#7 Pay attention to her reaction. Most people find it hot to watch a girl’s reaction as she is fingered. But aside from this, watching her reaction tells if a particular movement of your fingers is actually pleasurable or not. This guides you for which type of fingering technique you need to sustain to be able to bring her to an orgasm.
For the former, it’s all about the deep spot, which is sometimes called the A-Spot. Basically you take you middle finger and go all the way back to her cervix. Using just the tip of your middle finger, you press the top of the cervix until she explodes. It works because the cervix contracts during the female orgasm, and so stimulating that contraction causes a very deep full body orgasm that she almost definitely hasn’t experienced before. This is also great for women who can come from the clit but not from penetration. Look up David Shade to learn more about this technique. If that doesn’t work, hypnosis is the next step.
Read the answer Ella González wrote. Your wife is a right person, she is a right female, she is completely normal, there is nothing wrong with her. Sexual intercourse is probably not the optimum way to gratify a woman. It certainly can be fun
Don’t forget that by taking a little time with foreplay, women can have an orgasm before the intercourse has even begun. This then takes some of the pressure off how long the man needs to last for because we’re already satisfied.
There’s only one rule about anal stimulation and it’s “No surprises!” If your woman is up for some experimenting, then use your pinky finger to LIGHTLY penetrate her anus. Make sure your hand is sideways and, just to be safe, keep fingering her vagina at the same time you slip it in.
Deciding whether to have oral sex is a very personal thing. The main things to consider are whether it feels right, and whether you and your partner are both sure. Our article ‘Am I ready for sex?’ will help you think about this.
When this tender technique gets a teensy bit repetitive/bland, that’s when you should amp things up a bit. Experiment with how much pressure she enjoys, without taking it too far. How do you know if you’ve taken it too far? She’ll have kneed your head out her sanctuary by then. But for the most part, slowly rev things up and see how she reacts via her moans and hip movements.
The most widely used lube is saliva. It’s wet, free, and always available, but saliva dries quickly and it’s not very Vegetable oil is another possibility, but it can be messy and stain linens. Try commercial lubricants. They’re safe, inexpensive, and slippery. If they dry out, they can be refreshed with a few drops of water, or just apply a bit more. But don’t squirt lubricants directly on women’s genitals. That can feel cold and jarring. Squeeze some into your hand, rub it with your fingers to warm it, then touch her. Lubricants are available at pharmacies, near the condoms.
i have been looking up on this for a while as i feel really bad my wife can not orgasam during sex i would love to be able to find her g spot im really good with her clit as this is the only way she can cum. so i have set my self a little task as we are going to a ball this friday and im hoping to try this as she will feel a little more relaxed as she dosent like me fingering her so what i have learnd so far.
A great lover is a very good thing to be. Your partner will be more giving, and you’ll have more confidence meeting a new woman knowing that you can make her come. Giving great oral sex is the key to being a great lover, so get out there and try out these 8 tips and techniques. She’ll be glad you did, and so will you!
Men under 50 need to understand that it often takes women quite a while to become highly aroused, like 30 to 45 minutes. That’s why men should not jump into vaginal intercourse. They should allow women the time they need to become sufficiently aroused to actually enjoy intercourse. That’s why whole-body touching is so important. Touching women all over (not just their breast and between their legs) but everywhere from their scalp to their feet not only gives them the time they need to become highly aroused and ready for genital play, it also makes genital sex more enjoyable because whole-body arousal increases genital sensitivity to touch. The same is true for men.
Then, use the longest finger of your right hand and move it slowly to the entrance of her vagina. Once you can feel her wetness, push your finger inside (again, move nice and slow). Your hand should be facing upwards, so that your finger can caress the front wall of her vagina, at the famous “G-spot.” Do this while continuing clitoral stimulation with your tongue.
Some girls get aroused by seeing you lose yourself to desire. If she wants to go down on you, let her, but don’t dare force her to. If you’re about to come in her mouth, tell her so, and if she’s ok with it, do it. Some girls get turned on by this. Some girls hate it. Some girls want you to come first because it turns them on. Some girls want to come together with you. Some want to come before you.
If you choose the first option, then your task is to keep your partner’s pleasure heightened. Try changing positions to see which is most pleasurable. Once you find the right technique, keep at it until you’ve reached your desired result. Have confidence in your endurance and let your penis do what it was made for!
“Circles with your tongue are great. I hate flicking. I see it in porn all the time and I don’t get it. Let your tongue be wide and slightly firm, I HATE that thing when a tongue gets all hard and pointy at the tip.”
I wonder if it’s just my personality sometimes because I’m a giver in general, but I think sometimes I may want to try “taking” and focus on that a little. There is someone that “plays” with me and when he touches me I feel like I want more and would want that, but it’s never really been a thing of mine so it’s a little confusing. But then I do really love giving, it’s a lot of fun for me, and I get off on giving pleasure, so I don’t know. It’s been a very long time for me, so I don’t actually know anymore 🙂
I have been able to have that “pee” sensation before and have let go and “ejaculated” but it felt about as good as actually releasing pee (meaning it was DEFINITELY not an orgasm or orgasmic feeling. Just a neat little party trick that does nothing for me. I have heard some women don’t feel that great with them but I would really love for this “need to pee” sensation to be more then just feeling like I actually just DID pee and that was all.
Turns out it’s actually a really good signal when a woman gives you the finger — she’s talking about this move. If she wants it hard and fast, give the finger back right back to her by putting your middle finger inside, and thrusting it in and out of her like a penis.
Ricardus was one of the most prolific and respected coaches in the men’s dating advice industry. He’s dated some of the planet’s most beautiful women, ranging from a Miss World contestant, to a model for Coca-Cola, to one of “Brazil’s Next Top Models.” His specialty is daytime street stops. He is most remembered for his “Are you single?” opening line. Ricardus is currently retired from the dating advice industry.
Another vote for the vibrator. It’s not going to desensitize her unless she’s using it 24 hours a day for days on end. Even if she does feel a little desensitized at first, this will go away within a few hours, a day or two at the most. I would rather feel a little dull down there for a day than never have felt an orgasm in my life.
Explore with foreplay. Sometimes you may feel ready for intercourse immediately, while other times you may want your partner to first touch, rub, kiss, or lick your vulva and clitoris, using his hands, mouth, or penis. Oral sex can be highly pleasurable to many women because of its direct focus on the clitoris. Women describe intense orgasms through oral sex.