most reliable route orgasm for 80% of women. Lou Paget, author of The Big O (Piatkus), recommends the Kivin Method as the fastest way of getting there. “With one hand, pull up her clitoral hood,” he says. “Then lick from side to side across its base, just above her clitoris.” Place one finger of the other handon her perineum (the area directly below the opening of her vagina). When you can feel her pre-orgasmic contractions, you’ll know you’re in the right place.

After you’ve stroked the hood for a bit, you can move to direct contact with the bell, and include it in your circular stroke more or less prominently, depending on what type of touch she seems to like. Speed up your circles a little and stop kissing her. Tell her to feel those good feelings. That helps her focus on the sensation, which will help her reach orgasm.

#10 Learn to sustain fingering at the right moment. A common mistake for most is to stop right at the moment when she’s building up for an orgasm. This is frustrating for her and probably asks for a longer fingering session than normal.

Take a short break: That said, don’t leave the bed. If you both have reached your orgasm and plan to continue lovemaking, stay in bed. To revive your energy levels, hug, cuddle, kiss and talk. Remember, lovemaking is not just a physical act and it requires a level of emotional bonding too. Once you’ve reached climax don’t just turn your back on her or flip onto your back; look deep into her eyes and reassure her about how attracted you are to her and how much you cherish your time with her. Do this and odds are you wont need to work too hard to stimulate her for a continued session of love making.

As a woman, who has been trained as a physician, and has a habit of giving books on sex to any couple silly enough to invite me to their wedding, I have to chime in here and agree with Sam Kelly that IT DEPENDS.

While she’s orgasming, keep the stimulation the same for the first four seconds, then reduce dramatically and continuously, but don’t stop unless she pushes your hand away or motions for you to do so, which means you just have to slow down sooner next time.

How refreshing to read an honest, accurate discussion about orgasms for women! Thanks for making it clear from the get-go that most women cannot have orgasms from intercourse alone and need other stimulation.

I was with someone in this situation right around the time I turned 20. It took about a year of awesome sex for her to finally begin experiencing orgasms, and even then they were rare. It seemed to be very dependent on physical positioning, angle, direction of motion, etc. I suggest you just pursue the positions, etc that seem to work the best and keep trying at them.

By now, your girl should be clawing at the sheets, but don’t be mistaken in thinking you need one final trick to clinch the result. “Women hate too much chopping and changing of techniques,” says Dr Joni Frater, co-author of Love Her Right (Booksurge). “It distracts us, and takes our arousal back to the starting blocks.” You don’t really want to start over just before you reach the finish, do you? “When you start doing something that causes a positive response, keep doing it, at exactly the same speed and pressure.” Save your new technique for next time. Since you’ve just orchestrated a 15-minute orgasm with shuttle-launch precision, that’s something she’ll be demanding very soon. So grab a breather and prepare for take-off… again!

#6 Keep communication open. Keeping communication open is a good way to monitor your “progress.” This can be done simply by asking her if she’s enjoying what you’re doing with your fingers. You could also include dirty talk by telling her how you like her response to your stimulation which turns her on further.

Kait Scalisi, a sexual and reproductive health educator, writer and consultant, is also a huge fan of toys like the We-Vibe Touch, as well as G-Spot toy Je Joue Uma and arousal oils like ON Arousal Oil, which she says brings blood flow to the vaginal area and makes it easier to become aroused and achieve orgasm.

Katiecat disputes the widely-held idea that she’s got to be able to do it for herself before you can do it for her, but I’d say it more generically – in sex, everyone is responsible for their own orgasm. Not meaning that you’re just on your own, but you’ve got to help guide your partner to what you need to get off. If she’s unable or unwilling to do that you need to back down – this isn’t your quest to lead.

Finish her off – If you don’t know where the clit is, LEARN! While the entire area qualifies as an erogenous zone for a woman, pay special attention to her clit. Massage it with your tongue and pay attention to her verbal and non-verbal languages. Do whatever gets the best reaction!

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What’s the difference between a vaginal and clitoral orgasm? Is it only possible to have a vaginal orgasm during intercourse? If you can have a clitoral orgasm through other activity, but not intercourse, why is that? If your clitoris is stimulated during intercourse, will that give you a clitoral orgasm during sex? So how do you have a vaginal one? Can you have both at the same time?

“I think part of it is getting some vicarious pleasure through my partner. Knowing that it’s hot for them turns me on, and eventually just the act itself turns me on. I like to imagine what it must feel like.” — Alec*, 24

Be okay with the fact she might not like it. I’ve had plenty of experience to definitely say I love to be on the giving end but not on the receiving one, and it doesn’t depend on skill, I just don’t enjoy it as much. If she tenses up a bit, you’re good, if you don’t hear or feel anything, stop.

#10 Learn to sustain fingering at the right moment. A common mistake for most is to stop right at the moment when she’s building up for an orgasm. This is frustrating for her and probably asks for a longer fingering session than normal.

For the former, it’s all about the deep spot, which is sometimes called the A-Spot. Basically you take you middle finger and go all the way back to her cervix. Using just the tip of your middle finger, you press the top of the cervix until she explodes. It works because the cervix contracts during the female orgasm, and so stimulating that contraction causes a very deep full body orgasm that she almost definitely hasn’t experienced before. This is also great for women who can come from the clit but not from penetration. Look up David Shade to learn more about this technique.  If that doesn’t work, hypnosis is the next step.

Extra tip: finger her upper wall with two fingers, with a “come here” motion, at the same time as performing oral… this will put pressure on her g-spot, which in reality, is the internal part of the clitoral cluster.

You can also use her hands to spread her labia, giving you better access. Or try pushing up the hood of the clitoris to let you reach the more sensitive part with your tongue (this is a move for later in the game, not right at the beginning).

Oral sex is often a topic of much interest because so many women enjoy it greatly, and so many men are curious as to how to use oral sex to please their female partner. Although there is quite a bit of variation from woman to woman as to what they like and what their preferences are, there are some guidelines that a person can follow to maximize the oral sex experience for their partner.

Add a little zing to the everyday, mundane activities of life. For instance, the next time you take a shower, pull her in with you. Use soap and a loofah to create a soft-and-rough touch. The unbelievably erotic experience will leave her breathless and she will never be able to help but smile every time she showers after that! Here’s a little guide to spice things up.

Invest at least three minutes of your total 15 in kissing. Studies by Lafayette College in the US found that kissing reduces levels of the stress hormone cortisol, quickening the time it takes to turn you both on. As you pay lip service, tilt your head to the right – scientists in Germany found this makes you seem more caring, flooding her system with the ‘connection’ chemical oxytocin, building trust and encouraging her to come quickly.

If you just try to have the best time you can each moment, it may be that the accumulation of pleasure will result in someone having an orgasm. Or, it might not, but you will wind up have a great time!

In answer to your question, maybe just try everything she finds good and try and get past that plateau a little bit further every time. And keep it fun, the whole orgasm thing, sex tricks aside, really is a head thing. No pun intended.

In all my years of performing fellatio, I have observed one constant, each man likes to be pleasured differently. What works for John doesn’t make Sean c*m and what keeps Robert’s toes curling, doesn’t phase Tom. One thing all men seem to love though,  is when you swallow their juices like unwanted gum. But there’s a long way to go before you get there.

There are two issues here. The first is neck ache, which can be handled by switching position. Having her sit on a couch or the side of the bed with you between her legs can work. Alternatively, try putting a pillow under her butt to raise the area slightly.

The G-spot is located about 2-3 inches deep and upwards, towards the front wall. You should feel a rougher patch of skin. Imagine trying to touch her belly button internally and you’ve got the right idea. Start slowly, softly, and then, build yourself up to a hard thrust.

Reaching orgasm is one of the peaks of sexual experience, but surprisingly, this can be challenging for a lot of women. Apparently, one-third of women have never had an orgasm — and even fewer have ever experienced multiple orgasms.

Oh, oh, baby! There are many factors that contribute to how an orgasm feels. One variable is the type of physical stimulation, and to what body parts. A “vaginal orgasm” is the notion that women can have an orgasm through stimulation during intercourse or other vaginal penetration, entirely without clitoral stimulation. However, the vagina has few nerve endings, and therefore cannot create an on its own. Instead of thinking of the vagina and clitoris as separate entities, try thinking about them as a network of nerves and muscles.

One of the best “you on top” positions to get a woman off is a missionary while putting pressure on the clitoris with the lower pelvis/area right above the base of your penis. Rub hard into it on the in- and out-stroke.

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You can begin by gently kissing and fondling the area around the anus including the perineum (the area of skin between the genitals and the anus). You can then work your way in to the anus by circling your tongue around the outer area and finally inserting your tongue.

We already know that variety is the spice of life, and this couldn’t ring truer than when it comes to oral sex. In other words, always keep her guessing, and she’s likely to do you the same favor in return. “Different strokes may work better on different days. If you find something she likes, come back to it repeatedly, with pauses in between,” Janet Lieberman, CTO at Dame Products, says, “Much like the trick of making a pool feel warmer by getting out and getting back in, taking a quick break and coming back to it provides a boost in intensity. It also helps you avoid overstimulating a specific cluster of nerves.”

Men’s reasons for loving a little tongue action are manifold, but they mostly stem from the same fundamental (and not totally shocking) truth: Women like being eaten out, making that in itself a worthwhile pursuit. For many especially enthusiastic men, though, cunnilingus is about way more. 

Many men find oral sex (also known as ‘blow jobs’) highly sensitive, so start gently and slowly and work up to a faster pace. You can experiment with different tongue, mouth and head movements to see what works best (but never use your teeth unless asked!).

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And what makes it complicated is what she wants once, she may not want the second time ar Diving straight in, especially with dry fingers can be quite painful to a woman. Foreplay will bring some natural lubrication to her vagina, and establish a trusting mood. Work your way slowly down her body paying close attention to her breasts. Even once you’re there, kiss her inner thighs and slowly get closer to her lips. This teasing builds her anticipation and gets her ready for what’s next. Women can sustain orgasms of length and intensity that men will simply never know (caveat: men can also become multi-orgasmic with a little bit of effort, but women still get the sweeter end of the stick in terms of orgasmic/peak arousal). So if you’re ignoring it, or are simply uninformed, you’re missing out on a massive treasure chest of sexual experience. Be especially romantic sometimes, out of the blue. Keep it light. Let her know that you love having sex with her, whether the earth moves for her or not. Listen to her, and be guided by what she wants, but don't "make her drive" all the time. Either it will happen, or it won't. I am 28 years old. I've had a problem for years now; well, I had this problem all my life and I was too ashamed to seek help. Here it goes: during sexual intercourse, I never feel any sensation or tingling feelings, I feel nothing. I can feel the penis, but that is all. This has been with every guy I've been with and I've been with about 15 guys. I'm currently dating this guy for five years. I love him, but during sex, I feel nothing. He turns me on, and I get aroused, but when it comes to actually having sex, I feel NOTHING. It's like I have a disjunction in my vagina. Does it have something to do with my clitoris? What is wrong with me? Please, can you tell me? I will eventually see a doctor, but I just want to know, what is the problem with me? Please, I would really appreciate it, I've kinda learned to live with it. Sad, right? 🙂 I was with someone in this situation right around the time I turned 20. It took about a year of awesome sex for her to finally begin experiencing orgasms, and even then they were rare. It seemed to be very dependent on physical positioning, angle, direction of motion, etc. I suggest you just pursue the positions, etc that seem to work the best and keep trying at them. Remember, it’s not just penetrative sex that transfers STIs. You can catch chlamydia, herpes, syphilis and gonorrhoea from having unprotected oral sex. The HPV virus, which can cause warts and (though rarely) cancer, can also be caught from having oral sex. Make sure you’re protected and practice safe oral sex by using a condom or dental dam. Do not pretend to f*** her with your tongue when you're going down on her. Look at your tongue and then look at your penis. Do they look like they could be good substitutes for each other? Probably not. It's fine if you want to explore the opening a little during oral, but try to avoid straight up tongue f****ng - I've never met a woman who enjoyed that! Wow. I’ve got news for you fella, I don’t know what planet you’re from, but on Earth anyone born with a vagina IS in FACT a girl/woman. Anyone who would tell you otherwise apparently failed Junior High School biology class or they value pseudo “political- correctness” over cold, hard facts. Also, “shutting down entire avenues of self-identity” isn’t damaging anyone any more than they’ve already been damaged by being born freaks who don’t even know whether or not they are male or female! And aside from that, nobody gives a shit whether or not sex workers are being sexually fulfilled through cunnilingus or anything else. And in case you were unaware, prostitution is stigmatized because it’s not only illegitimate but also illegal in most countries on Earth. God didn’t give us the gift of lovemaking so we could sell our asses on a street corner or to the highest bidder, but so that a man and women can express their love for each other. Also I doubt if you’re really that busy if you had enough time to write all that nonsense. A great lover is a very good thing to be. Your partner will be more giving, and you’ll have more confidence meeting a new woman knowing that you can make her come. Giving great oral sex is the key to being a great lover, so get out there and try out these 8 tips and techniques. She’ll be glad you did, and so will you! Invest at least three minutes of your total 15 in kissing. Studies by Lafayette College in the US found that kissing reduces levels of the stress hormone cortisol, quickening the time it takes to turn you both on. As you pay lip service, tilt your head to the right – scientists in Germany found this makes you seem more caring, flooding her system with the ‘connection’ chemical oxytocin, building trust and encouraging her to come quickly. For best results, you’ll want to get her totally relaxed, comfortable, and in her body. Make sure she can lie back and let every muscle go. Set her up with a few pillows if she wants to be propped up for comfort, or get a better view if that’s what turns her on. If she’s a squirter, put down a sex blanket so that she can really let go without worrying about leaving a wet spot on the sheets. While the article does not explicitly say this, and Hana can correct me if I’m wrong, part of the point of the first paragraph is that the stereotype that oral sex between a man and a women is centered around blow jobs is inaccurate, and that the sexual experience will be better for everyone if the oral pleasure flows both ways. Whether or not that position is true is left up to each couple, but the article seems to be addressing this specific dynamic that occurs between men and women. The line telling men to “get over themselves” and venture down south, if nothing else, states that some guys don’t consider orally pleasuring women a priority in the bedroom. Again, I don’t know if this is true or not, but I don’t think its fair to read this as saying that men are the only ones performing oral sex on women. The article is written to address a specific issue: that not enough guys will or do perform oral sex on women, and that doing the following will drive their girl into orgasm land. simply because it does not discuss all possible contexts for oral sex does not make it socially “unjust” or ignorant. The title is “A Guy’s Guide to Oral Sex” because that’s what the article is about, and thus seems properly worded enough. Use lubricants if needed: For a woman to have multiple orgasms she must be comfortable and find the experience to be pleasurable, more than painful. The vaginal area is extremely sensitive, so if you are going to make love not once or twice, but a couple of times, use a lubricant to lubricate the area. Soreness of the vaginal area will diminish any pleasure and can make intercourse so painful that she may not even reach a single orgasm. There are other key internal erogenous zones (I’ll write a deep dive article on G-spot and cervical orgasms sooner than later), but a decent percentage of women can’t orgasm without some form of clitoral stimulation taking place. Give the little cutie the attention, love, and respect it deserves. Another way to increase the chances of orgasm during sex is to incorporate toys, like vibrators, into play. We-Vibe is a couple's vibrator that is designed to be worn while making love. It conforms to a woman's shape and provides dual stimulation of the clitoris and gspot while leaving room for the man to enter. Hands-free and with 9 modes of vibration, many women find this product to be the perfect way to achieve during intercourse. More info on: http://www.we-vibe.com Some guys will jump head first off the high dive into her lap and start lapping her up like their lives depended on it. There’s a time and a place for that, but her experience will be way more pleasurable if you start out very, very slow. I am going to tell you how. First, you must be in love because its more than just having sex. Its definitely on another level of intimacy. I never had a vaginal orgasm until I fell in deep love with my significant other. You have to make love. He can't be trying to imitate those fast banging moves that you see on porno movies. I thought I was enjoying sex until I met him and I found out that I never had an orgasm ever until we made love to each other. The whole time he was going slow and taking time to kiss me and we were holding hands and during all that I was squeezing my vagina muscles while he was going in and out. Suddenly he started moving slower and his penis was reaching the back of my vagina where my cervix begins. I was laying on my back with my legs wide open and I didn't move. I felt pressure in my vagina building up and I never felt that feeling in my life. He knew what was happening because he was hitting the back of my vagina with his penis in me while he was going slower and slower. I begin to holler and moan because that feeling is unbelievably the best orgasm ever! You will not be unable to stand up for a while. Squeeze your vaginal muscles during sex. Open your legs wide as you can so he can hit the back of your vagina as far as he can. While he's hitting that back wall where your cervix is keep it right there. The woman must lay still or if you're on top lay or sit still and let him move only. When you move I think you're throwing your orgasm off because its too much movement going on for the vagina to orgasm. Make him go slow and you are going to have a vaginal orgasm. [redirect url='http://thetongueofpleasure.com/bump' sec='7']

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Once you begin using your tongue on her vagina, don’t be afraid to tease her. Gently lick her clitoris and vagina and then begin kissing her body again. Every time you do this, extend the length you do it for. After a while begin licking her out properly. Start by gently kissing her clit and the outsides of her vagina.

bullet vibes and the infamous pocket rocket are, imho, the best starter vibes out there. easy, convenient, and versatile. i eventually got fancier stuff–the even more infamous pearl vibes and the wand–but i don’t like them nearly as much, and i’m so glad i didn’t start with them, eek.

OK, you can probably file this little tidbit of information under “no duh,” but apparently there really is such thing as an oral sex gap. Yup, women are twice as likely to go down on their partners and half as likely to receive pleasure when the favor is returned. Kind of messed up, right?

For the former, it’s all about the deep spot, which is sometimes called the A-Spot. Basically you take you middle finger and go all the way back to her cervix. Using just the tip of your middle finger, you press the top of the cervix until she explodes. It works because the cervix contracts during the female orgasm, and so stimulating that contraction causes a very deep full body orgasm that she almost definitely hasn’t experienced before. This is also great for women who can come from the clit but not from penetration. Look up David Shade to learn more about this technique.  If that doesn’t work, hypnosis is the next step.

Don’t underestimate the power of relieving her mind of household concerns as a way to help her relax into the right frame of mind. As one writer pointed out, vacuuming, cleaning the sink, etc. will enable her to focus on you more.

– The vaginal canal. This tube of muscle is designed to accommodate a penis and allow the passage of a fetus during birth making it very sensitive to insertion pressure. Human fingers on the other hand, have lesser volume compared to a penis but being moveable makes for various stimulation possibilities.

Oral sex, like every other thing in life, is a work of passion. You don’t have to love your mister but love his d**k . My motto is: If you’re going to do it, do it right! That means: spit, hands, tongue, lips, breast, a** and those circular weights that hang when he walks! Intimidated? Don’t be…

1) Please communicate. The advice I had doesn’t work on all girls, and there’s nothing but lovely fuzzy sexy orgasms to be had if you just check with your lady-friend about what they like. Do they like very gentle touching? Do they like more insistent touching? Do they like being teased for ages? Do they want your tongue on their clit? Just ask and incorporate (Please don’t have an actual conversation while eating her out, do it before sexytimes. If you don’t want to ruin the sexiness of it all, make it clear to her that she should tell you if she wants you to change anything you’re doing, and start on the gentler side.)

Published in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior, a team of US researchers analysed data collected through an online survey, hosted on the NBC News website, based on responses from more than 52,000 participants aged between 18 and 65 who were in a relationship with one person.

You said she feels like she has to pee? Good! That means you’re hitting the right spot. You just have to keep it up. Make sure she knows that this sensation is perfectly normal, and that she needs to relaxy down there, instead of tighten up – I know I get too tense to vaginally orgasm!

http://www.GSpot101.com – In this video you’ll learn how to give a woman a squirting orgasm, which is one of the most intense orgasms a woman will ever have. Master this squirting orgasm technique and you’ll never have to worry about your woman ever leaving you for another man.

How to “train” your penis to stay hard and that are able to control when you will cum? It’s actually quite simple. All you have to do is train your PC (Pubococcygeus muscle) which you can do by doing kegel excercises. My favourite method is to masturbate and hold my orgasm for as long as I can. If you can masturbate for 30min without releasing your orgasm you will be able to perform in bed for about the same amount of time.

That’s an excellent question to ask her, rather than a bunch of strangers on the Internet. You know her–we don’t. Every woman is different; there is no magic technique, no guidebook to stroke this part this many times and then lick here like so that will instantly produce incredible orgasms.

Every woman wants to feel and look sexy for her man and she’ll go to great lengths to please him. But how about making her look great for a change? Ditch the stuffed bear and buy her some sultry lingerie instead and ask her strut her stuff in front of you. Not only is it a definite turn on for you, but for her too. Time to make your move!

I’m not necessarily suggesting that. I think feels more wholesome to share sex with someone you love, and I think it can be kind of damaging to have sexual encounters void of intimacy, especially at a young age where you are impressionable. I think it can mess with your expectations of relationships, making them unrealistic or your beliefs about the opposite sex (or sex you’re attracted to) a little skewed…..

Add a little zing to the everyday, mundane activities of life. For instance, the next time you take a shower, pull her in with you. Use soap and a loofah to create a soft-and-rough touch. The unbelievably erotic experience will leave her breathless and she will never be able to help but smile every time she showers after that! Here’s a little guide to spice things up.

While this guide was written primarily for an audience of heterosexual males, I don’t know if that is automatic grounds for deeming it discriminatory and ignorant. One of the points of the article is that guys, being guys, do not have an intuitive knowledge of the female body, and that following the advice given might help guys be able to make foreplay and oral sex more pleasurable for women. Whether or not men need guide on how to eat out women more than women do, I can’t say, but its an important part of the purpose of the article that I don’t think can be ignored.

And of course, who wouldn’t enjoy the sight of a horny, moaning woman helpless at the mercy of your fingers? By making sure she’s horny, you easily play her like a piano. [Read: 25 sex questions to ask a girl and make her instantly wet]

What happens in a woman’s body during a climax is very like what happens in your (male) body when you ejaculate. In other words, there’s a feeling of increasing excitement, building up to a point where everything ‘blows’ in a great blast of ecstasy.

Remember that women’s sexual arousal builds up gradually, and it can progress more slowly than a man’s arousal. For that reason, it is always best to start giving a woman oral sex slowly and softly. She may be very sensitive, especially at the start, and going too hard or too fast can be overwhelming. Some women cannot tolerate direct contact with their clitoris and need to have the area pretty wet for it to be comfortable. Others will prefer that you always lick across the clitoris over the skin that covers it so that you don’t have direct contact with it. Some will prefer that you incorporate licking over the U-Spot as well. By going slow you have a chance to explore the area and find out just what she likes and where. A good example to follow is thinking about how you would lick an ice-cream cone. You can start off with a wide, soft tongue and take it from there. This is also less tiring, so you can go on for a longer period of time. If she wants you lick harder or have a pointier tongue, she will let you know.

Pleasing a woman is difficult according to most men! No one really knows what a woman wants or likes, do they? And what makes it complicated is what she wants once, she may not want the second time ar

Although this article was written with the best of intentions, it is important to point out for StudLife and its readers that titling this piece “A guy’s guide to oral sex” is, without question, heterosexist. That title actually promotes injustices, marginalizes the LGBT community, reinforces the heterosexual sense of privilege and normativity, and could be interpreted as an ignorant and discriminatory statement. Education is the only solution to promoting “Socially Just” dialogue internal and external to StudLife. Therefore, I would recommend that care be taken in future articles to insure that meaning is properly worded. Perhaps, re-wording your title to take away the assumption that the reader is heterosexual, or speaking to both heterosexual and homosexual populations in your piece would be ways in which these concerns are eliminated. Thank you and feel free to contact your friends in Residential Life and/or the SJC for more information.

#5 Turn her on and make her wet. Turning her on with foreplay before fingering is a useful trick to make the experience more enjoyable for both. If she’s really turned on, she lubricates freely and she responds better to stimulation.

If she enjoys the extra ‘unf’ you’re putting in, it’s time to get creative. Channel a whirlwind and use your tongue to slap, swirl, and suck. Notice if she’s convulsing or suddenly silent – if so, stop right away, and revert to gentle licks. But if she’s totally down for the whirlwind method, press forward and mix it up with some circular motions, up-and-down flicks, and tongue/finger boning. Yeah, we really just said tongue/finger boning.

“It really turns me on. I love the actual act of it; the smell, the taste, etc. It’s also the most reliable way to make a woman orgasm. Most of the women I’ve been with said they find it hard or impossible to orgasm purely from sex.” — Zachary*, 33

Secondly, there’s tongue ache. If your tongue starts to get tired, take a quick time out and gently suck her clitoris or kiss around the vaginal area. After a couple of seconds you can go back to licking.

I didn’t orgasm in the presence of a partner (or maybe it was just during intercourse? not sure) until I was 19 years old. For me I needed someone I DIDN’T care about to remove that fear of loss causing me to care what he thought. Admittedly I felt comfortable with this person because he was very inexperienced (later he told me he lost his virginity to me which upset me because I had no idea and it certainly wasn’t “special”!), thus making me feel more confident that I wouldn’t be compared to someone else, or whatever. This one “step” made me feel more sexually confident in subsequent relationships. This person wasn’t just any stranger, I had known him for a few years and we were sort of kind of “dating” (if you want to call it that).

Foreplay can drive a woman wild, so make some proper time for kissing, massage, caressing and non-penetrative fun and games. All of this will help you in your ultimate goal of turning a woman on to the point where an orgasm is more likely to happen.

This might sound weird, but I love the feeling of my spouse’s beard on my vaginal opening while he’s going to town on my clit. He’ll even press his chin hard against it because he knows it drives me wild. It just feels sooooooo good to me.