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What happens in a woman’s body during a climax is very like what happens in your (male) body when you ejaculate. In other words, there’s a feeling of increasing excitement, building up to a point where everything ‘blows’ in a great blast of ecstasy.

Knowing how to finger a girl is important, guys, because you just never know when some woman is going to want a good fingering to orgasm. It could be anyone, from your friend’s mom or a hospital nurse; or, perhaps, even some movie star stuck in her trailer and bored out of her mind. Whatever the unbelievable situation, you have to be ready!

Kait Scalisi, a sexual and reproductive health educator, writer and consultant, is also a huge fan of toys like the We-Vibe Touch, as well as G-Spot toy Je Joue Uma and arousal oils like ON Arousal Oil, which she says brings blood flow to the vaginal area and makes it easier to become aroused and achieve orgasm.

The first question you always ask is whether she is able to get an orgasm at all, for example by masturbation. If the answer to this question is no, she must first learn how to get an orgasm. If the answer is yes, you can investigate how to get an orgasm when making love.

Many men find oral sex (also known as ‘blow jobs’) highly sensitive, so start gently and slowly and work up to a faster pace. You can experiment with different tongue, mouth and head movements to see what works best (but never use your teeth unless asked!).

Many women say that oral sex gives them more stimulation than penetration. So remember to take it easy and avoid being rough, especially to begin with. Look where you are going too. Gently part the outer lips of the vagina and look for the vaginal opening, and the hooded clitoris above it. These are the most pleasurable areas to stimulate, and are the key to giving the best head. Thrusting a tongue in and out of the vagina might feel good for a moment or two, but it won’t be enough to tip her over the edge.

The whole point of the article was not “help on sex tips.” The point of the article was “Ways to Help Her Have Orgasms.” It was in the title right after the number 6 and the key words were HELP and ORGASM.

While the article does not explicitly say this, and Hana can correct me if I’m wrong, part of the point of the first paragraph is that the stereotype that oral sex between a man and a women is centered around blow jobs is inaccurate, and that the sexual experience will be better for everyone if the oral pleasure flows both ways. Whether or not that position is true is left up to each couple, but the article seems to be addressing this specific dynamic that occurs between men and women. The line telling men to “get over themselves” and venture down south, if nothing else, states that some guys don’t consider orally pleasuring women a priority in the bedroom. Again, I don’t know if this is true or not, but I don’t think its fair to read this as saying that men are the only ones performing oral sex on women. The article is written to address a specific issue: that not enough guys will or do perform oral sex on women, and that doing the following will drive their girl into orgasm land. simply because it does not discuss all possible contexts for oral sex does not make it socially “unjust” or ignorant. The title is “A Guy’s Guide to Oral Sex” because that’s what the article is about, and thus seems properly worded enough.

Don’t just go barging in down there. Take your time, and make sure you are both feeling turned on before you venture south. If you aren’t used to giving head, don’t expect to bring her to a climax in seconds flat. And if you have bad stubble on your chin, forget it; no girl wants razor burns in such a sensitive place.

This doesn’t seem fair, because apart from the small of men who have psychological difficulties with sex and who cannot relax enough to ejaculate into their partner (delayed ejaculation), most males have no problem at all in climaxing during sexual intercourse.

This is a really great article on female orgasms! Don’t forget that it’s not a “problem” if you can’t climax without clitoris stimulation. The majority of women don’t have vaginal-only orgasms. It’s not weird, so don’t feel like you’re doing anything wrong with your girlfriend.

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Once you make it to her clit and vagina, gently lick all around. Direct stimulation can be too intense for some, so explore the surrounding area. Ask her where she likes to be touched. You don’t have to be rough with your mouth unless she wants you to. It’s always best to start off slow, unless she specifically requests otherwise. Some women do like it when you roughly use your tongue and mouth, but only do so if she asks.

Today I’m going to give you a series of basic techniques designed to give your beloved woman the very best in erotic, physical pleasure. In my experience, the clitoris is the most consistent source of orgasm for the majority of women. There are other ways to bring a woman to orgasm, of course, but this is where I encourage you to start.

Start slow, start up top. Kiss her, slowly, then firmly – but like you have all the time in the world. Trail kisses from her mouth along her jaw to her ear, maybe take her earlobe in between your teeth. Make your way along her neck, kissing and licking at the sensitive spots – behind her ear, her pulse points, in between her collarbones. Move down slowly, take your time at her breasts, suck at her nipples, touch and caress her boobs. You can squeeze them (gently, unless she’s into otherwise) or gently bite her nipples if she’s into that stuff (but check first). Detour back up to her lips and kiss her, you want to get her aroused before you even get anywhere close to her lower lips.

The reason? During intercourse (missionary, doggie, woman-on-top, whatever), the penis does not directly stimulate the clitoris, the organ responsible for women’s orgasms. Sexuality experts reassure couples that the woman’s inability to experience orgasm during intercourse is (1) very common, (2) no reflection on her sexual responsiveness, (3) no reflection on the man’s sexual technique, and (4) no reflection the woman’s feelings about the relationship. I agree.

It may be hidden, but that doesn’t mean you can’t stimulate it if you know what you’re doing. While still tonguing her clitoris, push one finger slowly into her vagina. Leave it until she seems comfortable. Add a second finger, but note that for some women this might be uncomfortable.

The best feeling in the world is when a guy takes his time down there and knows how to tease And eventually gets to the good part which is the fast flick of his tongue against a girl’s clit. Gosh… that feels so damn good And remember… if you can’t find her clit… you can just ask

You’ve gotta learn how to push her buttons… which is actually really easy when you know the techniques. There’s an awesome guide called Revolutionary Sex that shows you everything. Here’s the guide: Revolutionary Sex – Give Her The Best Orgasm of Her Life

(6) Take a vibrator to bed. Even if you do all of the above, some women still have trouble with orgasm, and need the intense stimulation only vibrators can provide. Today, one-third of American women own vibrators, but few couples include them in partner sex. Some men fear being “replaced.” Nonsense. Power tools don’t replace carpenters. They just get the job done more efficiently. Vibrators can’t kiss and cuddle, or make women laugh, or love them. They do just one thing, and some women need that one thing to have orgasms. Hold her close as you invite her to use the vibrator.

This is all good news for you. Because if you put even a little bit of effort into sorting out your approach and technique, you’ll set yourself miles ahead of the pack. When you’re through, she’ll be blissed out, panting and doe-eyed, looking at you like you’re an absolute rock star.

I agree with those who have said that the Hitachi Magic Wand isn’t a good starter vibrator. That thing has some torque, lemme tell you. I think the vibe might be a good idea, but starting off small might work better.

For reference, this seems to be a tl;dr of one chapter of “She Comes First”, aka “Cunnilingus for Dummies.” It’s fairly enlightening and, for lack of a better word, educational – basic technique, mindset, it goes over the basics and then some. If anything, it’ll give you ideas. Would recommend.

Indeed, women can often have another orgasm soon after their first; which is distinctly different to men, who have a refractory period, during which it is impossible for them to become sexually aroused again.

We’ve all heard whispers and rumors, but actually having multiple orgasms? Well, that’s on par with having hair like a Victoria’s Secret angel and a metabolism that can burn right through morning bagels. But sexperts are here to reassure us all that multiple orgasms really do exist and—even better—that we can all have them!

You may feel nervous before having oral sex – whether you’re giving it or receiving it. The best thing to do is to carry on communicating with your partner. Ask them to tell you what feels nice and let them know when you are enjoying something.

By contrast, 80 per cent of heterosexual women and 91 per cent of lesbians always or usually orgasm with a combination of genital stimulation, deep kissing and oral sex – but without vaginal sex. “To say that there needs to be some education I think is an understatement,” said Prof Lloyd.

2) Some woman have mindbogglingly specific things which need to happen before they can have an orgasm. A ritual almost. Certain things need to be done in a specific order combined with some specific fantasies. So try mixing things up. Experimenting is fun.

Michael Castleman’s articles are always well researched at the same time interesting.I found a few things that i dont know myself as a girl.I am humbled by the rich information found in this page not only in the original post but even in the comments left by few others.

The risk of HIV transmission from oral sex is very low. The main risks arise if the person receiving oral sex has an STI or sores on their genital area, or if the person giving oral sex has sores in their mouth or bleeding gums.

While TV and movies would have us believe that all women are walking around desperate to have someone go down on them, according to a somewhat recent Esquire poll, 10 percent of the women they talked to said they didn’t like receiving oral at all. And a whopping 44 percent of women said it could be “nice” every once in awhile. What gives?

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In this case, a vibe would be great for helping her relax, have an orgasm, and get over the hump (yeah, yeah). Once those first few are out of the way, then she can start exploring other ways of having one.

WOW!!!! What a night my wife and I just had!! Thanks for the advice, ( like paying attention to other zones ) she went wild. We have been together for some time and I’ve never seen her like that. Your advice and my eagerness to please turned her into an animal. All I can think to say is ,” Thank you” . And WOW!!!

Clitorises can vary greatly between women. Some are quite big, others tiny. But they’ll always be in the same place so it’s just a matter of knowing where to look. As it becomes more stimulated, it will swell and become more prominent. With the hand you wrapped around her leg and placed on her stomach, pull back slightly on the skin just above the hood and the clitoris will become more exposed.

By clean, we mean having a daily shower and using unperfumed mild soap. A healthy vagina has a natural mild musky smell, but don’t let pathetic playground stories upset you. It doesn’t smell like rotting fish down there, so don’t feel self-conscious.

What this means is that his penis doesn’t go all the way into the vagina. Instead, the stem or root of it is pulled hard against the clitoris – producing great sensations in that all-important little organ.

Start off softly, using a relaxed tongue to make slow movements and work up to faster movements with a firmer, pointed tongue. You can experiment with making different patterns with your tongue and try different rhythms – taking cues from your partner as to what she enjoys most.

“It really turns me on. I love the actual act of it; the smell, the taste, etc. It’s also the most reliable way to make a woman orgasm. Most of the women I’ve been with said they find it hard or impossible to orgasm purely from sex.” — Zachary*, 33

Another vote for the vibrator. It’s not going to desensitize her unless she’s using it 24 hours a day for days on end. Even if she does feel a little desensitized at first, this will go away within a few hours, a day or two at the most. I would rather feel a little dull down there for a day than never have felt an orgasm in my life.

I didn’t orgasm in the presence of a partner (or maybe it was just during intercourse? not sure) until I was 19 years old. For me I needed someone I DIDN’T care about to remove that fear of loss causing me to care what he thought. Admittedly I felt comfortable with this person because he was very inexperienced (later he told me he lost his virginity to me which upset me because I had no idea and it certainly wasn’t “special”!), thus making me feel more confident that I wouldn’t be compared to someone else, or whatever. This one “step” made me feel more sexually confident in subsequent relationships. This person wasn’t just any stranger, I had known him for a few years and we were sort of kind of “dating” (if you want to call it that).

Start slow, start up top. Kiss her, slowly, then firmly – but like you have all the time in the world. Trail kisses from her mouth along her jaw to her ear, maybe take her earlobe in between your teeth. Make your way along her neck, kissing and licking at the sensitive spots – behind her ear, her pulse points, in between her collarbones. Move down slowly, take your time at her breasts, suck at her nipples, touch and caress her boobs. You can squeeze them (gently, unless she’s into otherwise) or gently bite her nipples if she’s into that stuff (but check first). Detour back up to her lips and kiss her, you want to get her aroused before you even get anywhere close to her lower lips.

You can’t simply read about a ‘special technique’ and repeatedly try it. Listen to your woman, observe her and pay attention to how she reacts to what you’re doing or not doing, and you’ll find out what you need to know soon enough.

Before you make your way under, make sure she’s relaxed and comfortable. Some women can get super self-conscious over how long it’s going to take them to climax, but if you let her know you’re not in a rush, it’s more likely she’ll fully give herself up to the situation. Also, when she sees that you actually want to please her, and aren’t just doing it as a formality, it’ll turn her on and get her natural juices going even more.

Many men believe that one goal of lovemaking is to “give” women earth-shattering orgasms. But orgasm is something no one “gives.” Orgasms are like laughter. Comedians might be funny, but they don’t “make” us laugh. We release laughter from deep within ourselves when conditions feel right. Rather than “giving” women orgasms, men should focus on what allows women to have them. These suggestions increase her likelihood of happy endings:

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You can get the best fingering advice from the owner of the vagina. In addition to that, this makes for a good, teasing foreplay. Snuggle up close and ask her to guide your hand in the right places or ask that naughty girl to “confess” how she touches herself when she’s thinking of you. [Read: 10 foreplay moves every guy needs to do to their ladies]

Men under 50 need to understand that it often takes women quite a while to become highly aroused, like 30 to 45 minutes. That’s why men should not jump into vaginal intercourse. They should allow women the time they need to become sufficiently aroused to actually enjoy intercourse. That’s why whole-body touching is so important. Touching women all over (not just their breast and between their legs) but everywhere from their scalp to their feet not only gives them the time they need to become highly aroused and ready for genital play, it also makes genital sex more enjoyable because whole-body arousal increases genital sensitivity to touch. The same is true for men.

Get her juices flow before engaging her bell skin-to-skin. Her body needs time to get physically aroused, and most often that takes longer than it does for men. Cup her groin in one hand on the outside of her clothing and place your four fingers on her warmest area.

I agree with those who have said that the Hitachi Magic Wand isn’t a good starter vibrator. That thing has some torque, lemme tell you. I think the vibe might be a good idea, but starting off small might work better.

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You can also use her hands to spread her labia, giving you better access. Or try pushing up the hood of the clitoris to let you reach the more sensitive part with your tongue (this is a move for later in the game, not right at the beginning).

Give her the same type of orgasm multiple times. For example, you can give her multiple clitoral orgasms one after another. Keep in mind that when a woman has a clitoral orgasm, her clit will get so sensitive that if you keep touching it, it can start to hurt.

In this case, a vibe would be great for helping her relax, have an orgasm, and get over the hump (yeah, yeah). Once those first few are out of the way, then she can start exploring other ways of having one.

Some women need to concentrate on erotic fantasies to get an orgasm. The fantasies which work for some women can be weird and contain actions they would never do in real life. Thinking “maybe I cannot get an orgasm” may destroy the ability to get an orgasm.

These changes include an increased flow of blood to her genitals, with some engorgement of the erectile tissue of the clitoris, vulva and labia. At the same time her skin becomes more sensitive to touch.

You or a partner can stimulate your clitoris in a number of different ways — by rubbing, sucking, body pressure,  or using a vibrator. Although some women touch the glans of the clitoris to become aroused, for others it can be so sensitive that direct touching hurts, even with lubrication. Also, focusing directly on the clitoris for a long time may cause the pleasurable sensations to disappear. Your clitoris can also be stimulated during sexual intercourse, most often with the woman on top — this happens when the clitoris is rubbed against the man’s pubic bone. It can also be when the man is on top if the man positions himself high enough so that his pubic bone presses against his partner’s clitoral area. You or your partner can also stimulate your clitoris with fingers during intercourse to help bring you to orgasm.

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Secondly, there’s tongue ache. If your tongue starts to get tired, take a quick time out and gently suck her clitoris or kiss around the vaginal area. After a couple of seconds you can go back to licking.

I would like to ADD, it would be great if there was more porn for women, like girl friendly stuff. Dont take the men out of porn but have hotter, younger guys with less body hair and obviously nice looking penises.

#4 Still not time for the clitoris. Yes, there’s still work to be done before you get there. If you think of the lips as forming a long, vertical ellipse, the inside of this is what you should focus on next. As a reference, just above this ellipse, tucked into its hood is the clitoris. Just below it is the perineum, or what people often call the “taint” – that in-between-area that ain’t pussy and ain’t ass.

Interestingly enough, there was also a gap in the perception of orgasms. 85% of men said that their female partner had orgasmed – a significantly higher number than the percentage of women who confirmed that they actually had.

Your girlfriend probably does not want to go to a gynecologist, because she feels that this is not the problem. One treatment for a dry vagina is lubricating gel. Do not tell her that she is lazy; instead try to understand her wishes and needs. Respect her, if she does not want to go to a gynecologist. To criticize her will kill all desire and she may resent this for a long time.

Michael, as always you continue to offer really sensitive advice to help women have more pleasure. I for one, wonder about how you “get it” so thoroughly. You must really listen to women. A quick read of any of your blogs and books would answer Lily’s accusations of missing the surround sound that makes the sexual experience so great for a woman.. I know you advise about that over and over!

How to “train” your penis to stay hard and that are able to control when you will cum? It’s actually quite simple. All you have to do is train your PC (Pubococcygeus muscle) which you can do by doing kegel excercises. My favourite method is to masturbate and hold my orgasm for as long as I can. If you can masturbate for 30min without releasing your orgasm you will be able to perform in bed for about the same amount of time.

This pretty much goes hand-in-hand with relaxing. Maybe you’re not orgasming because you’re worried about what you’ll look like, what you’ll say or basically just what will happen. But don’t worry about that. Who cares what your O face looks like? Who cares what kind of noises you make? If you’re with a dude, he’ll be so thrilled you’re into it, he won’t care. And if you’re by yourself, whatever! The orgasm is worth it.

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With age comes maturity, and with maturity comes the knowledge that sex usually just isn’t as fun when only one partner gets off. One of the primary reasons men say they love giving oral sex is partly selfish: Making women feel good makes them feel good. 

If she isn’t a fan of the whirlwind technique and favors gentle care, just lick. That’s right. If you get a little antsy or bored, maybe try to spell out different letters of the alphabet to change things up a bit. But otherwise, it’s pure and simple: Just lick until she finishes.

And regardless of the gender of your partner, keep in mind that your needs, as the “giver” need to be taken into account. Respect is a two-way street, so make your needs known: no one is a mind-reader!

I did know a girl once who had Anorgasmia, and that is something that there really is no cure for. It’s possible, and more common in women. I’m not saying be pessimistic really, but realise it’s a possibility.

But even if you are the queen of masturbatory techniques, you might still find it tough to climax during full sex, and this will almost certainly be because your clitoris is not getting sufficient attention.

Third, “oral sex” is problematic at best. What “sex” consists of is a complicated, difficult topic, and to presume that the activities described in the article constitute sex is to denigrate people who may choose to engage in these activities precisely because they do not see them as sex, perhaps because their religion forbids sex outside of marriage or something like this. If we just run around willy nilly calling things sex without engaging in constructive dialog about what is and isn’t sex, we pigeonhole people into viewing their activities in ways that may not be compatible with what they would prefer to believe if we had a more open, inclusive society.

Give importance to foreplay: Keep in mind that intercourse alone cannot lead to an epic orgasm. You need to dedicate enough time to foreplay. This is not a race, so don’t be in a hurry to dive in and get to the end of the act. If you can master the art of arousing her in a slow and steady manner, chances are that she will last longer in bed and find the experience to be a lot more pleasurable and satisfying. Use your hands and tongue for the same. To help your woman get multiple orgasms, help her to get aroused with manual and oral stimulation. For many women oral sex is the ultimate way to get aroused, so get into the act before the real action. Here are some best sex positions if you’re trying to get pregnant.

Ohhh, so that’s why women are always checking out men’s fingernails? They’re all thinking about a fingering. Yes. Yes, they are. Seriously, uncut, uncleaned, and unbuffed fingernails are painful, so keep your hands to yourself until your nails are smooth enough to run across your own dick hole.

Variety is the spice of life and no more so than when it comes to romance and sex. During intercourse, change positions and mix things up to help make the sexual experience more pleasurable and successfully bring your woman to climax.

While she’s recuperating from her clitoral climax, give her a g-spot orgasm. It’ll take less and less time for her to come with every orgasm you give her until the point where one starts happening before the last is done.

But many couple wish the woman could come during intercourse. The good news is that there are easy, loving ways to boost women’s chance of orgasm during intercourse. The easiest ways involve the woman-on-top and rear entry (doggie) positions. Orgasm is more challenging in the man-on-top (missionary) position, but a minor adjustment makes it considerably more likely.

Virginity is a social construct. Also the gspot is a lie. Penetration is painful for most women to some degree. Very delicate tissues. You should be critical of what society has brainwashed women into doing. Don’t let yourself be pressured into penetration. You don’t ever have to do it. In my opinion the risk are not worth the perceived pleasure.

Ok this is comin from my personal experience…I persoanlly love foreplay before sex wether it be by fingers or my vibrator I usually always use my vibrator before sex and sometimes during….I too have finally experienced a g-spot orgasim many times now and the easiest way we have found that I produced one at first was with a dildo, goin in and out almost at an upward angle toward the g-spot area and not too deep tho the g-spot is not that far in…Now I am able to produce one with my husband as well inside me both him on top and myself on top as well….I recomend experimenting if the two of you are comfortable with each other I would try it out….You can do a search on g-spot and it will give you some info almost a walkthrough on maybe gettin there and how to go about it…..Or even buy a penis ring with a vibrator on it so while you are having sex she will have clitoral stimulation as well……..I persoanlly dont think there is nothing wrong with makin a girl cum before sex I think it makes the joy of sex much better!!! But I do think you need to tell her to experiment with her self as well its hard for you as a man to know what to do to her if she herself really does not know what she likes!!!! Good luck

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Vaginal intercourse can feel wonderful: physical closeness, the emotional intimacy, and for many, the belief that intercourse epitomizes sex. But for women’s orgasms, the old in-out is also problematic. The best evidence suggests that only 25 percent of women are consistently orgasmic during intercourse no matter how vigorous or prolonged it is, no matter how loving the relationship, no matter what position the lovers use, and no matter what the size of the man’s penis.

I’m not interested so much in crazy sex tricks (I realize there has been a question on that) as much as I am in hearing from women who have been in a similar situation and got over it–ie, those who were sexually active for a while without ever having had an orgasm, until one day, everything changed. What did it take? How common is it, actually, for women to be unable to have an orgasm?

When you’re with a partner and you feel like the big O just isn’t going to happen, don’t resort to faking it. First of all, if he finds out, he’ll be really hurt. Second of all, that’s not going to help you in the future – if a guy thinks he’s doing the right thing (but he’s actually not), he’s just going to do it again. Instead, instruct him on what to do. Believe it or not, guys love the advice.

Also, I find that if I’m having difficulty getting off, visualization helps…fantasies, that sort of thing. If that’s something she’d be comfortable doing, she could try that. (Like maybe reading something mildly erotic before she tries masturbating?)

You can increase the oral intensity once in a while by flexing your tongue and leaning into her while you lick. When you’re doing this in the heat of the moment, you can try pushing into her clit with a firm tongue and shaking your head vigorously from side to side, kind of like a paint shaker. Doing this for too long can rattle your brain a little bit, but it’s often very effective in short bursts.

And remember, always first clarify what the woman wants. Many women enjoy sex even without an orgasm, and do not think that orgasm is necessary to be satisfied. Other women, however, are not satisfied unless they get an orgasm.

Once her panties are gone or you’re inside them, her natural slickness will help you a great deal when your fingers start touching her bell directly. If she isn’t as wet as would be ideal, that’s OK because you’re an amazing lover and have a small bottle of organic, water-based lubricant in your jacket pocket just in case, right?

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Women can enjoy sex even if they do not get an orgasm. They enjoy the nearness and intimacy, the fondling and the feeling of love and desire. A request from the man that she must have an orgasm can be a problem for the woman. In spite of this, you should try to learn to satisfy her. I know of women who have left their boyfriends when they have met a man who knows the right way.

We can give women light, playful orgasms that make the hairs on her skin stand while she giggles and squeals. We can give them deep, full body orgasms that start in her hips and send pulsating waves of pleasure down to her toes and back again.

We were doing a sex change operation, and the patient got a raging hard on; the doc had the erect penis in her hand and said “I cant work with this hard-on in the way” we gave a med that guarantees to get it down, and continued with our business.

Lastly, if you’re aiming to go all the way to the climactic end, note that some girls achieve orgasm later than others. By that time, her natural juices might have dried out which makes a quick squirt of lube very handy. [Read: The best lubricants for sex – 15 winners from the kitchen cupboard]

A lot of guys either skip over the oral altogether, or do it only for a few minutes. This is a big mistake (and in my opinion quite selfish). A good lover shows his partner that her pleasure is important to him.

#7 Ride the rhythm. Some women like hard pressure applied with the tongue to the clitoris, while some need a lighter touch. With more experience with the same woman, you will understand her needs better, but if you’re not sure, listen to her cues.

And the number one way she suggests increasing your sexual confidence and taking control over your orgasms is by partaking in a naughty bit of adult show-and-tell and masturbating in front of one another. Whether you choose to discuss in advance the fact that you’re about to give your partner the thrill of their life or surprise them by letting them come home and “catch” you rubbing yourself on the Jennifer Convertible sofa, is entirely up to you. And though you may be tempted to let them jump in and finish the job, Dr. Carlen suggests restraining your passions and enforcing a no touching rule for as long as possible — which will only make things hotter.

Published in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior, a team of US researchers analysed data collected through an online survey, hosted on the NBC News website, based on responses from more than 52,000 participants aged between 18 and 65 who were in a relationship with one person.

You may feel nervous before having oral sex – whether you’re giving it or receiving it. The best thing to do is to carry on communicating with your partner. Ask them to tell you what feels nice and let them know when you are enjoying something.

Swallow – You know what I’m talking about! If you’re doing it right, it will be inevitable that she will urinate in your mouth. Don’t be afraid. Encourage her. And when she does, give her the same courtesy you’d expect and swallow every drop.

thanks to the ladies who’ve already said nix to the “vibrators are bad for women” comment, and seconded/thirded/whatever. especially the bit about how the more women have orgasms, the more able they are to have more in the future. for me anyway, and most of my female friends, it’s like a burner. you can keep it completely switched off as often as you like, and when it’s off, you don’t even think about it. but once you do light it, you can just go and go and go, varying intensity, whatever. you have to light it though first. otherwise it’s totally shut.

Finish her off – If you don’t know where the clit is, LEARN! While the entire area qualifies as an erogenous zone for a woman, pay special attention to her clit. Massage it with your tongue and pay attention to her verbal and non-verbal languages. Do whatever gets the best reaction!

Congratulations. You found the G-spot. In cases like this, there’s a lot more to it than that. Don’t underestimate the emotional situation. If you are making her feel inadequate, you are undermining the whole thing. If you stop concentrating on your own enjoyment because you’re OBSESSED with making her come, then you’re denying her the pleasure of pleasing you. Don’t be a freak about it.

There’s a chance that she may come on to you first and no man in his right mind would wait to respond. But wait, don’t give in! Tease her a little, play a little hard to get. The game of cat and mouse won’t just make things hotter but also give her a feeling of control – something a lot of women just love!

The number one secret to having an orgasm? Five little letters: R-E-L-A-X. If you’re stressed about having one or not having one, um, you’re probably not going to have one. Thinking about it or worrying about it isn’t going to help. So just take a deep breath, calm down and enjoy whatever is happening – if you orgasm, awesome! If you don’t, there’s always next time.

And how does he find out what she wants and what turns her on? Well, a wise man will ask her. What he should not do is to assume that his technique is flawless and that if his partner does not come, it’s her fault.

The unfortunate truth is that some people aren’t comfortable with words like clitoris, so for the purposes of this post I’ll refrain from the use of the word and call it “ringing her bell” after that ’70s song “Ring My Bell,” which I hope was referring to precisely what we’re talking about.

When you think she’s ready to be pleasured by your tongue, hold off a bit longer still, then start off slowly. If you’ve just got home from a night out or she’s walked in from work, keep her half- or even fully dressed. There’s something exquisite about receiving oral sex in your best clothes – it seems like you shouldn’t be doing it, which only adds to the excitement. Push her skirt up and keep her legs closed. Hopefully she’s wearing skimpy knickers, so pull them to one side and slide your tongue over her clit and between her lips. Keep her thighs closed with your elbows. She’ll try to open them to give you better access – don’t let her. It will drive her wild – all she wants to do is fully expose herself to you and you’re stopping her. Apply some pressure with your tongue and use steady, flat, up-and-down strokes, but only two or three times.

Changing our breath changes the way we experience things, in all areas of life. Especially when it comes to sex (the tradition of Tantra has long-existed for a reason!). Before you begin going down on your partner, gently blow on and around his penis or her vagina, and the surrounding pubic area. Start further away and slowly get closer and closer. Again, be present and mindful, not only to what is happening for your partner, but what is happening within yourself as well.

If you choose the first option, then your task is to keep your partner’s pleasure heightened. Try changing positions to see which is most pleasurable. Once you find the right technique, keep at it until you’ve reached your desired result. Have confidence in your endurance and let your penis do what it was made for!

Now you know how to finger a woman! You’re ready to finger a woman whenever she asks for it — any time, any place. Just be sure she’s referring to the sex act of fingering and not “fingerplay” nursery rhymes or musical “fingering.” That would be an awkward misunderstanding. Although, giving your hot music teacher an orgasm might be fun.

Another vote for the vibrator. It’s not going to desensitize her unless she’s using it 24 hours a day for days on end. Even if she does feel a little desensitized at first, this will go away within a few hours, a day or two at the most. I would rather feel a little dull down there for a day than never have felt an orgasm in my life.

And now the grand finale! Once her whole body starts to tremble and you feel like she’s coming to the edge, place your mouth to cover her “hot spot” (the clitoris) and suck it gently while stimulating it with your tongue. That should make her come like never before! Once your partner has been satisfied, it’s your turn! Try it once, satisfaction guaranteed – yours AND hers!

The first time I vaginally orgasmed was last year, which is sad cause I’m 28. The pee feeling came. A secret: Pee BEFORE foreplay so in your mind, you know its not pee even if it feels like you might. In fact, it’s kinda hot, but you will see, it’s not pee. Also, I get pain with deep penetration so for me, the only angle I can come vaginally is if I ride on top, and kind of grind back and forth on my lover. You’ll then feel a gush, or flood. It’s totally different than a clitoral orgasm (which I’ve also learned how to squirt….again, let go of fears) which throws women off.

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#4 Still not time for the clitoris. Yes, there’s still work to be done before you get there. If you think of the lips as forming a long, vertical ellipse, the inside of this is what you should focus on next. As a reference, just above this ellipse, tucked into its hood is the clitoris. Just below it is the perineum, or what people often call the “taint” – that in-between-area that ain’t pussy and ain’t ass.

Eventually getting between her legs and hovering over her vulva. Letting her anticipate my tongue and feeling my breathe. And then I start kissing/licking/biting her inner thigh. When I pass over to her other thigh I hover over her vagina and tease her. When I finally make it to eating her out I vary between light teasing strokes to making it very clear I cannot get enough of her.

Therapy can help some women having difficulty with orgasm. For others, a medical condition or side effects from a medication may be causing the problem. Visit your doctor to rule out these causes. Options for treatment include the following:

You’ve gotta learn how to push her buttons, which is actually really easy when you know how. There’s an awesome guide called Revolutionary Sex that shows you everything and the techniques work so damn good. Here’s a link to the guide: Revolutionary Sex – Give Her The Best Orgasm of Her Life

Once there—NO. BITING. EVER. Like, ever, ever. Seriously, it just hurts. Make sure her knees are still apart at this point, as well as her lips, so you can actually see where you are and what you’re doing.

And once you reach your second, the doors are wide open: “if you can have two, you can have three, four, or more! There is no limit on how many orgasms a woman can experience,” Rose says. If it doesn’t happen the first time, don’t worry—practicing is something you and your partner can both enjoy.

While she’s recuperating from her clitoral climax, give her a g-spot orgasm. It’ll take less and less time for her to come with every orgasm you give her until the point where one starts happening before the last is done.

“Women really are tremendously variable in how readily they orgasm and what makes one woman orgasm can be quite different than what makes another woman orgasm,” said Prof Frederick. “Explicit and direct communication with one’s partner is key.”

Vaginal orgasms are not invariably distinct from clitoral ones and there is a great deal of overlap between these interconnected erogenous zones, says Dr. Jess. “Research suggests that vaginal penetration alone results in orgasm for approximately one-third of women, but  this figure may be misleading, as the vagina and clitoris are not only close neighbors, but are, in fact, connected by a number of nerve pathways and muscular structures! The corpora cavernosa of the clitoris, which are two sponge-like tubes that form the erectile tissue of its body are located around the vaginal canal,” Dr Jess says.

For the former, it’s all about the deep spot, which is sometimes called the A-Spot. Basically you take you middle finger and go all the way back to her cervix. Using just the tip of your middle finger, you press the top of the cervix until she explodes. It works because the cervix contracts during the female orgasm, and so stimulating that contraction causes a very deep full body orgasm that she almost definitely hasn’t experienced before. This is also great for women who can come from the clit but not from penetration. Look up David Shade to learn more about this technique.  If that doesn’t work, hypnosis is the next step.

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Women can struggle to reach orgasm if they aren’t feeling confident about their bodies or the relationship. In fact, women who are confident that they’ll orgasm are more likely to try a change of tactics if something isn’t working for them. A less confident woman may simply give up without getting her prize.

Start off softly, using a relaxed tongue to make slow movements and work up to faster movements with a firmer, pointed tongue. You can experiment with making different patterns with your tongue and try different rhythms – taking cues from your partner as to what she enjoys most.

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Orgasms are not all about foreplay. A recent study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that the consistency of orgasms is more about the length of intercourse than the length of foreplay. And another study in the same journal clocked her average climax seven minutes after penetration. That makes now the ideal time to climb politely aboard and start the final leg of her leg trembler.

The pain on deep penetration is him hitting your cervix. For some women that is extremely uncomfortable, and it can also be painful for days after. Get him not to go so deep, change positions to shallower positions, get him a penis ring that will stop him from going deep, or close your legs with his outside yours. also remember todo lots and lots of kegel exercises to tone your pelvic muscles and keep everything in its place.

#2 Have some lube at the ready. Lube is very important for a variety of reasons. First, not all girls naturally lubricate generously even in their heightened state of arousal. And for beginners, it is safe to have a bottle of lube to ease her with the finger action if  you forgot to properly turn her on.

This is one a lot of men seem to struggle with, but you may be relieved to know it’s actually much simpler to learn how to give a girl orgasms through oral sex than it is to learn how to give her orgasms via penetration.

Personally, it’s a very rare climax where I don’t touch clitoris or have my partner rub it. And by rare, I mean I have to be insanely turned on and not have had sex in a month or so (I go on the road for work).

#9 Experiment with different finger movements. As mentioned, there are many ways to finger a woman. Finding the right type of stimulation sometimes requires you to try various techniques and movements to find out which one makes her moan louder.

One mistake many guys make time and time again is that they often assume oral sex is virtually the same thing as standard intercourse. DO NOT simply thrust your tongue in and out of the vagina as you would with your penis. The tongue does not provide enough friction and is not long or thick enough to make this pleasurable. In general, stick to areas that are easier to access—like the clitoris. The clitoris is a woman’s most sensitive erogenous zone and, when stimulated correctly, leads to mind-blowing orgasms. Tease her for a while by lightly circling it with your tongue. Then try taking it into your mouth and gently sucking on it while softly flicking your tongue over the area—almost like a French kiss.

Ricardus was one of the most prolific and respected coaches in the men’s dating advice industry. He’s dated some of the planet’s most beautiful women, ranging from a Miss World contestant, to a model for Coca-Cola, to one “Brazil’s Next Top Models.” His specialty is daytime street stops. He is most remembered for his “Are you single?” opening line. Ricardus is currently retired from the dating advice industry.

Woman-on-Top. The woman kneels over the man’s hips. The man makes a fist and places it at the junction of the lovers’ pelvises. The woman leans forward, presses her clitoris against the fist and moves in any way that erotically excites her. Or the woman or man presses a vibrator into her clitoris.

You don’t necessarily have to go down on her for several hours – just a few minutes of oral sex can do wonders for your foreplay. Ask her what feels good and if there’s anything that would make it better. Make sure you are both in a comfortable position, or you’ll end up with an unsexy crick in your neck.

Ready for this advice? Every time you go down on her it will be different. Something that worked the time before may not work the next time and something she liked yesterday may be uncomfortable for her today. Some things she may always like, but if she’s anything like me, each day is different, and it’s always constant communication.

It’s unfortunate that anon can’t conveniently follow up, but I’d add to all the good above advice (particularly TPS, paulSC and Miko) – are you sure that what you describe as simply accepting a blow-off answer from the doc isn’t her way of telling you that she’s okay with things as they are and to just let it be?

Smell is the strongest of the five senses when it comes to sexual functioning for two reasons: First, since anything musky mimics testosterone, it’ll kick her libido into high gear. Baby powder can have a similar effect by activating her “scent print,” which links babies to procreation. Second, because smell, sex and memory centers share close quarters in the brain, the scent of arousal leaves the most lasting impression. The second she gets a whiff of your musky cologne, she’ll be transported back to the last time she smelled it on your body.

Get her juices flow before engaging her bell skin-to-skin. Her body needs time to get physically aroused, and most often that takes longer than it does for men. Cup her groin in one hand on the outside of her clothing and place your four fingers on her warmest area.

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In the bottom third of the ellipse is the vaginal entrance. Push the tip of your tongue slightly inside. The walls of the vaginal opening are extremely sensitive, always approach them slowly and gently. The tip of your tongue, being soft and wet, should give her a feeling of pleasure.

Women should be having an orgasm (or more) every single time they have sex. If they’re not, the man she’s having sex with needs to learn how to do it. Every woman is capable of having the orgasm, but it’ll never happen if he doesn’t know how to give it to her. Women always climax when they masturbate, the only difference is the person giving the stimulation. Learn how to have sex, start here with 3 tricks you can use to become a sex god: http://ia69.co/sexgod/

When we orgasm, it is a response of the nervous system to sexual stimulation. Both men and women can experience orgasm under certain conditions, typically following genital stimulation, but there is a lot of variation in people’s orgasm experiences, says Justin Garcia, Scientific Advisor for Match.com. 

According to most studies, only between 30 and 50 percent of women can achieve orgasm through penetration alone. Even of those who can, the ones who come consistently through sex might number a small percentage.

When it comes to a long-lasting, sensational bedroom session, foreplay is an absolute must.  This is why learning how to stimulate your woman down south with the hardest working muscle of the body—the tongue—is incredibly important.  After all, receiving oral is the sole way many ladies are actually able to achieve a leg-shaking climax.  Here, we outline a step-by-step guide on how to touch, rub, and lick her lady bits for a mind-blowing finish!

Secondly, there’s tongue ache. If your tongue starts to get tired, take a quick time out and gently suck her clitoris or kiss around the vaginal area. After a couple of seconds you can go back to licking.

Reaching orgasm is one of the peaks of sexual experience, but surprisingly, this can be challenging for a lot of women. Apparently, one-third of women have never had an orgasm — and even fewer have ever experienced multiple orgasms.

Seconded. It’s also a killjoy if you don’t come and your partner gets all down on themself, or if they can’t accept feedback without feeling threatened, etc. If you’re giving oral, the focus should absolutely be on the person you’re giving oral to, not your ego or self-esteem. (Edited for heteronormativity.)

You should take pleasure in feeling her body tense up, in hearing her moan, and even in her taste and smell. And why not? She’s getting hot, and it’s because of what you’re doing to her. That’s very sexy. [Read: 11 hot and easy ways for men to get way better in bed!]

And just so we are clear, the term guide is used for many things, one such use is for games, however all it is a walkthrough compiled by many people who took time on how to achieve particular goals by following the guide.

If you’re in the right position, can simultaneously caress her body with your hands while your tongue is busy. The breasts, inner thighs and backs of the knees are all erogenous zones, so stroking them will make her feel great.

This might sound weird, but I love the feeling of my spouse’s beard on my vaginal opening while he’s going to town on my clit. He’ll even press his chin hard against it because he knows it drives me wild. It just feels sooooooo good to me.

Woman-on-Top. The woman kneels over the man’s hips. The man makes a fist and places it at the junction of the lovers’ pelvises. The woman leans forward, presses her clitoris against the fist and moves in any way that erotically excites her. Or the woman or man presses a vibrator into her clitoris.

The risk of HIV transmission from oral sex is very low. The main risks arise if the person receiving oral sex has an STI or sores on their genital area, or if the person giving oral sex has sores in their mouth or bleeding gums.

(1) Don’t expect her to have orgasms during intercourse. On TV and in movies and pornography, women always seem to have orgasms during intercourse. That’s much more fantasy than reality. In real sex, only about one-quarter of women are consistently orgasmic during intercourse. The old in-and-out can be great fun, but it brings only a minority of women to orgasm. Three-quarters of women need direct stimulation of the clitoris.

“I love [giving oral sex] because it seems to be one of the most pleasurable things you can do for a woman. To hear and feel her reactions from that incredibly intimate point of contact is both bonding and super sexy, for me.” — Logan*, 22

“I had a client who would regularly have 30 to 40 orgasms in a session with her man. She may be the extreme, but having one to five is totally normal and doable for any woman,” says holistic sex and relationship expert Kim Anami.

Giving good oral is a knack. Like any other skill, all you can do to develop it is practice and repetition. It takes some time to be able to tune into a woman and intuitively read her arousal blueprint. But I promise it’s not as hard and mysterious as everyone makes it out to be.

If you choose the first option, then your task is to keep your partner’s pleasure heightened. Try changing positions to see which is most pleasurable. Once you find the right technique, keep at it until you’ve reached your desired result. Have confidence in your endurance and let your penis do what it was made for!

Talking to your partner about protection before you start having oral sex will help things go more smoothly. This can be embarrassing, but it’s an important part of having sex – and if you find it too difficult to discuss then it could be a sign that you aren’t ready to start having oral sex just yet.

Today I’m going to give you a series of basic techniques designed to give your beloved woman the very best in erotic, physical pleasure. In my experience, the clitoris is the most consistent source of orgasm for the majority of women. There are other ways to bring a woman to orgasm, of course, but this is where I encourage you to start.

Some women can only come with a clitoris, enjoying penetration afterwards, without a climax. Nothing wrong with that! If your partner prefers clitoris orgasm, don’t rush and make her scream just by touching and licking her tiny clit.

I’ve had many orgasms with men in the past during intercourse but only once with my husband. I am very turned on by him but for some reason no matter what I/he or we do I can’t seem to orgasm. I love my husband, am very turned on by him so what is the issue?

– The vaginal canal. This tube of muscle is designed to accommodate a penis and allow the passage of a fetus during birth making it very sensitive to insertion pressure. Human fingers on the other hand, have lesser volume compared to a penis but being moveable makes for various stimulation possibilities.

You can also use her hands to spread her labia, giving you better access. Or try pushing up the hood of the clitoris to let you reach the more sensitive part with your tongue (this is a move for later in the game, not right at the beginning).

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Your partner will soon be on the verge of orgasm. The you have two options: opt for penetration if you think you can last long enough her to come (careful – you run the risk of leaving her frustrated if you can’t make it long enough), or continue with the method described above and start stimulating the third location, which will give her immense pleasure. Either way, don’t let the excitement stop building (unfortunately, this can happen very quickly).

While TV and movies would have us believe that all women are walking around desperate to have someone go down on them, according to a somewhat recent Esquire poll, 10 percent of the women they talked to said they didn’t like receiving oral at all. And a whopping 44 percent of women said it could be “nice” every once in awhile. What gives?

Mic asked millennial men why they enjoy performing oral sex on their female partners, whether they think it’s important to having a vibrant sex life and whether they think they’re any good at going down. 

#6 Keep communication open. Keeping communication open is a good way to monitor your “progress.” This can be done simply by asking her if she’s enjoying what you’re doing with your fingers. You could also include dirty talk by telling her how you like her response to your stimulation which turns her on further.

Generally speaking, touching or pressing the clitoris, directly or indirectly, during intercourse will increase a woman’s potential to orgasm. Otherwise, it’s like trying to get somewhere in an elevator without pressing the button. Here are a few tips to help you and your partner have a more pleasurable, intense sexual experience:

Increase the speed if she seems to like it and find a thrusting pattern that works. The ideal position is with you in front of her vagina and kneeling in front of her since this gives you full control over your hand.

Warm her up by keeping your touch gentle and slow-motion. Kiss, lick and tease her thighs and the sides of her pussy. Softly make out with it exactly like you would her mouth. Stop and use just your fingers for a little bit. Trace slow circles on her clit, then switch to rapid lateral micro-strokes, as if you were trying to gently rub a small stain out of your t-shirt. Using your middle and ring finger together works best here.

Some guys will jump head first off the high dive into her lap and start lapping her up like their lives depended on it. There’s a time and a place for that, but her experience will be way more pleasurable if you start out very, very slow.

What happens in a woman’s body during a climax is very like what happens in your (male) body when you ejaculate. In other words, there’s a feeling of increasing excitement, building up to a point where everything ‘blows’ in a great blast of ecstasy.

Invest at least three minutes of your total 15 in kissing. Studies by Lafayette College in the US found that kissing reduces levels of the stress hormone cortisol, quickening the time it takes to turn you both on. As you pay lip service, tilt your head to the right – scientists in Germany found this makes you seem more caring, flooding her system with the ‘connection’ chemical oxytocin, building trust and encouraging her to come quickly.

One of the best “you on top” positions to get a woman off is a missionary while putting pressure on the clitoris with the lower pelvis/area right above the base of your penis. Rub hard into it on the in- and out-stroke.

If you do not orgasm during intercourse, it is not because you are not having a vaginal orgasm, but because like so many women, your clitoris does not get enough stimulation during intercourse. You need to godown a different path to solve that, and yes, you also need to solve the pain issues.

Touch her as close as possible to the way she touches herself. Her body is likely used orgasming in a particular way and you need to mimic that. Once it happens you can vary the fun more but you need to get over the, pardon me, hump.

In all my years of performing fellatio, I have observed one constant, each man likes to be pleasured differently. What works for John doesn’t make Sean c*m and what keeps Robert’s toes curling, doesn’t phase Tom. One thing all men seem to love though,  is when you swallow their juices like unwanted gum. But there’s a long way to go before you get there.

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The clitoris is all about rhythm, but at the start, giving a steady rhythm like this, then breaking it is a great tease. You will feel her body push towards you trying to get the touch it was just becoming accustomed to. Repeat this for about a minute – six full licks followed by one lick that pulls away at the last second.

Ricardus was one of the most prolific and respected coaches in the men’s dating advice industry. He’s dated some of the planet’s most beautiful women, ranging from a Miss World contestant, to a model for Coca-Cola, to one of “Brazil’s Next Top Models.” His specialty is daytime street stops. He is most remembered for his “Are you single?” opening line. Ricardus is currently retired from the dating advice industry.

Virginity is a social construct. Also the gspot is a lie. Penetration is painful for most women to some degree. Very delicate tissues. You should be critical of what society has brainwashed women into doing. Don’t let yourself be pressured into penetration. You don’t ever have to do it. In my opinion the risk are not worth the perceived pleasure.

Although we will never be perfect in accounting for every possible diversity, there is much we can learn from each other that can change the way we interact and communicate our ideas with less potential for discriminatory interpretation and causing heterosexist repercussions, such as those I previously described in my other comment. Speaking to your initial point, it doesn’t matter whether or not the article was written for a majority of heterosexual students. (Does that mean that discrimination is OK as long as you don’t discriminate on the “in-group”/majority group, compared to the “out-group”/minority group?) The actual article is unremarkable to this discussion insofar as there is still a belief that, as you state, “The title…“A Guy’s Guide to Oral Sex”…seems properly worded enough…because that’s what the article is about” continues to be the current position. That is, in fact, not what the article is geared up to be to many people. Therefore, in the context of this discussion and article, it is important to recognize that not only guys give oral sex to women (lesbian women, etc.), and that not all guys that are giving oral sex are giving such to women (gay men, etc.) A more appropriate title would be “Guide to Giving Women Oral Sex” where it does not assume that the person giving oral sex is neither a man, woman, nor anything in between, and does not assume that what is contained in the article is only informative to “guys”. I know quite a few lesbian women that would love to know #1-5!

Please, please, please…. buy her a vibrator… or get her a gift certificate for some place like Good Vibrations. It doesn’t have to be a mega-scary machine… they make small cute ones that are adjustable so she can get a speed she likes which won’t hurt or make her feel numb.

We’ll tell you what gives. While tons of people like to brag that they are gifted when it comes to pleasuring a woman with oral sex, they probably aren’t. And to make matters worse, a lot of us are too embarrassed to call the shots and guide someone when they are down there. Nope, we grin and bear it and most of the time even give the person a pat on the back for their efforts. Awkward.

Remember that women’s sexual arousal builds up gradually, and it can progress more slowly than a man’s arousal. For that reason, it is always best to start giving a woman oral sex slowly and softly. She may be very sensitive, especially at the start, and going too hard or too fast can be overwhelming. Some women cannot tolerate direct contact with their clitoris and need to have the area pretty wet for it to be comfortable. Others will prefer that you always lick across the clitoris over the skin that covers it so that you don’t have direct contact with it. Some will prefer that you incorporate licking over the U-Spot as well. By going slow you have a chance to explore the area and find out just what she likes and where. A good example to follow is thinking about how you would lick an ice-cream cone. You can start off with a wide, soft tongue and take it from there. This is also less tiring, so you can go on for a longer period of time. If she wants you lick harder or have a pointier tongue, she will let you know.

I was sort of a late-bloomer to the whole O thing. And at first, I wasn’t even very good at getting myself off (like the plateau thing your GF describes). But it’s like riding a bicycle (horrible metaphor, yes). Once you know how, you just can.

However, if you’re all freaked out by this and making a big deal about it, then you need to back off. You can’t FORCE someone to come, and trying like HELL repeatedly will make her feel broken or inaqequate. Be anamazing lover, but don’t put her in the spotlight every time you get into bed and try to make this time “the” time constantly. That is tiresome.

Now, many women say their best orgasms happen courtesy of the man’s tongue or hand or a vibrator. But for women desiring orgasms during intercourse, these simple variations just might allow a woman to enjoy a new erotic pleasure. Happy experimentation. Please comment on your results.

Congratulations. You found the G-spot. In cases like this, there’s a lot more to it than that. Don’t underestimate the emotional situation. If you are making her feel inadequate, you are undermining the whole thing. If you stop concentrating on your own enjoyment because you’re OBSESSED with making her come, then you’re denying her the pleasure of pleasing you. Don’t be a freak about it.

Seconded. It’s also a killjoy if you don’t come and your partner gets all down on themself, or if they can’t accept feedback without feeling threatened, etc. If you’re giving oral, the focus should absolutely be on the person you’re giving oral to, not your ego or self-esteem. (Edited for heteronormativity.)

“After your first orgasm, take a moment or two to savor the afterglow before you start building arousal back up again. Your next orgasm might be mere minutes away,” Rose says. Focus on your breathing: “When people get sexually excited, they tend to hold the breath or breathe really shallow,” Anami says. “The more you can practice deep, steady you’ll relax, stay in the present moment, and also increase the power and pleasure of your orgasm.”

About 10% of women have never had an orgasm — either with a partner or during masturbation. And quite a few of them have found their way into my therapy practice. That’s when I tell these women the good news: It is possible to learn to be orgasmic.

At this point, your vacuum of a tongue might feel a little tired. It’s expected. Combat this by throwing in some side-to-side flicks instead of up-and-down ones, as they tend to be less strenuous on the muscle.

Just moving your hips could mean a lot of things. I don’t blame him for not getting that. If you want him in a particular spot either say so, Grab his hair and and direct his “workings” or flat out tell him.

If you don’t have the staying power to keep going with penetrative sex, one answer lies in becoming amazing at oral sex. And you can also spend lots more time on foreplay and focus on finding the best position and movement for your partner so that you can bring that time down.

Whether you are thinking about having oral sex for the first time or just want some more information – read on for tips on how to have oral sex safely and pleasurably, and answers to some of the most common questions.

#9 Experiment with different finger movements. As mentioned, there are many ways to finger a woman. Finding the right type of stimulation sometimes requires you to try various techniques and movements to find out which one makes her moan louder.

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“When you start doing something that causes a positive response, keep doing it, at exactly the same speed and pressure.” Save your new technique for next time. Since you’ve just orchestrated a 15-minute orgasm with shuttle-launch precision, that’s something she’ll be demanding very soon.

For those feeling nervous about performing oral sex, it may help to send up a prayer — and try the praying position first. Eric Marlowe Garrison, clinical sexologist and bestselling author of Mastering Multiple Position Sex, says of his favorite hands-on oral technique, “Because I believe that perfect practice makes perfect, something I learned from my high school marching band director, it’s important that she help him with his technique. One of the ways that I’d recommend this happen is that she places her hands as though she’s praying, and she drops them down to where her vulva is. She can do this fully clothed, or she can do this partially clothed, or she can do this naked. With her thumb as the clitoris and the space between the two index fingers as the introitus, she can talk to him about how and where he needs to use his fingers, tongue or toys. She can also ask her partner to put his hands in the same position, and then show him how it can be done.”

But for women it’s usually quite different. Sometimes maintaining stimulation after orgasm can cause you to cruise right into another one. Or, you might be able to dial back stimulation for a few seconds and then ramp it right back up again to bring her to climax. I find this works relatively often.

EDIT: Holy fuck, was NOT expecting this kind of response. Read through the comments and thought I’d summarize the additions etc. people had to make. (including edits to my original post). Thanks all you lovely people for your additional advice!

It always amazes me to read ‘how to’ sex advice by men on how to please the woman. This article is a typical example of how you totally miss the point. This article totally ignores the simple things that men can do to help sex be more satisfying for the woman. There is no mention of men having good hygiene and smelling good and looking good and having a good relationship with their partner. Men don’t listen to the women or take the time to actually ask them to tell them what they want in bed. Perhaps if you encouraged men to take better care of themselves and develop their relationships, the women would respond with more orgasms. The build up of the satisfaction of sex precedes the actual act of sexual intercourse. And there’s no mention in this article of allowing her to be on top, a no brainer I thought (I was wrong). Why does this not surprise me? Perhaps if the author actually talked to women and asked their opinion, he wouldn’t be so eager to suggest that men bring the vibrator out and just get it over with already. Sort of like saying, don’t bother, it won’t work anyway so just get the vibrator already. Perhaps he wouldn’t make as much money if he didn’t just repeat what most men want to hear already. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with vibrators, but I thought the whole point of this article was help on sex tips.