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As mentioned above, with additional stimulation a woman will move from the plateau phase into orgasm.  It’s often the transition from the plateau phase to the orgasm which presents most difficulties for a woman when she is trying to have an orgasm.

Even if you decide to give a man oral sex, it doesn’t mean that you have to let him ejaculate (or cum) in your mouth – the choice is yours. Of course, if he’s wearing a condom this won’t be such an issue, and it means you will both be protected against sexually transmitted infections (STIs). It’s also entirely up to you how long you continue for.

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We’ll tell you what gives. While tons of people like to brag that they are gifted when it comes to pleasuring a woman with oral sex, they probably aren’t. And to make matters worse, a lot of us are too embarrassed to call the shots and guide someone when they are down there. Nope, we grin and bear it and most of the time even give the person a pat on the back for their efforts. Awkward.

There’s only one rule about anal stimulation and it’s “No surprises!” If your woman is up for some experimenting, then use your pinky finger to LIGHTLY penetrate her anus. Make sure your hand is sideways and, just to be safe, keep fingering her vagina at the same time you slip it in.

Your girlfriend probably does not want to go to a gynecologist, because she feels that this is not the problem. One treatment for a dry vagina is lubricating gel. Do not tell her that she is lazy; instead try to understand her wishes and needs. Respect her, if she does not want to go to a gynecologist. To criticize her will kill all desire and she may resent this for a long time.

While 95 per cent of heterosexual men reporting that they usually or always orgasmed during sexually intimate moments, just 65 per cent of heterosexual women did. By contrast, the figure was 89 per cent for gay men, 86 per cent for lesbian women, 88 per cent for bisexual men and 66 per cent for bisexual women.

The woman can feel genuinely weightless and free-as-air – which is quite a novel sensation. Another bonus is that either partner can touch the clitoris easily. So it’s different and fun – and usually a great time is had by all.

While she’s recuperating from her clitoral climax, give her a g-spot orgasm. It’ll take less and less time for her to come with every orgasm you give her until the point where one starts happening before the last is done.

Oral sex is an essential part of great foreplay, but can be a full-on sexual experience in its own right. Plus, getting her aroused orally means less pressure on you to last forever during the main event.

Lastly, think about introducing some contrasting sensation: during wild, hard sex, pause to murmur your lips on the nape of her neck; during gloriously intimate missionary, clasp her buttocks firmly, so she feels the point of your nails. My pleasure.

– Use the index and middle finger for penetration. Start off with the middle finger as it is the longest and has the farther reach especially when stimulating the G-spot. Using both fingers is recommended for G-spot stimulation as it covers more surface area than one finger alone. [Read: How to finger yourself – A girl’s guide to fingering herself to ecstasy]

Also there is Yogasm, where you girl can reach orgasm without touching her clitoris or stimulating. There is video of girl getting orgasm without touching herself on http://www.fapon.me (care its NSFW)

That said, not all men are willing to perform oral sex — which means some millennial women who haven’t previously had partners who want to go down might view it as an adventurous new act. Tackling this new adventure can make many women more open to trying other new things during a sexual encounter. 

Co-author of the research Elisabeth Lloyd, a professor of biology at Indiana University and author of The Case of the Female Orgasm, continued: “About 30 per cent of men actually think that intercourse is the best way for women to have orgasm, and that is sort of a tragic figure because it couldn’t be more incorrect.

The real value, though, is in the “touchable” videos that let you practice the techniques. They used thousands of images of each woman’s vagina to create incredibly realistic simulations that respond to the speed, pressure, location and rhythm of your fingers on a touchscreen device. As you follow the instructions and perform the techniques correctly, you’re rewarded with (again, pretty hot) audio feedback.

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Back to the basics, stimulating the clitoris and (for some women) pressure in or around the vagina can cause pelvic fullness and body tension to build up to a peak. During sexual excitement, the clitoris swells and changes position. The blood vessels through the whole pelvic area also swell, causing engorgement and a feeling of fullness and sexual sensitivity. The inner vaginal lips swell and change shape, and the vagina balloons upward, causing the uterus to shift position. Orgasm is the point at which all the tension is suddenly released in a series of involuntary and pleasurable muscular contractions in the vagina, uterus, and/or rectum.  

I am 34 and my wife is 31. We have been married for five years. Since marriage, we have never been sure whether she has had a real orgasm. I am noticing her interest in sex declining, and assume it is because she is not getting enough pleasure out of it. Please suggest how I can increase her sexual pleasure and provide her with an orgasm.

Once you make it to her clit and vagina, gently lick all around. Direct stimulation can be too intense for some, so explore the surrounding area. Ask her where she likes to be touched. You don’t have to be rough with your mouth unless she wants you to. It’s always best to start off slow, unless she specifically requests otherwise. Some women do like it when you roughly use your tongue and mouth, but only do so if she asks.

After foreplay by kissing and fondling (may have to continue for up to 20 minutes) the partner or the person herself stimulates the clitoris (the area below the labia or genital lips, and above the vagina opening) by rapidly flicking a finger or the tongue back and forward or up and down. Do not press hard. If you are using a finger, be sure to use lots of lubricating gel (can be bought at a drug store). If you are using the tongue, lubricating gel is usually not necessary, since lubrication comes from the mouth. Ask her to concentracte on sexy thoughts at the same time.

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There isn’t one single procedure for it. What everyone else told you is true, it’s individual and requires patience and attention and sensitivity. What makes me fly to the moon isn’t what makes your girlfriend do that. Try things, be gentle, be loving, and she will come.

In the plateau phase (see diagram above) a woman is highly aroused, both physically and mentally, and she can remain in that state for some time without reaching orgasm unless additional stimulation is applied to take her over into the orgasm phase.

“I love [giving oral sex] because it seems to be one of the most pleasurable things you can do for a woman. To hear and feel her reactions from that incredibly intimate point of contact is both bonding and super sexy, for me.” — Logan*, 22

Guys tend to go at it too hard, I guess in the theory that pressure is more exciting or because that’s how they like it on their cock. Hard licks or sucking doesn’t feel good to me, it gets into overstimulation and even pain. Light flickers, alternating with very gentle sweeps or circles… that’s the ticket. Also making sure that the woman is comfortable both physically and emotionally. Let her lie on her back, tell her how beautiful and hot her pussy is. Spend time kissing her and looking her in the eyes before going down. Touch her other places when you’re down there. I like a guy to caress my thighs, reach down to gently spread my knees apart further (very erotic), occasionally reach up to touch and squeeze my breasts. Murmur and smile occasionally to reassure her you like it and aren’t grossed out by her. If you’ve got the look and demeanor of martyrdom, no one’s going to have any fun.

You sound luke that one guy who only got lucky due to a heavy amount of alcohol, and because all he has is fuzzy images from the night before thinks he is some kind of sex god who gets to criticise people on an online forum for stating their opinion, or are you incapable of knowing what a forum topic and post are about.

With age comes maturity, and with maturity comes the knowledge that sex usually just isn’t as fun when only one partner gets off. One of the primary reasons men say they love giving oral sex is partly selfish: Making women feel good makes them feel good. 

What’s the difference between a vaginal and clitoral orgasm? Is it only possible to have a vaginal orgasm during intercourse? If you can have a clitoral orgasm through other activity, but not intercourse, why is that? If your clitoris is stimulated during intercourse, will that give you a clitoral orgasm during sex? So how do you have a vaginal one? Can you have both at the same time?

I’m sorry to hear that. Unfortunately since I dont know your wife there is not much more advice I can give. You guys can go to a therapist about it though. There are even sex therapists who specialize in helping people with these problems. And you are not alone a lot of couples go through this.

Before you even start, look at your partner’s penis or vagina. I love it when clients tell me that they think their partner’s genitalia is beautiful! Have a real, proper look. Notice its contours, size, color, firmness, hairiness. Allow your eyes to take everything in. Does it make you want to smile and giggle? Does it make you more turned on? Whatever arises for you, embrace it. In honoring your partner’s parts with your eyes, you begin to realize the complexities of this amazing part of the body.

The complexity of sexual relations is shown by the fact that orgasm is not only enjoyed by the person having orgasm. The orgasm of the man is important to the woman, and reversely the orgasm of the woman is felt as important for many men, maybe too important.

Instead, Mindvalley Academy’s intimacy coach and author of Tantra Touch, Psalm Isadora, has eight simple steps to help women embrace their bodies and reach the blissful state of orgasm — potentially multiple times.

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Talking to your partner about protection before you start having oral sex will help things go more smoothly. This can be embarrassing, but it’s an important part of having sex – and if you find it too difficult to discuss then it could be a sign that you aren’t ready to start having oral sex just yet.

– Use the index and middle finger for penetration. Start off with the middle finger as it is the longest and has the farther reach especially when stimulating the G-spot. Using both fingers is recommended for G-spot stimulation as it covers more surface area than one finger alone. [Read: How to finger yourself – A girl’s guide to fingering herself to ecstasy]

My proposed title for this article to keep it from grievously inhibiting the cause of social justice within our society is “Possible Avenues for Providing Pleasure to Vaginas by Utilizing Your Mouth and Hands.” If StudLife will make this change then I think we’ll be most of the way towards solving society’s problems, and once we sort out racial, sexual, gender, social, physical, age, and other inequalities we’ll be the rest of the way there. I’m kind of busy over Winter Break but I think we can probably do it next semester if the Social Justice Center is willing to help out.

Get hold of Kamasutra and surprise her with a new move. A woman’s body is a treasure trove of hidden pleasure points. And if our ancestors swore by the century-old sex guide, it could definitely show your lady love stars in the daylight!

How to “train” your penis to stay hard and that are able to control when you will cum? It’s actually quite simple. All you have to do is train your PC (Pubococcygeus muscle) which you can do by doing kegel excercises. My favourite method is to masturbate and hold my orgasm for as long as I can. If you can masturbate for 30min without releasing your orgasm you will be able to perform in bed for about the same amount of time.

She’s almost naked now but keep her underwear on for another minute or so. “Stroke and caress her through the fabric rather than going for gold,” says sex therapist Paula Hall. “Focus on building anticipation rather than going straight for direct stimulation.” Feeling that time is short prevents a woman from reaching orgasm, adds Webber. Act like you’ve got forever, but then peel off her underwear and use Durex’s new strawberry-scented Intimate Lube (durex.com). This will get her excited, and make her more sensitive. Research at the US Association for Chemical Reception Sciences found the scent of strawberries alerts the senses. Move your fingers in slow, circular motions just inside her vagina. “Many women need attention focused on the outer third of the vaginal canal, where the G-spot, the clitoris, and the PS-spot (opposite the G-spot) can be reached,” says Emma Taylor of the sex blog emandlo.com. Women love a man who’s good with his hands…

Do not fondle the genital area until she is ready (use lubricating gel, which you can buy in a drug store). You need to have patience. She may not get an orgasm until after 20 minutes or more. And sometimes it will not even if you do everything right. You need to love her anyway.

“We had the rare opportunity to look at responses from over 50,000 people, including over 2,000 gay, lesbian, and bisexual men and women,” said David Frederick, lead author of the research from Chapman University.

I don’t really have trouble reaching orgasm and can usually do so in about fifteen minutes. If there is one thing I would say is that give yourself a break otherwise you’ll just get desensitised. I find that every other day works for me.

You or a partner can stimulate your clitoris in a number of different ways — by rubbing, sucking, body pressure,  or using a vibrator. Although some women touch the glans of the clitoris to become aroused, for others it can be so sensitive that direct touching hurts, even with lubrication. Also, focusing directly on the clitoris for a long time may cause the pleasurable sensations to disappear. Your clitoris can also be stimulated during sexual intercourse, most often with the woman on top — this happens when the clitoris is rubbed against the man’s pubic bone. It can also be achieved when the man is on top if the man positions himself high enough so that his pubic bone presses against his partner’s clitoral area. You or your partner can also stimulate your clitoris with fingers during intercourse to help bring you to orgasm.

I have been able to have that “pee” sensation before and have let go and “ejaculated” but it felt about as good as actually releasing pee (meaning it was DEFINITELY not an orgasm or orgasmic feeling. Just a neat little party trick that does nothing for me. I have heard some women don’t feel that great with them but I would really love for this “need to pee” sensation to be more then just feeling like I actually just DID pee and that was all.

This is the best advice for anything when it comes to pleasing a woman. The trick to making her orgasm? There is no trick. You’re going to have to learn her body language and figure out what works and doesn’t. Hopefully she will open up with you and communicate what she likes to make it easier over time.

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There’s only one rule about anal stimulation and it’s “No surprises!” If your woman is up for some experimenting, then use your pinky finger to LIGHTLY penetrate her anus. Make sure your hand is sideways and, just to be safe, keep fingering her vagina at the same time you slip it in.

Increase the speed if she seems to like it and find a thrusting pattern that works. The ideal position is with you in front of her vagina and kneeling in front of her since this gives you full control over your hand.

Don’t just kiss her mouth, though. William Cane, author of The Art of Kissing (St Martin’s Griffin), surveyed 50,000 women and 96% picked a peck on the neck as the perfect warm up. But don’t overdo it, Cane says. “Slide off the lips to her neck occasionally so that her neck doesn’t become desensitised.”

We all like being good at things. (Remember how awesome it felt to get a gold star on that fourth-grade math test?) That sentiment also applies to sex: Being told how good you are at giving head is a pretty big ego boost.

And if you don’t warm her up, and penetrate her properly, it probably WILL take her 15 – 20 minutes to get off… and most men don’t know what the hell they’re doing when they’re in the bedroom, so either 1) the girl naturally has quick/easy orgasms, or 2) she’s putting on a performance to please her man’s ego.

Women can have ten different kinds of orgasms, so while a man might think his penis is the most fun tool he has, he can probably challenge himself by learning the 9 other types of orgasms he can stimulate.

As for vibrators, I think it’s an old wives tale that they somehow “desensitize” a woman for pleasure by ordinary intercourse. Some women I’ve been with never came during intercourse, but could with a vibrator, and if it weren’t for vibrators, they might never have come at all. I’m not threatened by that, and I don’t feel I “failed” to please. Other women I’ve been with had the ritualistic approach issues y6y6y6 mentions above, but could come anytime the exact right sequence of actions happened. Yet other women of my experience could come pretty much anywhere, anytime, anyway they wanted, and did.

You can bring her to the brink of orgasm and then stop touching her “orgasm zone” completely (so if you’re giving her a clitoral orgasm using your fingers, you would completely remove your hand and stop all contact with her clit while you stimulate her breasts or kiss her).

Some men won’t even give it at all, but even of those who do, it is often a quick formality before sex. This is the wrong way to approach going down on her. Get in there, get comfortable, and enjoy it.

(4) Use a lubricant. Wetter is better. In just seconds, lubricant makes women’s (and men’s) genitals more erotically sensitive, so it helps women have orgasms. In addition, for women experiencing post-menopausal vaginal dryness, sex may feel uncomfortable without a lubricant.

Back in the late ‘80s, the CAT made headlines, but it proved to be just a blip on America’s sexual radar. By the 1990’s, it was largely forgotten. But quietly, research has continued, and most results affirm the CAT’s benefit.

Once you make it to her clit and vagina, gently lick all around. Direct stimulation can be too intense for some, so explore the surrounding area. Ask her where she likes to be touched. You don’t have to be rough with your mouth unless she wants you to. It’s always best to start off slow, unless she specifically requests otherwise. Some women do like it when you roughly use your tongue and mouth, but only do so if she asks.

But even if you are the queen of masturbatory techniques, you might still find it tough to climax during full sex, and this will almost certainly be because your clitoris is not getting sufficient attention.

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There are two issues here. The first is neck ache, which can be handled by switching position. Having her sit on a couch or the side of the bed with you between her legs can work. Alternatively, try putting a pillow under her butt to raise the area slightly.

Add a little zing to the everyday, mundane activities of life. For instance, the next time you take a shower, pull her in with you. Use soap and a loofah to create a soft-and-rough touch. The unbelievably erotic experience will leave her breathless and she will never be able to help but smile every time she showers after that! Here’s a little guide to spice things up.

Technically, this is cheating, but if there’s no touching it doesn’t count. Take her to live comedy or meet up on a day she has a spinning or yoga class. This preps her core-gasm because ab exercises stimulate the vagus nerve running through her pelvis. As the countdown draws closer, have some quiet drinks back at your flat. University of Florence research found that women who drink a glass or two of red wine are more aroused. When the bottle is empty, you can set the stop watch.

It sounds like maybe she’s just not that into sex. Has it always been this way with her, or did something change recently? Have you spoken to her openly to ask her what she does like, and what it is that she doesn’t like about oral etc? Maybe she feels insecure, maybe she doesn’t find the way you’re doing it turns her on and there’s a style she’s not spoken about. Or maybe she really just doesn’t have a high sex drive. These are things to discuss with her really, in as calm and non-judgmental way as possible.

If she enjoys the extra ‘unf’ you’re putting in, it’s time to get creative. Channel a whirlwind and use your tongue to slap, swirl, and suck. Notice if she’s convulsing or suddenly silent – if so, stop right away, and revert to gentle licks. But if she’s totally down for the whirlwind method, press forward and mix it up with some circular motions, up-and-down flicks, and tongue/finger boning. Yeah, we really just said tongue/finger boning.

Gentlemen, start her engine. Your challenge is to master the art of the 15-minute orgasm, turning the pre-work fumble or half-time quickie into an explosion that she’s still shuddering from two hours later. It can be done. Sexologists at the Kinsey Institute in the US found that the average woman can orgasm after 10-20 minutes of sex. And aside from the instant spike in your approval ratings, there’s more sex in it for you. Research in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy found – somewhat unsurprisingly – that women with an increased likelihood of orgasm demanded more time between the sheets.

My recommendation is to get some good massage oil (safe for the privates) and give her a sensual massage. Start at the shoulders, work your way down the sides of her body, her tummy, to her feet and then back up to her vulva. Go slowly and make it sexy. This will turn her on and it shows you care for her. Turn her on a lot with slow sensual touch, don’t let her cum, and then have intercourse when you are both ready. Again, let the sensation build, don’t try to get her off until your into the intercourse. This should strike an orgasm during intercourse or at the very least it will be highly enjoyable for you both!

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One mistake many guys make time and time again is that they often assume oral sex is virtually the same thing as standard intercourse. DO NOT simply thrust your tongue in and out of the vagina as you would with your penis. The tongue does not provide enough friction and is not long or thick enough to make this pleasurable. In general, stick to areas that are easier to access—like the clitoris. The clitoris is a woman’s most sensitive erogenous zone and, when stimulated correctly, leads to mind-blowing orgasms. Tease her for a while by lightly circling it with your tongue. Then try taking it into your mouth and gently sucking on it while softly flicking your tongue over the area—almost like a French kiss.

Just remember, you don’t “give” her orgasms. In a loving relationship, the man’s job is to create an erotic context that’s comfortable, relaxed, and arousing enough so the woman can let herself go enough to climax.

I want to say that if you’re ok with him putting his mouth on your vagina you should be ok with being honest about your needs, but I get sometimes it’s the how to say it that’s difficult. Try casually mentioning how you read this thing on Reddit that made you really horny at work/class/on the train and I guarantee he’ll ask you what it was. Then give it a bit of ‘some guy asked for tips on giving women good oral and the top comment was way more than I bargained for – here, I’ll show you’. Hopefully he’ll either take it on board, or you can use it as an opportunity to start the broader conversation about who likes what.

This is completely anecdotal, and I’m not about to go googling for backing statistics while I’m at work, but an ex-girlfriend of mine had her clitoral hood pierced right around when we started dating. She went from maybe 6 orgasms total in her life previous to 6+ per session. I’d like to think it just due to me being a virile young stud, but I think the other stud might have played a major role.

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Let it hang completely loose and flick your tongue independently of any jaw tension. If you cramp up easily, you may have a lot of stored jaw tension that you need to release. To help open that up, check out tip #3 in my article 7 Stretches For Better Sex.

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“I highly recommend all women have a high-quality lubricant,” Scalisi said. “Water-based lubes like Sliquid Organics are great for toys while silicone-based lubes like the one by Pjur are better for intercourse, oral sex and fingering. The amount of natural lubricant a woman produces is not indicative of her level of arousal as everything from stress to dehydration to medications can affect the body’s ability to get wet.”

Interestingly enough, there was also a gap in the perception of orgasms. 85% of men said that their female partner had orgasmed – a significantly higher number than the percentage of women who confirmed that they actually had.

I’ve had many orgasms with men in the past during intercourse but only once with my husband. I am very turned on by him but for some reason no matter what I/he or we do I can’t seem to orgasm. I love my husband, am very turned on by him so what is the issue?

The reason? During intercourse (missionary, doggie, woman-on-top, whatever), the penis does not directly stimulate the clitoris, the organ responsible for women’s orgasms. Sexuality experts reassure couples that the woman’s inability to experience orgasm during intercourse is (1) very common, (2) no reflection on her sexual responsiveness, (3) no reflection on the man’s sexual technique, and (4) no reflection the woman’s feelings about the relationship. I agree.

Nice to see a answer on female orgasms that includes the fact the Clitoris actually extends down and around the vagina and lower portion of the anus. So many assume the Clit and Vagina are separate entities when they are actually as you said “as a network of nerves and muscles”. I’m always blown away how many females don’t know their own anatomy and how it works. Many miss out on great sex because of this.

I don’t really have trouble reaching orgasm and can usually do so in about fifteen minutes. If there is one thing I would say is that give yourself a break otherwise you’ll just get desensitised. I find that every other day works for me.

Next, when performing oral sex, you should try your best to be relaxed. Any hesitation or anxiety may be interpreted negatively by your partner and can be a source of distraction or turn off. If a woman thinks that you are not into it, she is not going to be into it. The best is when you can let yourself go and really eat her out. Attitude and enthusiasm are important.

Some women come easily from any type of stimulation but prefer one orgasm to another. I love receiving oral sex but I find that I enjoy the orgasms I get from sex the best. So once again, it’s better to just ask her what she likes.

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Now, many women say their best orgasms happen courtesy of the man’s tongue or hand or a vibrator. But for women desiring orgasms during intercourse, these simple variations just might allow a woman to enjoy a new erotic pleasure. Happy experimentation. Please comment on your results.

You’re doing it wrong. You don’t want them to give advice here in this website, you want to LISTEN to their body and their moans, how they move, how they breathe. If you can learn to listen to what the body is telling you, you know what you’re doing is right.

“After your first orgasm, take a moment or two to savor the afterglow before you start building arousal back up again. Your next orgasm might be mere minutes away,” Rose says. Focus on your breathing: “When people get sexually excited, they tend to hold the breath or breathe really shallow,” Anami says. “The more you can practice deep, steady breathing, you’ll relax, stay in the present moment, and also increase the power and pleasure of your orgasm.”

Hi. My wife doesn’t like oral kissing, nipple kissing and caressing, clitorial stimulation and she said she feels good only during intercourse. She also doesnt like prolonged penetration. Does he have problem???

Many men believe that one goal of lovemaking is to “give” women earth-shattering orgasms. But orgasm is something no one “gives.” Orgasms are like laughter. Comedians might be funny, but they don’t “make” us laugh. We release laughter from deep within ourselves when conditions feel right. Rather than “giving” women orgasms, men should focus on what allows women to have them. These suggestions increase her likelihood of happy endings:

In the plateau phase (see diagram above) a woman is highly aroused, both physically and mentally, and she can remain in that state for some time without reaching orgasm unless additional stimulation is applied to take her over into the orgasm phase.

hey… actually im here to find out whats wrong with me : ))… well i can get clitoral orgasm about 10 times during one act, but cant get vaginal orgasm at all, but even reaching clitoral orgasm is hard for me without deep penetration… my partner cant have fingers on my clitoris everytime we do this, neither can i… what can i do? can you give me a good advice? maybe i dont know my vagina very well or dont know whats wrong….ufff

However, if you’re all freaked out by this and making a big deal about it, then you need to back off. You can’t FORCE someone to come, and trying like HELL repeatedly will make her feel broken or inaqequate. Be anamazing lover, but don’t put in the spotlight every time you get into bed and try to make this time “the” time constantly. That is tiresome.

Stamina is the biggest key to great oral. One of the biggest secrets to being able to stick with it is to totally relax your jaw. The tendency most men have while licking is to clench up, which is what causes most guys to quickly burn out and not make it to the payoff.

“The most valuable thing you can do is find ways to bring more clitoral stimulation into your sex life,” says sex therapist Vanessa Marin, who is actually launching an online training program to teach women how to orgasm (bless her heart). Work on finding adventurous positions and activities that stimulate the clit, and you’ll be opened up to a whole new world of possibilities.

Add a little zing to the everyday, mundane activities of life. For instance, the next time you take a shower, pull her in with you. Use soap and a loofah to create a soft-and-rough touch. The unbelievably erotic experience will leave her breathless and she will never be able to help but smile every time she showers after that! Here’s a little guide to spice things up.

Before we get hot and heavy, remember — a little lesson in anatomy can lead to huge results. A woman’s sexual pleasure, and ultimately orgasm, is much more likely to occur from stimulation to the clitoris. The clitoris is highly sensitive and full of nerve endings. In fact, there are as many nerve endings in the tip of the clitoris as there are in a man’s penis! Many of the clitoral nerve endings are subterranean, or below the surface; the visible part of the clitoris is just the tip of the iceberg. However, even “in hiding,” those 6,000 to 8,000 sensory nerve endings can be a mega source of incredible pleasure for many women. 

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A vaginal orgasm is a dissolving in a vague, dark generalized sensation like being swirled in a warm whirlpool. There are several different sorts of clitoral orgasms, and they are more powerful than the vaginal orgasm.Read more to know the difference between vaginal orgasm and clitoral orgasm at: http://bit.ly/1y0BoFm

There are other key internal erogenous zones (I’ll write a deep dive article on G-spot and cervical orgasms sooner than later), but a decent percentage of women can’t orgasm without some form of clitoral stimulation taking place. Give the little cutie the attention, love, and respect it deserves.

Lots of people tense up when excited, like during sex. That can be fun, and often there is far more pleasure in the opposite direction – via relaxing. The more you relax while making out, the more fun you are likely to have (and the less tired you will be afterwards).

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Most guys get so excited when their woman is on the verge of a climax that they would never even think of stopping or slowing down… but if you want to be one of the rare men who’s known as “the best she’s ever had” … you know you need to do something different than other guys and this is it.

Variety is the spice of life and no more so than when it comes to romance and sex. During intercourse, change positions and mix things up to help make the sexual experience more pleasurable and successfully bring your woman to climax.

You should take pleasure in feeling her body tense up, in hearing her moan, and even in her taste and smell. And why not? She’s getting hot, and it’s because of what you’re doing to her. That’s very sexy. [Read: 11 hot and easy ways for men to get way better in bed!]

This is the kind of information that a man trying to make a woman come needs to know – for example, it is often a better idea for him to give her an orgasm before entering her and enjoying his own orgasm.

Diving straight in, especially with dry fingers can be quite painful to a woman. Foreplay will bring some natural lubrication to her vagina, and establish a trusting mood. Work your way slowly down her body paying close attention to her breasts. Even once you’re there, kiss her inner thighs and slowly get closer to her lips. This teasing builds her anticipation and gets her ready for what’s next.

Additionally, Natalie Angier wrote in Woman: An Intimate Georgraphy that many women who have difficulty reaching orgasm can get past that with the help of a little pot. If she’s amenable to that, it’s worth a try.

So for those of you who have never ventured down south in the bedroom, get over yourselves—this is an essential part of pleasing your woman. Keep these few tips in mind, and she won’t be able to get enough of you.

The flat surface on top of your tongue is soft and flexible, whilst the tip is harder and can exert more pressure. You want to use the full part of your tongue at first, maybe moving to the tip later.

Once you make it to her clit and vagina, gently lick all around. Direct stimulation can be too intense for some, so explore the surrounding area. Ask her where she likes to be touched. You don’t have to be rough with your mouth unless she wants you to. It’s always best to start off slow, unless she specifically requests otherwise. Some women do like it when you roughly use your tongue and mouth, but only do so if she asks.

Lots of women like this, though not all of them find it easy to orgasm on their sides. But the great advantage here is that either partner can reach down and rub the clitoris. Also, neither of you is having to take the weight of the other.

As we previously reported, the Girls creator underwent a total hysterectomy in an effort to end her longtime battle with endometriosis. While the decision to have her cervix and uterus removed was one she had to make for medical reasons, she’s still struggling with “a broken heart.”

One mistake many guys make time and time again is that they often assume oral sex is virtually the same thing as standard intercourse. DO NOT simply thrust your tongue in and out of the vagina as you would with your penis. The tongue does not provide enough friction and is not long or thick enough to make this pleasurable. In general, stick to areas that are easier to access—like the clitoris. The clitoris is a woman’s most sensitive erogenous zone and, when stimulated correctly, leads to mind-blowing orgasms. Tease her for a while by lightly circling it with your tongue. Then try taking it into your mouth and gently sucking on it while softly flicking your tongue over the area—almost like a French kiss.

Now that there’s less fabric between your fingers and her, you can alternate pressing and rubbing her bell in a circular motion. If you need an understanding of bell location, reference a good sex self help book or Wikipedia.

Once there—NO. BITING. EVER. Like, ever, ever. Seriously, it just hurts. Make sure her knees are still apart at this point, as well as her lips, so you can actually see where you are and what you’re doing.

After you’ve stroked the hood for a bit, you can move to direct contact with the bell, and include it in your circular stroke more or less prominently, depending on what type of touch she seems to like. Speed up your circles a little and stop kissing her. Tell her to feel those good feelings. That helps her focus on the sensation, which will help her reach orgasm.

Advice from a guy, thank you! Will remember this for the future, though I’ve finally got my guy to understand don’t stop means do exactly as I’m saying, if I mean faster/slower/harder/gentler I’ll say faster/slower/harder/gentler.

thanks to the ladies who’ve already said nix to the “vibrators are bad for women” comment, and seconded/thirded/whatever. especially the bit about how the more women have orgasms, the more able they are to have more in the future. for me anyway, and most of my female friends, it’s like a burner. you can keep it completely switched off as often as you like, and when it’s off, you don’t even think about it. but once you do light it, you can just go and go and go, varying intensity, whatever. you have to light it though first. otherwise it’s totally shut.

Alternatively, you can penetrate her with your fingers. If you’re going the penetration route, there are a couple of options. Insert your fingers all the way in and make a “come hither” motion to try and stimulate her G spot.

1) Please communicate. The advice I had doesn’t work on all girls, and there’s nothing but lovely fuzzy sexy orgasms to be had if you just check with your lady-friend about what they like. Do they like very gentle touching? Do they like more insistent touching? Do they like being teased for ages? Do they want your tongue on their clit? Just ask and incorporate (Please don’t have an actual conversation while eating her out, do it before sexytimes. If you don’t want to ruin the sexiness of it all, make it clear to her that she should tell you if she wants you to change anything you’re doing, and start on the gentler side.)

#7 Ride the rhythm. Some women like hard pressure applied with the tongue to the clitoris, while some need a lighter touch. With more experience with the same woman, you will understand her needs better, but if you’re not sure, listen to her cues.

Below is some discussion about how to help a woman get an orgasm. Important to note is that obtaining an orgasm may not be what is most important for her. Maybe other things are more important. Do not feel forced to obtain orgasm for the woman, unless this is her own wish.

For almost all girls, foreplay is massively important. If you think you can spread her legs, stick it in and have her screaming in fifteen seconds, you’re wrong. That doesn’t depend on the girl. No woman can come like that.

This is the best advice for anything when it comes to pleasing a woman. The trick to making her orgasm? There is no trick. You’re going to have to learn her body language and figure out what works and doesn’t. Hopefully she will open up with you and communicate what she likes to make it easier over time.

Although this article was written with the best of intentions, it is important to point out for StudLife and its readers that titling this piece “A guy’s guide to oral sex” is, without question, heterosexist. That title actually promotes injustices, marginalizes the LGBT community, reinforces the heterosexual sense of privilege and normativity, and could be interpreted as an ignorant and discriminatory statement. Education is the only solution to promoting “Socially Just” dialogue internal and external to StudLife. Therefore, I would recommend that care be taken in future articles to insure that meaning is properly worded. Perhaps, re-wording your title to take away the assumption that the reader is heterosexual, or speaking to both heterosexual and homosexual populations in your piece would be ways in which these concerns are eliminated. Thank you and feel free to contact your friends in Residential Life and/or the SJC for more information.

The most widely used lube is saliva. It’s wet, free, and always available, but saliva dries quickly and it’s not very slippery. Vegetable oil is possibility, but it can be messy and stain linens. Try commercial lubricants. They’re safe, inexpensive, and slippery. If they dry out, they can be refreshed with a few drops of water, or just apply a bit more. But don’t squirt lubricants directly on women’s genitals. That can feel cold and jarring. Squeeze some into your hand, rub it with your fingers to warm it, then touch her. Lubricants are available at pharmacies, near the condoms.

Um, no offense, but you do know that most porn isn’t sex trafficking victims right? It’s a CHOICE to be a porn star. Those women CHOSE to exploit themselves whether in their own home or on a bogus set. Yes there are some who are forced into it, but they’re not porn stars, sex trafficking is the dirtiest kind of prostitution, not porn.

If you want to give her the best orgasm of her life, it’s important to take it slow and create tension. If you focus on the build up, you’re way ahead of 95% of guys. Men and women are different when it comes to sexual arousal. For women, it’s more about the mood, kissing and touching.

Before you make your way down under, make sure she’s relaxed and comfortable. Some women can get super self-conscious over how long it’s going to take them to climax, but if you let her know you’re not in a rush, it’s more likely she’ll fully give herself up to the situation. Also, when she sees that you actually want to please her, and aren’t just doing it as a formality, it’ll turn her on and get her natural juices going even more.

Further analysis of the surveys revealed that women who frequently orgasmed were more likely to have a longer duration of sex and were more likely to have a higher relationship satisfaction, with the study also suggesting that factors such as asking for particular behaviours in bed and flirting with their partner throughout the day were linked to small but significant associations with more frequent orgasms in women.

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Every woman wants to feel and look sexy for her man and she’ll go to great lengths to please him. But how about making her look great for a change? Ditch the stuffed bear and buy her some sultry lingerie instead and ask her strut her stuff in front of you. Not only is it a definite turn on for you, but for her too. Time to make your move!

If you just try to have the best time you can each moment, it may be that the accumulation of pleasure will result in someone having an orgasm. Or, it might not, but you will wind up have a great time!

Moving back down, kiss down her stomach, sucking under her navel, maybe kissing along the edge of her underwear. Let your hands roam over her butt, squeezing, maybe smacking it if she’s into that. Pull her panties down (put a pillow under her hips to help with the angle) and take a deep breath before you dive right in. If you’re doing your job well, she’ll likely be squirming a little now, maybe panting.

Remember, it’s not just penetrative sex that transfers STIs. You can catch chlamydia, herpes, syphilis and gonorrhoea from having unprotected oral sex. The HPV virus, which can cause warts and (though rarely) cancer, can also be caught from having oral sex. Make sure you’re protected and practice safe oral sex by using a condom or dental dam.

That said, not all men are willing to perform oral sex — which means some millennial women who haven’t previously had partners who want to go down might view it as an adventurous new act. Tackling this new adventure can make many women more open to trying other new things during a sexual encounter. 

Some women come easily from any type of stimulation but prefer one orgasm to another. I love receiving oral sex but I find that I enjoy the orgasms I get from sex the best. So once again, it’s better to just ask her what she likes.

Sex toys have come a long way since your mother’s dildo (sorry, not a sexy image). Marin suggests trying a couples’ toy like the We-Vibe or, if you prefer going at it alone, the Eva by DAME products, which is an actual hands-free vibrator that stimulates the clitoris with zero effort — yay for that!

#7 Pay attention to her reaction. Most people find it hot to watch a girl’s reaction as she is fingered. But aside from this, watching her reaction tells if a particular movement of your fingers is actually pleasurable or not. This guides you for which type of fingering technique you need to sustain to be able to bring her to an orgasm.

Some women need to concentrate on erotic fantasies to get an orgasm. The fantasies which work for some women can be weird and contain actions they would never do in real life. Thinking “maybe I cannot get an orgasm” may destroy the ability to get an orgasm.

Like, are you starting after a stressful day? Or are you starting with both people horny as fuck? That changes things. And everything else can change too. Sometimes some suction on the clit is the golden ticket to orgasm, other times it’s little circles, and other times its a big, wet tongue pressed hard everywhere.

As you’re telling her your plans, nibble her ears and pull her hair backwards to expose her neck. Caress, kiss and bite it and put a hand down her knickers to make fleeting contact. Don’t leave your hand down there long. Grope her thighs and don’t be afraid to be strong and assertive – if she knows you’re in charge she won’t know what to expect. Pay her breasts some attention. Leave her bra on to begin with and unveil one nipple at a time, always leaving her wanting more. You’ll know when you’re achieving this, because she’ll try and put your head and your hands where she wants them.

By now, your girl should be clawing at the sheets, but don’t be mistaken in thinking you need one final trick to clinch the result. “Women hate too much chopping and changing of techniques,” says Dr Joni Frater, co-author of Love Her Right (Booksurge). “It distracts us, and takes our arousal back to the starting blocks.” You don’t really want to start over just before you reach the finish, do you?

For the former, it’s all about the deep spot, which is sometimes called the A-Spot. Basically you take you middle finger and go all the way back to her cervix. Using just the tip of your middle finger, you press the top of the cervix until she explodes. It works because the cervix contracts during the female orgasm, and so stimulating that contraction causes a very deep full body orgasm she almost definitely hasn’t experienced before. This is also great for women who can come from the clit but not from penetration. Look up David Shade to learn more about this technique.  If that doesn’t work, hypnosis is the next step.

We all like being good at things. (Remember how awesome it felt to get a gold star on that fourth-grade math test?) That sentiment also applies to sex: Being told how good you are at giving head is a pretty big ego boost.

You can get the best fingering advice from the owner of the vagina. In addition to that, this makes for a good, teasing foreplay. Snuggle up close and ask her to guide your hand in the right places or ask that naughty girl to “confess” how she touches herself when she’s thinking of you. [Read: 10 foreplay moves every guy needs to do to their ladies]

She’s almost naked now but keep her underwear on for another minute or so. “Stroke and caress her through the fabric rather than going for gold,” says sex therapist Paula Hall. “Focus on building anticipation rather than going straight fordirect stimulation.” Feeling that time is short prevents a woman from reaching orgasm, adds Webber. Act like you’ve got forever, but then peel off her underwear and use Durex’s new strawberry-scented Intimate Lube (£4.99, here). This will get her excited, and make her more sensitive.

Austin, I appreciate the effort, but you haven’t gone nearly far enough. “Guide to Giving Women Oral Sex” still builds in a gigantic host of assumptions that really only serve to marginalize various groups or individuals and substitute the constricting bonds of conventional societal mores in areas where we need to focus on inclusiveness.

The sure-fire option is to address her clitoris: by changing your thrusting motion so your pelvis grinds into her, or by slowing down (crucial, this) such that you can accurately use your thumb. (This same attention to detail goes for nipple pinching, spanking, or a wet finger pressing up against her behind. Flailing attempts are beneath you – do it well or not at all.)

Building arousal and experiencing multiple Os in one go is definitely about physical technique (don’t worry, we’ll get there), but first step is setting your thoughts and emotions straight. “Becoming a multiorgasmic woman is a mindset more than anything,” Rose says. (And avoid these 5 Common Libido-Crushers.)

No matter if you touch it or lick it, one thing is crucial: your PERSISTENCE.  Repeat the same move between her legs continuously and patiently. Make her feel that you won’t stop until she screams with pleasure. She must feel it that it’s fun for you to take care of her and you will not finish in the middle of doing that. She must feel that she is melting with each stroke of your finger or tongue and slowly falling into the deep hole of pleasure.

Also she says that if the environment was right maybe it would be possible for her to achieve a female orgasm which I do agree to a certain extent but truthfully I believe something is wrong with her vagina. She loves me to death and says sex doesn’t really bother her but to me it does and the fact that I can’t give her an orgasm makes me feel like I am a total disgrace.

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Wow, thank you Michael Castlemen! I really enjoyed reading all this information. I have had trouble with having to reach an orgasm and have read articles and passages on how to reach it faster and all I’ve really got stuck in my head is having to wear socks. I’ve also asked a professor of mine if she can burn me an “Anatomy of Sex” video. Pretty embarrassing I know. But with this information, I am going to apply it with my partner and see if I can get there. Thank you so much! 🙂

Once there—NO. BITING. EVER. Like, ever, ever. Seriously, it just hurts. Make sure her knees are still apart at this point, as well as her lips, so you can actually see where you are and what you’re doing.

Don’t underestimate the power of relieving her mind of household concerns as a way to help her relax into the right frame of mind. As one writer pointed out, vacuuming, cleaning the sink, etc. will enable her to focus on you more.

In all my years of performing fellatio, I have observed one constant, each man likes to be pleasured differently. What works for John doesn’t make Sean c*m and what keeps Robert’s toes curling, doesn’t phase Tom. One thing all men seem to love though,  is when you swallow their juices like unwanted gum. But there’s a long way to go before you get there.

This is often a man’s number one goal in bed. In any case, it’s a major goal: he thinks that if he can make his partner come during sex, she’ll place him on a pedestal and think of him as the best lay of her life! That’s not totally false – women love orgasms and I won’t even try to say otherwise! Still, you’ve got to get away from the idea that penetration is the best tactic. Why? Because this isn’t actually the greatest source of feminine pleasure!

I sure have done so. I’m also a bisexual girl, although since I still have a penis, I don’t yet have that kind of experience on the receiving end. I like to think that I’m pretty darn good at giving it all the same. The current top comment here is pretty spot on in what I like to receive and what my partners have enjoyed.

As she becomes more aroused, her clitoris becomes larger and goes through a number of changes that cause the angle of the clitoral body to change. Such changes are useful signs for a man aiming to make a woman come quickly and easily – they can be the clues to what to do next in the process of sexual arousal.

I blame bad communication and porn. Remember the last time you watched a man giving oral sex on camera? She was probably already naked when the film started. He will probably have given her tits a quick squeeze before going down on her, diving straight in, separating her lips and licking away furiously like a man possessed. If this is how you give head to your woman, you need to keep reading. Sure, the female arousal process can be very complicated. But once you understand a few things, your neck and jaw are going to thank me.

I’ve had many orgasms with men in the past during intercourse but only once with my husband. I am very turned on by him but for some reason no matter what I/he or we do I can’t seem to orgasm. I love my husband, am very turned on by him so what is the issue?

Then, use the longest finger of your right hand and move it slowly to the entrance of her vagina. Once you can feel her wetness, push your finger inside (again, move nice and slow). Your hand should be facing upwards, so that your finger can caress the front wall of her vagina, at the famous “G-spot.” Do this while continuing clitoral stimulation with your tongue.

There is greater variability in female sexual response, by far, than there is in my little library of technique and experience, and, as a man, I’m humbled by the complexity of it all. And I’m very glad and extremely grateful anytime I get invited to a ringside seat at the greatest show on earth…

Scientists put her in an MRI like a machine, studying her brain waves, and they were, in fact, identical to the overwhelming hurricane of brain activity that occurs during orgasm. She was having an orgasm just from thought.

A good flow of natural lubrication – so that the delicate parts don’t get sore. This may be natural vaginal secretion or even a lubrication product (some of which, like the Durex Tingle lube, are even designed to boost female stimulation).

Cunnilingus before intercourse can significantly improve both partners’ experience because, to put it simply, it’s better when it’s wetter. (Plus, she’ll probably be more inclined to reciprocate, if you’re into that sort of thing.)

Another vote for the vibrator. It’s not going to desensitize her unless she’s using it 24 hours a day for days on end. Even if she does feel a little desensitized at first, this will go away within a few hours, a day or two at the most. I would rather feel a little dull down there for a day than never have felt an orgasm in my life.

That said, not all men are willing to perform oral sex — which means some millennial women who haven’t previously had partners who want to go down might view it as an adventurous new act. Tackling this new adventure can make many women more open to trying other new things during a sexual encounter. 

“It really turns me on. I love the actual act of it; the smell, the taste, etc. It’s also the most reliable way to make a woman orgasm. Most of the women I’ve been with said they find it hard or impossible to orgasm purely from sex.” — Zachary*, 33

A great lover is a very good thing to be. Your partner will be more giving, and you’ll have more confidence meeting a new woman knowing that you can make her come. Giving great oral sex is the key to being a great lover, so get out there and try out these 8 tips and techniques. She’ll be glad you did, and so will you!

Swallow – You know what I’m talking about! If you’re doing it right, it will be inevitable that she will urinate in your mouth. Don’t be afraid. Encourage her. And when she does, give her the same courtesy you’d expect and swallow every drop.

Don’t ignore your hands while going down on your girl—always keep them moving. A variety of textures and pressures is important since there’s only so much your tongue can do on its own. Since we’ve already established that it’s not your tongue’s job to do any penetration during oral sex, try saving this task for your fingers. While performing the above techniques on her clitoris, use your hands to either apply pressure to her inner thighs in a massaging motion, which also helps hold her legs apart, or use them to thrust a few fingers into the vagina, providing her with more complete stimulation.

The large disparities seen for women of different sexualities, the authors say, could at least in part be down to other women being more likely to take turns at inducing orgasms, and having a better understanding than men that female orgasms are not primarily associated with vaginal sex.

Every guy knows that when a woman hits the sack she loves to wedge her cold feet between his legs to warm up. Warm feet do more to make a woman physically comfortable than just about anything else — even more so if you want her completely naked, which is not likely to happen if she’s cold, even with the lights off. What most of you probably didn’t realize was the importance of warm feet in increasing the likelihood of her experiencing an orgasm. According to Dutch scientists from the University of Groningen, the odds of achieving female orgasm are increased by 30%. Maybe leaving the socks on isn’t such a bad idea after all. If you want to try something sexier, a foot massage with a warming gel can do wonders, especially if you concentrate on the pads of her toes and the webbing in between, which are linked to her nether zones according to reflexology charts. Moreover, lips, hands, feet, and genitals get the lion’s share of brain space, where feet and genital centers are neighbors, making them share sexy information. Why else do you think women call shoe shopping “retail therapy” — especially when they’re not getting any at home and feeling bummed out? So socks or stilettos, you choose, as long as they’re keeping her tootsies warm.

Sometimes I think I’m alone in this. I just don’t think it’s that fantastic. like to be bodily manipulated instead. And fingering. I just don’t cum at all from oral. It’s nice but it’s just not that exciting ever.

“There’s a noticeable difference in the quality of sex if the order is rip off clothes and go down. I feel like women get so used to dudes just lying back and expecting head that it becomes routine and a little boring, despite it being inherently new and exciting.” — Martin

Many men find oral sex (also known as ‘blow jobs’) highly sensitive, so start gently and slowly and work up to a faster pace. You can experiment with different tongue, mouth and head movements to see what works best (but never use your teeth unless asked!).

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Kiss, show love, touch, caress, massage, look in her eyes and melt. Start when she’s dressed. Undress her slowly, lovingly, kiss her breasts and feel that it’s the most amazing thing you’ve ever done. It should be. If it’s not, she’ll know.

While she’s recuperating from her clitoral climax, give her a g-spot orgasm. It’ll take less and less time for her to come with every orgasm you give her until the point where one starts happening before the last is done.

The most sensitive part of the vagina for a woman is the clitoris, which has more than 8,000 nerve endings. But the whole pelvic area is very sensitive. Gently part the outer lips of the vagina and look for the vaginal opening, and the hooded clitoris just above it.

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Theories about how to best help a woman reach orgasm are like buttholes — everyone has one, but few people have ever seen theirs in action. Some people believe they have it all figured out, even if one set of “moves” couldn’t possibly work for every woman. On the other end of the spectrum, people dismiss any attempt at research or discussion with “every woman’s different;” the “#AllLivesMatter” of sex. But one website, called OMGYES, is bravely crashing through those barriers to help lovers all over better understand, communicate and eventually bring about the Big O — and they’re doing it in a decidedly high-tech way.

As a guy, it’s the same for me. I’ve only had one woman that it’s been earth shattering from. Every other one I prefer giving. I get off more from seeing the woman have pleasure than seeing the woman give me pleasure.

But for women it’s usually quite different. Sometimes maintaining stimulation after orgasm can cause you to cruise right into another one. Or, you might be able to dial back stimulation for a few seconds and then ramp it right back up again to bring her to climax. I find this works relatively often.

Explore with foreplay. Sometimes you may feel ready for intercourse immediately, while other times you may want your partner to first touch, rub, kiss, or lick your vulva and clitoris, using his hands, mouth, or penis. Oral sex can be highly pleasurable to many women because of its direct focus on the clitoris. Women describe intense orgasms through oral sex.

Rear entry. The woman stands bends at the waist or kneels on all fours and the man stands or kneels behind her. The man or woman can reach the woman’s clitoris and gently caress it, or either the man or woman can press a vibrator against her clitoris.

As we all pursue our higher purposes and make contributions to the world around us, there is undoubtedly a component of interaction that takes place with other people, all with their own differences categorically spanned across both majority and minority groups and areas of opinion. With the intent of being mindful of those around us and in doing our best to be compassionate in what we do, be it someone that writes for a newspaper or interacts daily with students as a housekeeper on the South 40, we all make/intend an effort, conscious or not, and to different degrees, to not make preconceived judgments and assumptions about the people with whom we interact. Discrimination is defined in many ways, but it is simply “the state of being biased or having a belief or attitude formed beforehand.” Thus, it is THIS underlying causative factor that forms the foundation of racism, sizeism, classism, heterosexism, etc. Whether or not we see these discriminations exemplified by society (or a given article that makes a preconceived judgment/assumption that its readers are heterosexual) depends on our own life experiences most often concentrated on how our own identities have been affected by discriminatory/ignorant behavior. We are also able to broaden our life experiences via compliments of education that we receive from others regarding diversity, social justice, or what just seemed like a good idea/common sense/or tidbit of knowledge picked up from an interpersonal interaction with someone of a “new diversity” that you had yet to encounter. (e.g. “ooh, I didn’t know saying “that’s so gay” is offensive, thanks for letting me know, now I know!”). Hence, these behaviors that are discriminatory/ignorant have spanned the spectrum in terms of bullies at school (which has led to an increased suicide rate in lesbian/gay students, as shown in recent media), the use of various ethnic slurs (disrespectful and pejorative), and, in an all-factor-encompassing fashion, the less than equal treatment of someone else in various contexts (e.g. history of enslavement, DADT, gay marriage).

It’s down to the hormones we produce – after she’s had an orgasm during sex a woman is much more likely to want a period of cuddling and interaction; after his orgasm, a man is likely to want to sleep.

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Gently start to use your mouth on his penis or her vagina. Remember that oral sex is all about using both your tongue and your lips. If you are willing to explore the idea of the expansive nature of oral pleasure, then dive in with all parts of your mouth!

Many people would believe that for oral to be good, it would have to have the inevitable “grand finale,” but this is not true. Oral sex can end in many different ways. You could move to intercourse, or manual stimulation. If you really wanted to up the ante you could stop before your partner’s climax and let him or her take a turn giving you oral stimulation. You could make a game of this, and see how many turns each of you can take before you explode. Or you could simply lay back and cuddle. Keep an open mind, and remember that sex is always different!

Keep her wanting more by starting with slow, deliberate movements. She’ll love the anticipation—and it will certainly pay off in the end. Women like to be teased, so make sure not to get carried away and keep it light and playful to start. Try running your tongue along the inside of her upper thigh right next to the vaginal area, without actually touching it. It will make her crave more action.

I try to listen to my wife, other women willing to discuss sexuality, and I read the surveys of women, and what women sex experts write. I don’t claim to “get it” entirely—and have plenty of critics here telling me I don’t—but I try to listen to women and take them seriously.

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Try a variety of sex positionswhere your clitoris might be further stimulated. For example, the woman-on-top position has more potential for clitoral stimulation than the missionary position. On top, you can have more control over the amount of stimulation, rhythm, and pacing. You can move your hips to reach his pubic bone, or he can change the angle of his hips. He can also enter you from behind and reach around to caress your clitoris. If you like deep penetration and pressure on your cervix, then choose positions that make this more possible. Get creative! Certain sex positions may feel more exciting you than others, and this may differ each time you have sex.

This is all good news for you. Because if you put even a little bit of effort into sorting out your approach and technique, you’ll set yourself miles ahead of the pack. When you’re through, she’ll be blissed out, panting and doe-eyed, looking at you like you’re an absolute rock star.

Debby Herbenick, one of the survey’s researchers and an associate professor at Indiana University, told Mic that “the vast majority” of young men enjoy cunnilingus quite a lot. “In new, not-yet-published data from a recent college student survey I conducted, 64% said [they enjoyed performing oral sex] ‘very much’ and 24% said ‘somewhat,'” Herbenick said.

Finish her off – If you don’t know where the clit is, LEARN! While the entire area qualifies as an erogenous zone for a woman, pay special attention to her clit. Massage it with your tongue and pay attention to her verbal and non-verbal languages. Do whatever gets the best reaction!

There is a fine line to walk where women are concerned. On the one hand, orgasms as a goal for women should not be devalued at all, and should have a rightful and supreme place in the pantheon of sexual experiences worth seeking and finding.

Getting into the mindset that you are pleasuring your partner for your stimulation as well can be a real game-changer. These simple steps might allow you to both give and receive more pleasure when you are going down on your partner.

Once you make it to her clit and vagina, gently lick all around. Direct stimulation can be too intense for some, so explore the surrounding area. Ask her where she likes to be touched. You don’t have to be rough with your mouth unless she wants you to. It’s always best to start off slow, unless she specifically requests otherwise. Some women do like it when you roughly use your tongue and mouth, but only do so if she asks.

Research at the US Association for Chemical Reception Sciences found the scent of strawberries alerts the senses. Move your fingers in slow, circular motions just inside her vagina. “Many women need attention focused on the outer third of the vaginal canal, where the G-spot, the clitoris, and the PS-spot (opposite the G-spot) can bereached,” says Emma Taylor of the sex blog emandlo.com.

Hi, I’m Elizabeth! About 5mins ago, I orgasmed for my first time like 5 times!!The method I used was easy! First I got used to it by spitting on my fingers and putting them down there so it would get wet(you can also use water!) Next, I took my pointer finger and you will feel a little circle ball thing. Put your fingers just above it and rub with your pointer finger back and forth really fast. Suddenly, you will feel an amazing ticklish feeling where your clitoris (the circle ball thingy) is, keep rubbing, trust me, your lower abdomen will feel great! Now, concentrate on the ticklish feeling, and think about the person you would like to have sex with, keep rubbing, imagine you and the other person having sex. Suddenly, you will feel an explosion of awesomeness in your stomach and vagina! Your body will shake the longer and faster you rub. You will know when to stop, just don’t rub for too long after you get the ticklish feeling!

“When you start doing something that causes a positive response, keep doing it, at exactly the same speed and pressure.” Save your new technique for next time. Since you’ve just orchestrated a 15-minute orgasm with shuttle-launch precision, that’s something she’ll be demanding very soon.

After foreplay by kissing and fondling (may have to continue for up to 20 minutes) the partner or the person herself stimulates the clitoris (the area below the labia or genital lips, and above the vagina opening) by rapidly flicking a finger or the tongue back and forward or up and down. Do not press hard. If you are using a finger, be sure to use lots of lubricating gel (can be bought at a drug store). If you are using the tongue, lubricating gel is usually not necessary, since lubrication comes from the mouth. Ask her to concentracte on sexy thoughts at the same time.

Invest at least three minutes of your total 15 in kissing. Studies by Lafayette College in the US found that kissing reduces levels of the stress hormone cortisol, quickening the time it takes to turn you both on. As you pay lip service, tilt your head to the right – scientists in Germany found this makes you seem more caring, flooding her system with the ‘connection’ chemical oxytocin, building trust and encouraging her to come quickly.