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(3) Slow down. Extended sensual warm-up time helps women have orgasms. Compared with men, most women need considerably more time to warm up to genital play. Forget the wham bam you see in porn. When making love, do everything at half speed. Sex therapists recommend at least 30 minutes of kissing, cuddling, and whole-body sensual caressing before reaching between her legs.

Wow. I’ve got news for you fella, I don’t know what planet you’re from, but on Earth anyone born with a vagina IS in FACT a girl/woman. Anyone who would tell you otherwise apparently failed Junior High School biology class or they value pseudo “political- correctness” over cold, hard facts. Also, “shutting down entire avenues of self-identity” isn’t damaging anyone any more than they’ve already been damaged by being born freaks who don’t even know whether or not they are male or female! And aside from that, nobody gives a shit whether or not sex workers are being sexually fulfilled through cunnilingus or anything else. And in case you were unaware, prostitution is stigmatized because it’s not only illegitimate but also illegal in most countries on Earth. God didn’t give us the gift of lovemaking so we could sell our asses on a street corner or to the highest bidder, but so that a man and women can express their love for each other. Also I doubt if you’re really that busy if you had enough time to write all that nonsense.

Diving straight in, especially with dry fingers can be quite painful to a woman. Foreplay will bring some natural lubrication to her vagina, and establish a trusting mood. Work your way slowly down her body paying close attention to her breasts. Even once you’re there, kiss her inner thighs and slowly get closer to her lips. This teasing builds her anticipation and gets her ready for what’s next.

In fact, let’s be real. There’s a huge number of us out there who can’t even reach an orgasm from penetration alone, not to mention the fact that there are also a ton of us who have partners who weren’t born with the equipment to have hetero sex. But all that doesn’t matter.

What we really need is some added attention to our clitoris during foreplay. You can use your fingers while kissing and caressing at the same time. Or better still, you can be a gentleman and use your tongue.

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When this tender technique gets a teensy bit repetitive/bland, that’s when you should amp things up a bit. Experiment with how much pressure she enjoys, without taking it too far. How do you know if you’ve taken it too far? She’ll have kneed your head out her sanctuary by then. But for the most part, slowly rev things up and see how she reacts via her moans and hip movements.

1) Please communicate. The advice I had doesn’t work on all girls, and there’s nothing but lovely fuzzy sexy orgasms to be had if you just check with your lady-friend about what they like. Do they like very gentle touching? Do they like more insistent touching? Do they like being teased for ages? Do they want your tongue on their clit? Just ask and incorporate (Please don’t have an actual conversation while eating her out, do it before sexytimes. If you don’t want to ruin the sexiness of it all, make it clear to her that she should tell you if she wants you to change anything you’re doing, and start on the gentler side.)

I was with a guy once who was enthusiastically performing oral on me. I had told him ahead of time that it feels nice bt that I’ve never met a guy that could make me climax that way. Well, this one was different. I don’t remember what he did, but I started feeling that warm, beautiful tension building. I was quickly approaching the point of no return. I murmured “don’t stop, I’m gonna cum” and he was SO pleased that he got totally thrown off and yeah. That’s how I almost came for the first time in my life without my Hitachi (haven’t ever been able to do it with my fingers)

As I guy, my advice is that if any other guy or girl tells you not to masturbate to just ignore them. not cheating and it’s definitely easier for girls to orgasm if they masturbate and know their bodies well.

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Firstly, always ask permission first. You may be in the mood to pleasure your partner, but check in with them first. If your partner isn’t in the mood, then don’t be disappointed. Allowing a space in a relationship for either partner to say no without consequence removes many unnecessary barriers regarding sex. Knowing that you both have the freedom to take a rain check creates much more trust and intimacy in your sexual relating than if you react negatively to their “no.”

Place your left hand on top of her pubic bone (at her lower belly) and apply pressure in a circular motion to a point directly above the one you’re already caressing internally (if this isn’t clear yet, keep reading and it will make sense). You should be stimulating the same spot from two directions (on the outside with the left hand and from the inside with the right hand, if you’re following me exactly!) You are now in the process of stimulating three of your partner’s most sensitive spots!

Below are some items on how to help a woman get an orgasm. Always note, however, that getting a woman to enjoy sex is not the same thing as getting her to have an orgasm, since women can enjoy other things with sex more than the orgasm. Thus, if a man wants his woman to be happy, it may be more important to provide closeness and love rather than orgasm. Most women are not satisfied if the man enters them too early, but that is not because of lack of orgasm but because of lack of love and intimacy.

In the plateau phase (see diagram above) a woman is highly aroused, both physically and mentally, and she can remain in that state for some time without reaching orgasm unless additional stimulation is applied to take her over into the orgasm phase.

Seriously? You felt it necessary to chastise an individual for creatively expressing their experience simply to, in my personal opinion, further whatever ideal you are trying to glorify, which i can only assume is egalitarianism in nature. This article was not meant to breed socio-political correctness, it was an informational piece about pleasing a woman/female (in the sense that the human race has been signifying since the dawn of written/spoken word). This article isn’t a ‘bash’ nor exclusion of anyone; if you are not looking to amplify your sex life with a genetic female…then the article isn’t for you. Plain and simple. Your comment is a direct representation of what is wrong with society today…people wanting individualism without sacrificing separatism. If, in fact, society rid itself of all its descriptors chaos would ensue. Think that’s a bit overboard? Misunderstanding or a lack of comprehensiveness is what strife and wars. We don’t need to suppress authors like this from using descriptors…we need to stop objectifying every word each of us says as being oppressive. Much like your response to this author was. An oppression of free expression. So my question to you is…are you practicing what you preach?

Obviously, we don’t need to convince how great an orgasm is, but there are actually benefits beyond just pleasure. “Touch, pleasure and orgasms all have a host of health benefits including boosting your immune system, regulating sleep cycles, alleviating anxiety and depression, and creating emotional wellbeing,” says Chris Rose, sex educator at PleasureMechanics.com. Plus, she adds, the more pleasure you feel, the more adept your body becomes at releasing the pleasure hormones, so it becomes a positive feedback loop. In addition to the chemical and hormonal benefits, orgasms also lead to greater degrees of emotional release and openness for the woman. (Read more! Your Brain On: An Orgasm.)

While this guide was written primarily for an audience of heterosexual males, I don’t know if that is automatic grounds for deeming it discriminatory and ignorant. One of the points of the article is that guys, being guys, do not have an intuitive knowledge of the female body, and that following the advice given might help guys be able to make foreplay and oral sex more pleasurable for women. Whether or not men need guide on how to eat out women more than women do, I can’t say, but its an important part of the purpose of the article that I don’t think can be ignored.

Below is some discussion about how to help a woman get an orgasm. Important to note is that obtaining an orgasm may not be what is most important for her. Maybe other things are more important. Do not feel forced to obtain orgasm for the woman, unless this is her own wish.

And perhaps the most obvious sign of her bodily arousal is production of vaginal lubrication, sometimes in large quantities, so much so that she may feel the wetness growing and seeping outwards into her underwear.

And over the last 10 years or so, I’ve made somewhere between 20 and 30 women have multiple orgasms in just a few minutes… (I’m not a male gigolo; just a very horny man in Miami, a city with plenty of “resources” in the female department).

Also when you or she feels like she is about to “pee” or you want to make sure she is not faking it just move your fingers back about an 1/2 inch to an inch and you should feel it start to sort of balloon up i guess you could say and then just carefuly press on it and almost flaten it out and she will cum hope this helps!

@Danny, I don’t understand how Austin’s original post merits such a mocking, condescending response. Although I did not have as strong a reaction to this article as Austin did, I understand and sympathize with his argument. Austin’s point may seem overly-sensitive to you, but both of you bring different experiences to your reading. I find it tasteless to attack his criticisms, especially in the dehumanizing way by which you do it.

Once you make it to her clit and vagina, gently lick all around. Direct stimulation can be too intense for some, so explore the surrounding area. Ask her where she likes to be touched. You don’t have to be rough with your mouth unless she wants you to. It’s always best to start off slow, unless she specifically requests otherwise. Some women do like it when you roughly use your tongue and mouth, but only do so if she asks.

I would like to ADD, it would be great if there was more porn for women, like girl friendly stuff. Dont take the men out of porn but have hotter, younger guys with less body hair and obviously nice looking penises.

Allow her to take the lead: If you really want her to get more epic orgasms, then don’t call all the shots. Allow her to take the lead as well and control the rhythm of things. Give her a chance when you have aroused her enough to get into the act. This will really help her be her best in bed and you should find the experience to be a lot more satisfying than you could possibly imagine.

She said that a doctor (a nonspecialist) once told her that “some women just can’t have an orgasm.” While this may be true on some level, I got the feeling it was just a dismissive answer–the guy didn’t do any sort of examination. She has basically accepted the diagnosis (which is easy to do if you don’t know what you’re missing!)

I’m going to go one step further than this and suggest that that you go ahead and experiment with different techniques, positions and whatever under the specific understanding that she is not going to have an orgasm and you’re not going to try to give her one. The difference between “If it happens, it happens” and “It’s not going to happen” is that the latter gets rid of the last little bit of anxiety.

“Swallow – You know what I’m talking about! If you’re doing it right, it will be inevitable that she will urinate in your mouth. Don’t be afraid. Encourage her. And when she does, give her the same courtesy you’d expect and swallow every drop.”

When you’re with a partner and you feel like the big O just isn’t going to happen, don’t resort to faking it. First of all, if he finds out, he’ll be really hurt. Second of all, that’s not going to help you in the future – if a guy thinks he’s doing the right thing (but he’s actually not), he’s just going to do it again. Instead, instruct him on what to do. Believe it or not, guys love the advice.

Your man wants nothing more than to see you orgasm one or twice (don’t worry, he’ll catch up!). “Most lovers are generous and willing and take pleasure in seeing their women enjoy more than one orgasm—but many women have a hard time receiving so much attention and letting the erotic focus be on their own pleasure,” says Rose. If you want to experience the thrills, give yourself permission to be the star of the sexual experience. If you have any worries like “I’m taking too long” or “He must be getting bored down there,” then no amount of great stimulation will help. (Learn how to Have an Amazing Orgasm: Eliminate Distraction.)

I was sort of a late-bloomer to the whole O thing. And at first, I wasn’t even very good at getting myself off (like the plateau thing your GF describes). But it’s like riding a bicycle (horrible metaphor, yes). Once you know how, you just can.

As a woman, who has been trained as a physician, and has a habit of giving books on sex to any couple silly enough to invite me to their wedding, I have to chime in here and agree with Sam Kelly that IT DEPENDS.

What this means is that his penis doesn’t go all the way into the vagina. Instead, the stem or root of it is pulled hard against the clitoris – producing great sensations in that all-important little organ.

#6 Keep communication open. Keeping communication open is a good way to monitor your “progress.” This can be done simply by asking her if she’s enjoying what you’re doing with your fingers. You could also include dirty talk by telling her how you like her response to your stimulation which turns her on further.

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I agree with the CAT position, it seems to work well. But in the end, it still seems like a woman is much like a car on a cold winter day; they need warming up. From what I’ve learned from my partners and friends is that men mostly just don’t take the time to “warm them up.” Also, men make it a lot about themselves and less about the woman–this is what my friends sentiment is. Also, just being a fun lover is what women want more than anything, a guy who just makes sex fun. Women are usually pretty insecure about their bodies even if they are what we men would call a 10. From my experience, women have to just get out of their heads and worry less about themselves physically. Regardless of positions or angles, or anything else–it starts in their heads unlike us.

Move your tongue in an up and down motion, or side to side. But keep up a rhythm, slow at first then building up. The clitoris is sensitive at the beginning, so going straight at it hard and fast with the tip of your tongue is likely to turn her off.

Start by kissing your partner down there – on her inner thighs and lower belly, gradually approaching the clitoris. Start gently licking. Do not apply too much pressure! It’s full of sensitive nerve endings, so be gentle!

In one study, researchers worked with 36 women who could not have orgasms in the missionary position. Half the women were encouraged to masturbate to become more comfortable with their genitals and their sexual responsiveness, a standard approach in sex therapy. The others were taught the CAT. Based on diaries kept during the 21-day period after this training, the masturbation group reported a 27 percent increase in orgasms during missionary-position intercourse, while the CAT group reported twice the increase, 56 percent.

For reference, this seems to be a tl;dr of one chapter of “She Comes First”, aka “Cunnilingus for Dummies.” It’s fairly enlightening and, for lack of a better word, educational – basic technique, mindset, it goes over the basics and then some. If anything, it’ll give you ideas. Would recommend.

This is the kind of information that a man trying to make a woman come needs to know – for example, it is often a better idea for him to give her an orgasm before entering her and enjoying his own orgasm.

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1) Please communicate. The advice I had doesn’t work on all girls, and there’s nothing but lovely fuzzy sexy orgasms to be had if you just check with your lady-friend about what they like. Do they like very gentle touching? Do they like more insistent touching? Do they like being teased for ages? Do they want your tongue on their clit? Just ask and incorporate (Please don’t have an actual conversation while eating her out, do it before sexytimes. If you don’t want to ruin the sexiness of it all, make it clear to her that she should tell you if she wants you to change anything you’re doing, and start on the gentler side.)

EDIT: Holy fuck, was NOT expecting this kind of response. Read through the comments and thought I’d summarize the additions etc. people had to make. (including edits to my original post). Thanks all you lovely people for your additional advice!

Orgasms are a full-body experience that includes rhythmic muscle contractions in and around the vagina, faster heart rate and breathing, raised blood pressure, and other exciting stuff like goosebumps or flushed, rosy skin. In fact an orgasm activates almost every part of the brain, so it really can be mind-blowing! (Get some surprising facts about a woman’s body in 10 Things You Don’t Know About Vaginas.)

5. “Make me comfortable. I get super self conscious about my vag (at least I admit it), and if I’m wondering how you’re judging my lady bits the entire time, I sure as hell won’t be getting off.” —Jenn, 24

Scientists put her in an MRI like a machine, studying her brain waves, and they were, in fact, identical to the overwhelming hurricane of brain activity that occurs during orgasm. She was having an orgasm just from thought.

Sometimes, couples start with foreplay and manual or oral stimulation, then switch to intercourse with the woman on top until the woman gets her orgasm, then switch to the man on top until the man gets an orgasm. But this is something each couple will have to try out what they prefer.

When we’re excited, our minds race and our bodies stumble to keep pace. In the heat of the moment, our caresses often become slovenly gropes and our lustful kisses deteriorate into something from a bad romance novel.

I tested every trick and technique I learned on many different types of women.From young rich college co-eds to more mature and experienced women.From women who were shy and inexperienced to the erotically liberated freaks.I took note of the stuff that worked and dropped the shit that didnt and ended up with the list of 67 techniques that make women come.67 techniques that I used to be 100% positive my clients were satisfied every single time.”

Some girls get aroused by seeing you lose yourself to desire. If she wants to go down on you, let her, but don’t dare force her to. If you’re about to come in her mouth, tell her so, and if she’s ok with it, do it. Some girls get turned on by this. Some girls hate it. Some girls want you to come first because it turns them on. Some girls want to come together with you. Some want to come before you.

13. “I love it when he adds a little finger action in there. It’s like adding toppings to your froyo. Like yeah it’s good without it, but if I can add some peanut butter cups and chocolate chips, hell yeah!” —Amy, 25

When your finger is inside of her, try rubbing the top of her inside, moving your finger like you say “come here”. This may be where her G-spot is, if there really is such a thing. Try it. Listen and watch. Keep your mouth on her clit and try different pressure levels, different speeds, see what it does to her.

Debby Herbenick, one of the survey’s researchers and an associate professor at Indiana University, told Mic that “the vast majority” of young men enjoy cunnilingus quite a lot. “In new, not-yet-published data from a recent college student survey I conducted, 64% said [they enjoyed performing oral sex] ‘very much’ and 24% said ‘somewhat,'” Herbenick said.

Orgasms are not all about foreplay. A recent study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that the consistency of orgasms is more about the length ofintercourse than the length of foreplay. And another study in the same journal clocked her average climax seven minutes after penetration. That makes now the ideal timeto climb politely aboard and start the final leg of her leg trembler.

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Sex toys have come a long way since your mother’s dildo (sorry, not a sexy image). Marin suggests trying a couples’ toy like the We-Vibe or, if you prefer going at it alone, the Eva by DAME products, which is an actual hands-free vibrator that stimulates the clitoris with zero effort — yay for that!

While she’s recuperating from her clitoral climax, give her a g-spot orgasm. It’ll take less and less time for her to come with every orgasm you give her until the point where one starts happening before the last is done.

Another vote for the vibrator. It’s not going to desensitize her unless she’s using it 24 hours a day for days on end. Even if she does feel a little desensitized at first, this will go away within a few hours, a day or two at the most. I would rather feel a little dull down there for a day than never have felt an orgasm in my life.

And if you don’t warm her up, and penetrate her properly, it probably WILL take her 15 – 20 minutes to get off… and most men don’t know what the hell they’re doing when they’re in the bedroom, so either 1) the girl naturally has quick/easy orgasms, or 2) she’s putting on a performance to please her man’s ego.

While 95 per cent of heterosexual men reporting that they usually or always orgasmed during sexually intimate moments, just 65 per cent of heterosexual women did. By contrast, the figure was 89 per cent for gay men, 86 per cent for lesbian women, 88 per cent for bisexual men and 66 per cent for bisexual women.

The sexual position that worked for us was woman on top, at a particular angle (that actually changes a bit as things go on). She has to be in control of this, and I basically need to let her determine most of the factors like angle, pressure, speed, etc.

Wow. I’ve got news for you fella, I don’t know what planet you’re from, but on Earth anyone born with a vagina IS in FACT a girl/woman. Anyone who would tell you otherwise apparently failed Junior High School biology class or they value pseudo “political- correctness” over cold, hard facts. Also, “shutting down entire avenues of self-identity” isn’t damaging anyone any more than they’ve already been damaged by being born freaks who don’t even know whether or not they are male or female! And aside from that, nobody gives a shit whether or not sex workers are being sexually fulfilled through cunnilingus or anything else. And in case you were unaware, prostitution is stigmatized because it’s not only illegitimate but also illegal in most countries on Earth. God didn’t give us the gift of lovemaking so we could sell our asses on a street corner or to the highest bidder, but so that a man and women can express their love for each other. Also I doubt if you’re really that busy if you had enough time to write all that nonsense.

“The most valuable thing you can do is find ways to bring more clitoral stimulation into your sex life,” says sex therapist Vanessa Marin, who is actually launching an online training program to teach women how to orgasm (bless her heart). Work on finding adventurous positions and activities that stimulate the clit, and you’ll be opened up to a whole new world of possibilities.

Women can sustain orgasms of length and intensity that men will simply never know (caveat: men can also become multi-orgasmic with a little bit of effort, but women still get the sweeter end of the stick in terms of orgasmic/peak arousal). So if you’re ignoring it, or are simply uninformed, you’re missing out on a massive treasure chest of sexual experience.

You can also use her hands to spread her labia, giving you better access. Or try pushing up the hood of the clitoris to let you reach the more sensitive with your tongue (this is a move for later in the game, not right at the beginning).

And how does he find out what she wants and what turns her on? Well, a wise man will ask her. What he should not do is to assume that his technique is flawless and that if his partner does not come, it’s her fault.

2) Some woman have mindbogglingly specific things which need to happen before they can have an orgasm. A ritual almost. Certain things need to be done in a specific order combined with some specific fantasies. So try mixing things up. Experimenting is fun.

If you’ve never tried this before with your partner, Dr. Carlen says to take your time and take it slow. “You don’t have to jump in with the dirtiest thing because it can come across as awkward or unauthentic,” she says. Instead of whispering in his ear that you want to have an orgy with him and 15 members of a football team, Dr. Carlen says tried-and-true dirty talk includes saying things like “I love it when you do (fill in the blank),” and the universally hot, “Oh, baby, I’m coming.”

Listen to your girlfriend; she says: “if the circumstances were right maybe it would be possible” . Women are not, as men are, immediately stimulated by sight. They need more time. They need the right atmosphere, some romance; sometimes candles and soft music can help.

#1 Prepare ahead of time. Keep your fingers clean and well-trimmed. Despite the punishment vaginas take during sex, it is still a delicate organ that ladies go to great lengths to pamper. The human hand and fingers are always exposed to different types of contaminants and bacteria since we use them in any activity we do.

Guys tend to go at it too hard, I guess in the theory that pressure is more exciting or because that’s how they like it on their cock. Hard licks or sucking doesn’t feel good to me, it gets into overstimulation and even pain. Light flickers, alternating with very gentle sweeps or circles… that’s the ticket. Also making sure that the woman is comfortable both physically and emotionally. Let her lie on her back, tell her how beautiful and hot her pussy is. Spend time kissing her and looking her in the eyes before going down. Touch her other places when you’re down there. I like a guy to caress my thighs, reach down to gently spread my knees apart further (very erotic), occasionally reach up to touch and squeeze my breasts. Murmur and smile occasionally to reassure her you like it and aren’t grossed out by her. If you’ve got the look and demeanor of martyrdom, no one’s going to have any fun.

It always amazes me to read ‘how to’ sex advice by men on how to please the woman. This article is a typical example of how you totally miss the point. This article totally ignores the simple things that men can do to help sex be more satisfying for the woman. There is no mention of men having good hygiene and smelling good and looking good and having a good relationship with their partner. Men don’t listen to the women or take the time to actually ask them to tell them what they want in bed. Perhaps if you encouraged men to take better care of themselves and develop their relationships, the women would respond with more orgasms. The build up of the satisfaction of sex precedes the actual act of sexual intercourse. And there’s no mention in this article of allowing her to be on top, a no brainer I thought (I was wrong). Why does this not surprise me? Perhaps if the author actually talked to women and asked their opinion, he wouldn’t be so eager to suggest that men bring the vibrator out and just get it over with already. Sort of like saying, don’t bother, it won’t work anyway so just get the vibrator already. Perhaps he wouldn’t make as much money if he didn’t just repeat what most men want to hear already. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with vibrators, but I thought the whole point of this article was help on sex tips.

How do you give her a mind-blowing fingering that leaves her quivering with delight? Like everything else, learning how to finger a girl requires research and practice. The first thing to remember—not all ladies and vaginas are alike in their preference for stimulation. [Read: Magic fingers – The sexual art of using your fingers right]

Variety is the spice of life and no more so than when it comes to romance and sex. During intercourse, change positions and mix things up to help make the sexual experience more pleasurable and successfully bring your woman to climax.

Start off softly, using a relaxed tongue to make slow movements and work up to faster movements with a firmer, pointed tongue. You can experiment with making different patterns with your tongue and try different rhythms – taking cues from your partner as to what she enjoys most.

Give her the opportunity to be totally swept away by you. Before you go down on her, hold both her hands with yours and put them above her head. Then tell her that your in control and that she is not to move her hands unless you tell her that it’s okay to do so. This will only add to the overall tease factor, guaranteeing a successful climax.

#8 Magic fingers. The above steps alone are often enough, but adding in fingers can help her, and enhance the orgasm. The clitoris is a bit like a small tree, with an immense underground root system. What you see is just a small part of it, the rest runs under the skin in a wishbone shape, down along both sides of the vagina, nearly to her anus.

First, you’ve got “women” in your title, which assumes that anyone who has a vagina is automatically a woman, regardless of how they might choose to identify themselves. I think it’s pretty damaging to shut down entire avenues of self-identity by branding everyone as one gender or another simply based on what genitalia they happen to have.

#1 Hygiene – His and hers. It’s no secret that there’s sometimes a smell down there. By design, the body has scent glands in the genitals just like in the armpits. Your balls have the same thing. But society has a lot more jokes about smelly pussy than about sweaty balls, so don’t be surprised if she feels somewhat self-conscious when you go down on her.

The amount of content available in what they call the first “season” is almost overwhelming, and that’s kind of the point. Yes, all women are different, but as you see and practice real-world techniques and understand how they relate to the larger concepts, you’ll eventually be equipped with a toolbox of sorts for the bedroom. The female orgasm has been a taboo subject for far too long, to the dismay of both women and men. These people are doing phenomenal work with regards to making sex a better experience for everyone.

Orgasms are not all about foreplay. A recent study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that the consistency of orgasms is more about the length ofintercourse than the length of foreplay. And another study in the same journal clocked her average climax seven minutes after penetration. That makes now the ideal timeto climb politely aboard and start the final leg of her leg trembler.

Additionally, Natalie Angier wrote in Woman: An Intimate Georgraphy that many women who have difficulty reaching orgasm can get past that with the help of a little pot. If she’s amenable to that, it’s worth a try.

Sexuality authorities also encourage couples to let go of the idea that women “should” have orgasms during intercourse. They encourage men to help women to orgasm using their fingers, hand, tongue, or a vibrator or other sex toys.

As you know, foreplay can take many forms, ranging from simple loving look to a gentle touch, from a passionate kiss to a warm embrace, from gentle stroking of the skin to a vigorous massage. Most women would admit that if they are being brought to orgasm, foreplay is essential to promote desire.

Psalm was one of the most transformational sex educators to grace Earth’s stage in the 21st century. She helped celebrities, CEOs and professional athletes rediscover their path to intimacy and ecstasy. Psalm’s foray into studying sexuality was triggered by the deep pain she endured during years of sexual trauma as a child raised in a Christian cult. That trauma led to her sexual awakening and deep passion for awakening the world’s awareness to the soul’s connection with sexuality. She shared her dreams with us, and we have come together to spread her message to the world.

Understanding how to finger a girl is not easy, but with a little curious exploration of her body, you’ll discover that fingering is as complicated as a high form of art. Giving her an orgasm with your fingers requires patience, careful attention, and a little bedroom creativity.

“More women are more self-conscious when they have someone in between their legs,” Dr. Carlen says. “They worry about what they taste or smell like. Instead, direct stimulation is the number one way women orgasm.”

if u have normal hands (man) second finger nucle in and pull up do the come here motion with your finger but it has to be quite fast and hard(please cut nails and use some sort of moistriser couple of days before hand so your hands are very smooth then use alot of lubracunt as it may take up to 30 mins if any longer please admit defet and try a few days later as you could make her sore. so while using the come here motion u will fell a pea size ball only 2 inches in place you other hand on the mound and push down u could even give oral while doing this please have alot of for play as well before hand when she gets the feeling to pee tell her not to tense up tell her to relax down there and just go for it she will have what u want and what she wants a brilliant orgasam please dont go loopy if it is pee she lets out or u will never get to try it again and u both loose out enjoy the golden shower if this happends please try and then let me know if it works

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Wear a musky scent. Smell is the strongest of the five senses when it comes to sexual function. A musky scent is supposed to work as it mimics testosterone and kicks our libido up a gear. If we orgasm that time around, we’re more likely to do so again when the same scent is worn because memory, scent and sex are closely connected in the brain!

It may be hidden, but that doesn’t mean you can’t stimulate it if you know what you’re doing. While still tonguing her clitoris, push one finger slowly into her vagina. Leave it until she seems comfortable. Add a second finger, but note that for some women this might be uncomfortable.

Also known as the Venus Mound, the soft patch of skin above the vulva is the key to orgasm for many women, as sucking, stroking and rubbing this region also massages the shaft of her inner clitoris. While you’re going down on her, use three fingers to gently press upward on the bottom section of her Venus Mound while using her hip movements and breath patterns to guide your rhythm.

Some women come easily from any type of stimulation but prefer one orgasm to another. I love receiving oral sex but I find that I enjoy the orgasms I get from sex the best. So once again, it’s better to just ask her what she likes.

I am 28 years old. I’ve had a problem for years now; well, I had this problem all my life and I was too ashamed to seek help. Here it goes: during sexual intercourse, I never feel any sensation or tingling feelings, I feel nothing. I can feel the penis, but that is all. This has been with every guy I’ve been with and I’ve been with about 15 guys. I’m currently dating this guy for five years. I love him, but during sex, I feel nothing. He turns me on, and I get aroused, but when it comes to actually having sex, I feel NOTHING. It’s like I have a disjunction in my vagina. Does it have something to do with my clitoris? What is wrong with me? Please, can you tell me? I will eventually see a doctor, but I just want to know, what is the problem with me? Please, I would really appreciate it, I’ve kinda learned to live with it. Sad, right? 🙂

Women can sustain orgasms of length and intensity that men will simply never know (caveat: men can also become multi-orgasmic with a little bit of effort, but women still get the sweeter end of the stick in terms of orgasmic/peak arousal). So if you’re ignoring it, or are simply uninformed, you’re missing out on a massive treasure chest of sexual experience.

Sometimes, couples start with foreplay and manual or oral stimulation, then switch to intercourse with the woman on top until the woman gets her orgasm, then switch to the man on top until the man gets an orgasm. But this is something each couple will have to try out what they prefer.

You should take pleasure in feeling her body tense up, in hearing her moan, and even in her taste and smell. And why not? She’s getting hot, and it’s because of what you’re doing to her. That’s very sexy. [Read: 11 hot and easy ways for men to get way better in bed!]

According to statistics from sleep company Zeo, getting seven or more hours of sleep per night increases youthfulness and physical vigor, while a sleepless night reduces attractiveness by 4 percent and elevates a stress hormone called cortisol by 37 percent, leading more frustration, irritability and unhappiness. is a great stress reducer and sleep aid, but the irony is that in order to really enjoy it, you need to be well rested. Setting the stage for sex means setting the stage for sleep, so don’t be ashamed to make sleep a priority for both you and your partner. Better sex will surely follow. (See some other ways to lay proper groundwork in 8 New Year’s Resolutions for the Best Sex Ever.)

I’ve been with someone before with a similiar issue. Once she figured it out, it still took us a few months of experimenting to make sex work for her. Oral and manual stimulation on my part were occaisonally successful but in general fairly difficult. Her need was for a very specific kind of stimulation that required very direct feedback.

This is the best advice for anything when it comes to pleasing a woman. The trick to making her orgasm? There is no trick. You’re going to have to learn her body language and figure out what works and doesn’t. Hopefully she will open up with you and communicate what she likes to make it easier over time.

The first time I vaginally orgasmed was last year, which is sad cause I’m 28. The pee feeling came. A secret: Pee BEFORE foreplay so in your mind, you know its not pee even if it feels like you might. In fact, it’s kinda hot, but you will see, it’s not pee. Also, I get pain with deep penetration so for me, the only angle I can come vaginally is if I ride on top, and kind of grind back and forth on my lover. You’ll then feel a gush, or flood. It’s totally different than a clitoral orgasm (which I’ve also learned how to squirt….again, let go of fears) which throws women off.

Men, do not underestimate the amount of razor stubble on your face and how this feels. If a man has not had a shave in over 8 hours, his razor stubble could approximate the grain of 120 grit sandpaper, which is pretty abrasive. Sometimes a little pressure from the chin or upper lip can feel nice, but not if you’re exfoliating the top layer of musocal tissue. If you think back to the ice-cream example, it may help you remember: while eating an ice-cream cone, you wouldn’t stick your chin in it. So if you have razor stubble, make sure it’s only lips and tongue are contacting the area.

Here’s a little bit of history for you: Sigmund Freud made a pronouncement that the “mature” woman has orgasms only when her vagina, but not her clitoris, is stimulated — this is commonly referred to as the “vaginal orgasm”. The emphasis on stimulation from penetration made the man’s penis central to a woman’s sexual satisfaction. It is important to emphasize that Freud did not base his theory upon a study of woman’s anatomy, but rather upon his assumptions of woman as inferior to men.

Not surprisingly, women report that the most orgasm-inducing muscle contractions are in their lower pelvis. These are the same muscles you squeeze to stop the flow of urine midstream (a conscious contraction of this group is called a Kegel exercise).

Your primary sex organ is your clitoris, not your vagina. But youou already know that from masturbation. So as long as you orgasm during intercourse, you should not feel like you are missing anything.

With age comes maturity, and with maturity comes the knowledge that sex usually just isn’t as fun when only one partner gets off. One of the primary reasons men say they love giving oral sex is partly selfish: Making women feel good makes them feel good. 

Start by kissing your partner down there – on her inner thighs and lower belly, gradually approaching the clitoris. Start gently licking. Do not apply too much pressure! It’s full of sensitive nerve endings, so be gentle!

Third, “oral sex” is problematic at best. What “sex” consists of is a complicated, difficult topic, and to presume that the activities described in the article constitute sex is to denigrate people who may choose to engage in these activities precisely because they do not see them as sex, perhaps because their religion forbids sex outside of marriage or something like this. If we just run around willy nilly calling things sex without engaging in constructive dialog about what is and isn’t sex, we pigeonhole people into viewing their activities in ways that may not be compatible with what they would prefer to believe if we had a more open, inclusive society.

What women need to learn is that it just doesn’t matter. If you have a man that loves you and is good to you (I do NOT mean money) and is good to your kids (whether they are yours, his or y’alls) who gives a rat’s ass if you orgasim? It is damn sure not worth hurting his feelings over.

The sexual position that worked for us was woman on top, at a particular angle (that actually changes a bit as things go on). She has to be in control of this, and I basically need to let her determine most of the factors like angle, pressure, speed, etc.

Sex toys have come a long way since your mother’s dildo (sorry, not a sexy image). Marin suggests trying a couples’ toy like the We-Vibe or, if you prefer going at it alone, the Eva by DAME products, which is an actual hands-free vibrator that stimulates the clitoris with zero effort — yay for that!

If I’m climaxing, I hope to all the gods you keep doing EXACTLY what you are doing and you do not stop. Imagine if you are receiving a blowjob and as soon as you start cumming, your partner starts kissing your thighs and stomach. A woman’s climax can last minutes. A climax is NOT the time so start switching it up and kissing thighs.

For reference, this seems to be a tl;dr of one chapter of “She Comes First”, aka “Cunnilingus for Dummies.” It’s fairly enlightening and, for lack of a better word, educational – basic technique, mindset, it goes over the basics and then some. If anything, it’ll give you ideas. Would recommend.

A study from a team of US researchers suggests that a combination of genital stimulation, deep kissing and oral sex is the “golden trio” for women when it comes to increasing their likelihood of reaching orgasm with a sexual partner.

When this tender technique gets a teensy bit repetitive/bland, that’s when you should amp things up a bit. Experiment with how much pressure she enjoys, without taking it too far. How do you know if you’ve taken it too far? She’ll have kneed your head out her sanctuary by then. But for the most part, slowly rev things up and see how she reacts via her moans and hip movements.

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The difference between people who are good in bed and people who are not isn’t that the people who are good in bed have learned all the techniques or discovered the secret. The people who are good in bed know that everyone is different, so the way you please a person is to listen to that person, talk about that person’s turn-ons and fantasies, and above all else, pay attention to the way that person’s body responds.

After this first lesson, I send my clients away with a homework assignment. During sex, they are to tense up their muscles and let their minds go silent. This technique takes practice, but it can work over time. And more often than not, my clients return to a future session with their own good news to report.

Ask any woman how many times she’s laid on her back, bored and frustrated, her clit having retreated deep inside her, with some unfortunate, badly educated man between her legs, lapping like a thirsty dog, his tongue aching and almost numb, the only stiff part of him being his neck. I think you’ll be surprised at the answer.

thanks to the ladies who’ve already said nix to the “vibrators are bad for women” comment, and seconded/thirded/whatever. especially the bit about how the more women have orgasms, the more able they are to have more in the future. for me anyway, and most of my female friends, it’s like a burner. you can keep it completely switched off as often as you like, and when it’s off, you don’t even think about it. but once you do light it, you can just go and go and go, varying intensity, whatever. you have to light it though first. otherwise it’s totally shut.

I’m 17 and I can get an orgasm in like ten minutes as all I do is just rub myself and then wet my fingers and the slowly at first rub my clitoris and then kind of build up my speed when it feels right and then it feel good and your fingers automatically just keep going and you don’t want to stop so I hope this helps you kind of get an orgasm

“Part of this difference in perception could be due to women faking orgasms, which research has suggested women will do for a variety of reasons, including out of love for their partner, to protect their partner’s self-esteem, intoxication, or to bring the sexual encounter to an end,” the authors note.

In the plateau phase (see diagram above) a woman is highly aroused, both physically and mentally, and she can remain in that state for some time without reaching orgasm unless additional stimulation is applied to take her over into the orgasm phase.

In contrast, the vaginal walls contain relatively few nerve endings. Only the lower third of the vagina has enough nerve endings to feel stimulation from a penis, finger, sex toy, or other penetrative object. This can make intense sexual stimulation, pleasure, and orgasm from vaginal-only penetration unlikely. In reality, the clitoris is perfectly placed. You might consider the clitoris to be “inaccessible” because in-and-out intercourse does not touch your button of joy. The challenge is for you and your partner to find and cultivate its potential.

“Guys generally worry about their dick size or sex skills, and would probably err on the side of caution that they are less than average at both (though they would probably never publicly admit it). If you become good at [giving head], you generally don’t have to worry about lacking in the other departments.” — Curtis

Don’t underestimate the power of relieving her mind of household concerns as a way to help her relax into the right frame of mind. As one writer pointed out, vacuuming, cleaning the sink, etc. will enable her to focus on you more.

I agree with the CAT position, it seems to work well. But in the end, it still seems like a woman is much like a car on a cold winter day; they need warming up. From what I’ve learned from my partners and friends is that men mostly just don’t take the time to “warm them up.” Also, men make it a lot about themselves and less about the woman–this is what my friends is. Also, just being a fun lover is what women want more than anything, a guy who just makes sex fun. Women are usually pretty insecure about their bodies even if they are what we men would call a 10. From my experience, women have to just get out of their heads and worry less about themselves physically. Regardless of positions or angles, or anything else–it starts in their heads unlike us.

Whatever doctor told her she can’t have orgasms is full of shit. Barring any medical conditions, there’s absolutely no reason it would be impossible. For you, though, what you can do is provide sensuous, fun, warm, pressure-free, comfortable sex that is obsessively not goal-oriented. There is nothing unsexier than trying wayyy too hard to give her an orgasm; that experience swiftly becomes all about worrying that you’re disappointing your partner, or feeling guilty that he’s working so hard and nothing’s happening. Worry and guilt are unsexy emotions. So just enjoy each other, keep it light, keep exploring. It’ll happen.

Many men believe that one goal of lovemaking is to “give” women earth-shattering orgasms. But orgasm is something no one “gives.” Orgasms are like laughter. Comedians might be funny, but they don’t “make” us laugh. We release laughter from deep within ourselves when conditions feel right. Rather than “giving” women orgasms, men should focus on what allows women to have them. These suggestions increase her likelihood of happy endings:

Lastly, if you’re aiming to go all the way to the climactic end, note that some girls achieve orgasm later than others. By that time, her natural juices might have dried out which makes a quick squirt of lube very handy. [Read: The best lubricants for sex – 15 winners from the kitchen cupboard]

It’s fair for you to expect her to be clean, just as you should be if you want a blowjob. Take a shower together before sex to ensure you’re both spotlessly clean and smelling like roses. If it’s an ongoing problem in your relationship, it’s okay to nicely tell her she needs to focus more attention there. There should be no smell after washing. [Read: 16 ways to get a girl to give you head and really enjoy it!]

I have already commented on my distaste for some of the comments in response to the author’s intentions because of political correctness. But I thought it merited further expression. A few people stated that they thought that these individuals negatively commenting on this thread were ‘intelligent’ and that they could not sound as smart as them. Well, I would like to say that you are wrong in your thinking. Just because a person is learned and speaks well doesn’t make them intelligent…it makes them articulate. Car salesmen are articulate, so are English teachers as well as con artists…would you allow these individuals to set the norm for the rest of mankind? Of course not. Because articulation doesn’t not compare to being wise. I know a lot of so-called ‘intelligent’ people that cant function in society because they are too socially awkward. Or can’t do menial tasks like cook dinner nor properly show compassion (sociopaths). Take Einstien for instance, gave us the theory of relativity but couldn’t relatively tie his own shoe without assistance. He came up with some of the most brilliant quantum theories but didn’t know better not to marry his cousin. Point is…don’t be fooled by pretty words and a pile of supposed demographics. A person can be intelligent, articulate and poise…doesn’t make them any less of an idiot than the rest of us. Supposed negatively motivated intelligent responses to this thread are a perfect point in case to this fact. Life is about diversity…being different and retaining the right to live as such.

However, if you’re all freaked out by this and making a big deal about it, then you need to back off. You can’t FORCE someone to come, and trying like HELL repeatedly will make her feel broken or inaqequate. Be anamazing lover, but don’t put her in the spotlight every time you get into bed and try to make this time “the” time constantly. That is tiresome.

Women can have ten different kinds of orgasms, so while a man might think his penis is the most fun tool he has, he can probably challenge himself by learning the 9 other types of orgasms he can stimulate.

This makes a lot of women believe that they can’t have multiple orgasms. But they can. All women can. By giving her a little time to recuperate and then SLOWLY building the pressure up again with a much lighter technique, you can make her come again a second time.

Now head back to her clit and edge her to the brink of orgasm with your favorite oral technique. Then return to g-spot stimulation but this time give it to her through penetration. Place her legs up over your shoulders and thrust back and forth. Because of the angle created by the pillow, you’ll be thrusting directly into her g-spot.

How to “train” your penis to stay hard and that are able to control when you will cum? It’s actually quite simple. All you have to do is train your PC (Pubococcygeus muscle) which you can do by doing kegel excercises. My favourite method is to masturbate and hold my orgasm for as long as I can. If you can masturbate for 30min without releasing your orgasm you will be able to perform in bed for about the same amount of time.

But many couple wish the woman could come during intercourse. The good news is that there are easy, loving ways to boost women’s chance of orgasm during intercourse. The easiest ways involve the woman-on-top and rear entry (doggie) positions. Orgasm is more challenging in the man-on-top (missionary) position, but a minor adjustment makes it considerably more likely.

When you get the signals that she’s turned on and getting close to orgasm, keep doing what you’re doing. So look out for heavy breathing, moaning, an increase in her lubrication, grinding or pulsing, and possibly gripping your hair or the bedclothes tightly.

We all like being good at things. (Remember how awesome it felt to get a gold star on that fourth-grade math test?) That sentiment also applies to sex: Being told how good you are at giving head is a pretty big ego boost.

Wear a musky scent. Smell is the strongest of the five senses when it comes to sexual function. A musky scent is supposed to work as it mimics testosterone and kicks our libido up a gear. If we orgasm that time around, we’re more likely to do so again when the same scent is worn because memory, scent and sex are closely connected in the brain!

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Time for you to take your tricks for a test drive. With all that attention, her skin will be flushed, her pupils dilated, parts of her shaking, and those she can steady, she’ll be pushing into you — until she’s done and can’t take anymore, that is. Now that’s how to make her orgasm for real and, trust us, you’ll be able to tell the difference.

A woman’s vagina is extremely delicate. Countless nerve endings are packed into one area. Touch it the right way and you’ll give pleasure, touch it the wrong way and you’ll cause pain. Giving great oral sex is not easy, but if you follow these tips and techniques, you’ll find a very happy woman next to you in bed.

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I’m glad you found the article uesful! It’s a very common thing for guys to last much longer with a condom on. You could try a desensitizing spray without the condom, if physical sensitivity is the main issue. I’d also suggest looking around this site for help. There are lots of articles with information about improving your sexual stamina.

Oh, oh, baby! There are many factors that contribute to how an orgasm feels. One variable is the type of physical stimulation, and to what body parts. A “vaginal orgasm” is the notion that women can have an orgasm through stimulation during intercourse or other vaginal penetration, entirely without clitoral stimulation. However, the vagina has few nerve endings, and therefore cannot create an orgasm on its own. Instead of thinking of the vagina and clitoris as separate entities, try thinking about them as a network of nerves and muscles.

15. “I’m terrible at giving feedback. I don’t know how to verbalize what I like, just kinda get down there, explore, and listen to the noises I’m making. If I’m breathing really heavily and moaning loudly, then yes, that feels good. If you don’t hear much of anything at all, then try something else.” —Kylie, 24

Ricardus was one of the most prolific and respected coaches in the men’s dating advice industry. He’s dated some of the planet’s most beautiful women, ranging from a Miss World contestant, to a model for Coca-Cola, to one of “Brazil’s Next Top Models.” His specialty is daytime street stops. He is most remembered for his “Are you single?” opening line. Ricardus is currently retired from the dating advice industry.

Also when you or she feels like she is about to “pee” or you want to make sure she is not faking it just move your fingers back about an 1/2 inch to an inch and you should feel it start to sort of balloon up i guess you could say and then just carefuly press on it and almost flaten it out and she will cum hope this helps!

Turns out, quite a lot. The reality is most women don’t reach orgasm — at least through sex alone — says Emily Morse.  sexologist, host of the Sex With Emily podcast and Hustler Hollywood Contributor. “Between 70-80% of women do not achieve orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone,” says Morse.

Lastly, if you’re aiming to go all the way to the climactic end, note that some girls achieve orgasm later than others. By that time, her natural juices might have dried out which makes a quick squirt of lube very handy. [Read: The best lubricants for sex – 15 winners from the kitchen cupboard]

If there’s one thing I’ve learned from spending the last two years reading questions from you guys, it’s that orgasms can be tough. Movies, TV shows, porn and books make orgasms seem like the most magical thing a woman can go through (and, okay, they sort of are!). But if you’ve never really experimented with sexual stuff before, it can be hard to know if you’ve actually, you know, had one or not. And it can be even harder to figure out how to have one.

Don’t forget the power of kisses and caresses: Kisses and caresses go a long way to keep the desire within you at a peak during your lovemaking session. Kissing and caressing your partner makes sure that you both are stimulated enough to move deep into the act. Also read types of kisses – how many have you tried.

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Communicate your likes and dislikes, experiment to see what feels best for both of you. And for some ideas of well-known positions that many women find ideal, read the best sex positions for women to have orgasms.

Skip the pearly gates for now, kiss along her thighs, moving upwards (start at the lower, go all the way up to the crease between leg and V). rake your fingers along her thighs – not hard, just so she can feel your excitement.

I WISH that’s how my wife got off! Honestly if she didn’t have those damn spiky hairs on the inside of her labia that her clit would hit against if I did that it would save me so much head movement…

Some feminists reject the idea that men “give” women an orgasm. They claim that equality requires that each is responsible for their own orgasm. Other people see love making as a mutual activity of giving and taking.

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There’s a chance that she may come on to you first and no man in his right mind would wait to respond. But wait, don’t give in! Tease her a little, play a little hard to get. The game of cat and mouse won’t just make things hotter but also give her a feeling of control – something a lot of women just love!

Your man wants nothing more than to see you orgasm one or twice (don’t worry, he’ll catch up!). “Most lovers are generous and willing and take pleasure in seeing their women enjoy more than one orgasm—but many women have a hard time receiving so much attention and letting the erotic focus be on their own pleasure,” says Rose. If you want to experience the thrills, give yourself permission to be the star of the sexual experience. If you have any worries like “I’m taking too long” or “He must be getting bored down there,” then no amount of great stimulation will help. (Learn how to Have an Amazing Orgasm: Eliminate Distraction.)

12. “Please don’t do the alphabet. We can tell when you’re doing that, and it’s really fucking weird, and awkward. Sometimes I feel like they’re trying to spell out something in code. Just weird. Don’t do it.” —April, 28

This is completely anecdotal, and I’m not about to go googling for backing statistics while I’m at work, but an ex-girlfriend of mine had her clitoral hood pierced right around when we started dating. She went from maybe 6 orgasms total in her life previous to 6+ per session. I’d like to think it just due to me being a virile young stud, but I think the other stud might have played a major role.

Appreciate her body for what it can and can’t do right now, and validate every bit of pleasure she feels. You have to make her comfortable. And, without getting into too much detail about “tricks” you should ensure the following:

Speaking of conversations, let’s get to the difficult topic of communication during oral sex. So often people struggle to communicate about sex, particularly during sex. But how else will you know if your partner is happy with what is happening? So, in the same way you asked permission initially, now ask your partner if they are enjoying things. You can also ask if they might prefer something different, or if there is any discomfort. Don’t be afraid to gauge your partners pleasure by asking, asking, asking. Most people are very happy to engage with a lover who is so attentive and considerate.

This method of bringing a woman to orgasm involves the simultaneous stimulation of three specific erogenous that will make your partner scream with pleasure. Rest assured, you won’t be running all over town – these three areas are located just inches apart: the pubis, the clitoris and the vagina.

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Please bear in mind that – contrary to what many men think – sexual intercourse by itself is not likely to produce an orgasm. This is because intercourse alone is not very good at stimulating the woman’s clitoris.

It’s as easy as believing it’s possible for you personally to climax more than once, Anami says. Next is learning to relax: “Deeper orgasms are all about a very intense state of release, so you have to be willing to dive into the unknown and let go,” Anami adds. Once your attitude starts to shift, two or more orgasms may well become your new normal, Rose says.

Take a short break: That said, don’t leave the bed. If you both have reached your orgasm and plan to continue lovemaking, stay in bed. To revive your energy levels, hug, cuddle, kiss and talk. Remember, lovemaking is not just a physical act and it requires a level of emotional bonding too. Once you’ve reached climax don’t just turn your back on her or flip onto your back; look deep into her eyes and reassure her about how attracted you are to her and how much you cherish your time with her. Do this and odds are you wont need to work too hard to stimulate her for a continued session of love making.

I am going to tell you how. First, you must be in love because its more than just having sex. Its definitely on another level of intimacy. I never had a vaginal orgasm until I fell in deep love with my significant other. You have to make love. He can’t be trying to imitate those fast banging moves that you see on porno movies. I thought I was enjoying sex until I met him and I found out that I never had an orgasm ever until we made love to each other. The whole time he was going slow and taking time to kiss me and we were holding hands and during all that I was squeezing my vagina muscles while he was going in and out. Suddenly he started moving slower and his penis was reaching the back of my vagina where my cervix begins. I was laying on my back with my legs wide open and I didn’t move. I felt pressure in my vagina building up and I never felt that feeling in my life. He knew what was happening because he was hitting the back of my vagina with his penis in me while he was going slower and slower. I begin to holler and moan because that feeling is unbelievably the best orgasm ever! You will not be unable to stand up for a while. Squeeze your vaginal muscles during sex. Open your legs wide as you can so he can hit the back of your vagina as far as he can. While he’s hitting that back wall where your cervix is keep it right there. The woman must lay still or if you’re on top lay or sit still and let him move only. When you move I think you’re throwing your orgasm off because its too much movement going on for the vagina to orgasm. Make him go slow and you are going to have a vaginal orgasm.

Every pussy is different. Let me repeat : EVERY PUSSY IS DIFFERENT. One style of tongue or the same place on the pussy or place on the clit is no guarantee that an orgasm will occur for every woman. Our pussies are not coke machines where you put in a quarter and an orgasm falls out. You need to explore confidently, enthusiastically, and pay attention to her requests, breathing, noises etc. Asking is good when you aren’t finding your way.

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For some women, orgasm during intercourse is nearly impossible, and it is very easy for sex to become some sort of contest between them and their partners to “make it happen.” Don’t try too hard. Don’t try every time. Don’t concentrate too much on the physical, or strictly on technique.

What people get off on sexually can vary as much as love songs on the radio. While some women may prefer to perform oral sex on the ladies they love, there are likely just as many who prefer to receive it. And while one can’t claim to know for sure why people get off on the things they do, here are some reasons a woman might prefer to giving over receiving:

Once you are doing that trick with your tongue. DO NOT STOP. In some cases, you will have to use you fingers to spread her “lips” to find her clit. And some girls like it if you finger them at the same time when you play with them with your tongue but I suggest you only do that once you feel them getting wet (around the hole of their vagina.)

If you do not orgasm during intercourse, it is not because you are not having a vaginal orgasm, but because like so many women, your clitoris does not get enough stimulation during intercourse. You need to godown a different path to solve that, and yes, you also need to solve the pain issues.

2) Some woman have mindbogglingly specific things which need to happen before they can have an orgasm. A ritual almost. Certain things need to be done in a specific order combined with some specific fantasies. So try mixing things up. Experimenting is fun.

Your tongue and jaw will get tired, at least until you are giving oral sex on a regular basis. When you need a rest, take her clitoris between your lips and give it a mini-blowjob. This will drive her wild. [Read: The man’s guide to lasting longer during sex without any difficulty]

Thanks for the great info Michael! Just want to add in a little bit of my opinion. If guys want to make your female partner orgasm during intercourse isn’t easy and you need to last at least 5minutes above to make your partner orgasm. If people who can’t last longer than 5 minutes of thrusting your female partner, you should get a mini time out. But do remember, you don’t want to entirely end on intimate contact. Otherwise, you’ll have to re-work harder to get to another higher state of arousal. So maintain the caressing until you feel that hypersensitivity lessen and the heat returning to your moan zone. Hope it helps! =D

Change positions: Get creative here. If you are in favour of the missionary position, don’t expect her to like the same. Instead, try new positions. This will help you keep the novelty and passion alive and allow your partner to reach an orgasm with the excitement and experimentation of a new love position. Read about an exciting sex position: the sitting cowgirl.

Speaking of conversations, let’s get to the difficult topic of communication during oral sex. So often people struggle to communicate about sex, particularly during sex. But how else will you know if your partner is happy with what is happening? So, in the same way you asked permission initially, now ask your partner they are enjoying things. You can also ask if they might prefer something different, or if there is any discomfort. Don’t be afraid to gauge your partners pleasure by asking, asking, asking. Most people are very happy to engage with a lover who is so attentive and considerate.

Finish her off – If you don’t know where the clit is, LEARN! While the entire area qualifies as an erogenous zone for a woman, pay special attention to her clit. Massage it with your tongue and pay attention to her verbal and non-verbal languages. Do whatever gets the best reaction!

Chances are, you’re well versed on all things clitoris-related and know both light touching and applying more pressure to this sensitive spot can result in orgasm. But Dr. Carlen reminds us to encourage our partners to explore the entire vagina — including the labia and vulva, which has the second-most nerve endings after the clitoris and the U-spot, the area on and around the urethra.

Let’s get this out of the way right off the bat: Health problems can get in the way of an orgasm. So, if something more than your sex life feels off, you should visit a doctor. In absence of a medical problem, however, a woman’s orgasms, or the lack of them, go way beyond what’s going on with her body. That means the main secret to a woman’s orgasms is that they’re as individual as the woman herself. Learning to bring yourself or your female partner to a climax, therefore, can be a learning process, where’s there’s always room for improvement. Here are three common things that can boost a woman’s orgasmic potential – and that couples tend to overlook. 

Part her outer lips with your tongue to expose the inner lips, and kiss them softly. By now they should be wet, or at least, moist. Slide your tongue over them up one side and down the other a few times, and suck very gently on the sides of the lips. [Read: 11 sexiest hot spots to kiss a woman and really arouse her]

You should take pleasure in feeling her body tense up, in hearing her moan, and even in her taste and smell. And why not? She’s getting hot, and it’s because of what you’re doing to her. That’s very sexy. [Read: 11 hot and easy ways for men to get way better in bed!]

Instead, Mindvalley Academy’s intimacy coach and author of Tantra Touch, Psalm Isadora, has eight simple steps to help women embrace their bodies and reach the blissful state of orgasm — potentially multiple times.

Guys tend to go at it too hard, I guess in the theory that pressure is more exciting or because that’s how they like it on their cock. Hard licks or sucking doesn’t feel good to me, it gets into overstimulation and even pain. Light flickers, alternating with very gentle sweeps or circles… that’s the ticket. Also making sure that the woman is comfortable both physically and emotionally. Let her lie on her back, tell her how beautiful and hot her pussy is. Spend time kissing her and looking her in the eyes before going down. Touch her other places when you’re down there. I like a guy to caress my thighs, reach down to gently spread my knees apart further (very erotic), occasionally reach up to touch and squeeze my breasts. Murmur and smile occasionally to reassure her you like it and aren’t grossed out by her. If you’ve got the look and demeanor of martyrdom, no one’s going to have any fun.

Multi-task. Don’t just have penetrative sex – stimulate her other erogeneous zones as well, simultaneously. I find if my partner is just stimulating my clit, it actually feels too intense. If there’s something else going on I get distracted by that, relax a bit more, and bam!

Do not pretend to f*** her with your tongue when you’re going down on her. Look at your tongue and then look at your penis. Do they look like they could be good substitutes for each other? Probably not. It’s fine if you want to explore the opening a little during oral, but try to avoid straight up tongue f****ng – I’ve never met a woman who enjoyed that!

All the original post does is give their honest advice and then backs it up with evidence they collected, whereas all you have done is wrote some pretty paragraphs your old teachers would be proud of in preschool and decided to be an all round ass nitpicking over terms like some form of grammar nazi mixed in with blind feminism so remember a guide doesn’t always mean a step by step that has to be followed instead of just being a compilation of advice.

Stamina is the biggest key to great oral. One of the biggest secrets to being able to stick with it is to totally relax your jaw. The tendency most men have while licking is to clench up, which is what causes most guys to quickly burn out and not make it to the payoff.

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– Use light, grazing touches. For the external parts such as the clitoris and the labia. Light touches to sensitive areas is a good way to turn her on and make her wet. Plus, it gives her anticipation making her receptive to aggressive fingering later.

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If you find yourself in a situation where your partner conspicuously gives and refuses to receive, you might try asking her why. Talking about such issues can strengthen a relationship, opening partners up to each other more and more (pun sort of intended), and creating new levels of trust and intimacy. However, it is also possible that some woman just prefer to give, as they’d prefer chocolate ice cream to vanilla. Other than consent, there are no rules or “shoulds” in sexual desire or behavior. So enjoy, whether you are giving or receiving!

What people get off on sexually can vary as much as love songs on the radio. While some women may prefer to perform oral sex on the ladies they love, there are likely just as many who prefer to receive it. And while one can’t claim to know for sure why people get off on the things they do, here are some reasons a woman might prefer to giving over receiving:

One mistake many guys make time and time again is that they often assume oral sex is virtually the same thing as standard intercourse. DO NOT simply thrust your tongue in and out of the vagina as you would with your penis. The tongue does not provide enough friction and is not long or thick enough to make this pleasurable. In general, stick to areas that are easier to access—like the clitoris. The clitoris is a woman’s most sensitive erogenous zone and, when stimulated correctly, leads to mind-blowing orgasms. Tease her for a while by lightly circling it with your tongue. Then try taking it into your mouth and gently sucking on it while softly flicking your tongue over the area—almost a French kiss.

Therapy can help some women having difficulty with orgasm. For others, a medical condition or side effects from a medication may be causing the problem. Visit your doctor to rule out these causes. Options for treatment include the following:

As she becomes more aroused, her clitoris becomes larger and goes through a number of changes that cause the angle of the clitoral body to change. Such changes are useful signs for a man aiming to make a woman come quickly and easily – they can be the clues to what to do next in the process of sexual arousal.

Appreciate her body for what it can and can’t do right now, and validate every bit of pleasure she feels. You have to make her comfortable. And, without getting into too much detail about “tricks” you should ensure the following:

It’s down to the hormones we produce – after she’s had an orgasm during sex a woman is much more likely to want a period of cuddling and interaction; after his orgasm, a man is likely to want to sleep.

Interestingly enough, there was also a gap in the perception of orgasms. 85% of men said that their female partner had orgasmed – a significantly higher number than the percentage of women who confirmed that they actually had.

#4 Still not time for the clitoris. Yes, there’s still work to be done before you get there. If you think of the lips as forming a long, vertical ellipse, the inside of this is what you should focus on next. As a reference, just above this ellipse, tucked into its hood is the clitoris. Just below it is the perineum, or what people often call the “taint” – that in-between-area that ain’t pussy and ain’t ass.

Sex should be an occasion of mutual joy and pleasure, not an occasion of incorrect expectations, forced striving for an orgasm at all cost. Sex is usually more satisfactory for both if they do not think so much about attaining orgasm, but instead think of love and mutual pleasure.

Once there—NO. BITING. EVER. Like, ever, ever. Seriously, it just hurts. Make sure her knees are still apart at this point, as well as her lips, so you can actually see where you are and what you’re doing.

I’ve had many orgasms with men in the past during intercourse but only once with my husband. I am very turned on by him but for some reason no matter what I/he or we do I can’t seem to orgasm. I love my husband, am very turned on by him so what is the issue?

This leaves room for you to build the intensity and experience, much like a musician. A piece of music rarely starts with the crescendo. Otherwise there would be no payoff. All my favourite songs build slowly, rising and falling, adding more elements along the way, until they finally explode in flourishing sonic orgasm.

This is where there’s a big difference between men and women. Men can rush to the finish line – many women can’t. In fact, most women need an average of 20 minutes of suitable stimulation before they achieve orgasm. Problem is, that 20 minutes can feel like a year when women spend it worrying – about their bodies, about their sexual abilities, or about whether their partner is getting bored. Women’s bodies work differently than men’s, which means that it takes more time to bring them to orgasm. Ladies, you aren’t taking too long. And men, try to be patient – you can’t hurry love!

Get used to–femal orgasim serves no purpose whatsoever except to hurt people. If you don’t and can’t stand it-get with yourself. Its a mind game-mind over matter-if you don’t mind, it just don’t matter-got something productive.

It’s better to say “I love this!” or something that compliments what’s currently going on. We’re retards and understand everything literally when we focus on other stuff (like eating pussy). A message of “don’t stop” can mean we need to up the tempo etc.

I want to say that if you’re ok with him putting his mouth on your vagina you should be ok with being honest about your needs, but I get sometimes it’s the how to say it that’s difficult. Try casually mentioning how you read this thing on Reddit that made you really horny at work/class/on the train and I guarantee he’ll ask you what it was. Then give it a bit of ‘some guy asked for tips on giving women good oral and the top comment was way more than I bargained for – here, I’ll show you’. Hopefully he’ll either take it on board, or you can use it as an opportunity to start the broader conversation about who likes what.

Men, when trying to make a woman come, and familiar with the way in which they stimulate their own penis during masturbation, will often apply much more vigorous and rapid stimulation to a woman’s clitoris at this point.