Wear a musky scent. Smell is the strongest of the five senses when it comes to sexual function. A musky scent is supposed to work as it mimics testosterone and kicks our libido up a gear. If we orgasm that time around, we’re more likely to do so again when the same scent is worn because memory, scent and sex are closely connected in the brain!
It may be hidden, but that doesn’t mean you can’t stimulate it if you know what you’re doing. While still tonguing her clitoris, push one finger slowly into her vagina. Leave it until she seems comfortable. Add a second finger, but note that for some women this might be uncomfortable.
Also known as the Venus Mound, the soft patch of skin above the vulva is the key to orgasm for many women, as sucking, stroking and rubbing this region also massages the shaft of her inner clitoris. While you’re going down on her, use three fingers to gently press upward on the bottom section of her Venus Mound while using her hip movements and breath patterns to guide your rhythm.
Some women come easily from any type of stimulation but prefer one orgasm to another. I love receiving oral sex but I find that I enjoy the orgasms I get from sex the best. So once again, it’s better to just ask her what she likes.
I am 28 years old. I’ve had a problem for years now; well, I had this problem all my life and I was too ashamed to seek help. Here it goes: during sexual intercourse, I never feel any sensation or tingling feelings, I feel nothing. I can feel the penis, but that is all. This has been with every guy I’ve been with and I’ve been with about 15 guys. I’m currently dating this guy for five years. I love him, but during sex, I feel nothing. He turns me on, and I get aroused, but when it comes to actually having sex, I feel NOTHING. It’s like I have a disjunction in my vagina. Does it have something to do with my clitoris? What is wrong with me? Please, can you tell me? I will eventually see a doctor, but I just want to know, what is the problem with me? Please, I would really appreciate it, I’ve kinda learned to live with it. Sad, right? 🙂
Women can sustain orgasms of length and intensity that men will simply never know (caveat: men can also become multi-orgasmic with a little bit of effort, but women still get the sweeter end of the stick in terms of orgasmic/peak arousal). So if you’re ignoring it, or are simply uninformed, you’re missing out on a massive treasure chest of sexual experience.
Sometimes, couples start with foreplay and manual or oral stimulation, then switch to intercourse with the woman on top until the woman gets her orgasm, then switch to the man on top until the man gets an orgasm. But this is something each couple will have to try out what they prefer.
You should take pleasure in feeling her body tense up, in hearing her moan, and even in her taste and smell. And why not? She’s getting hot, and it’s because of what you’re doing to her. That’s very sexy. [Read: 11 hot and easy ways for men to get way better in bed!]
According to statistics from sleep company Zeo, getting seven or more hours of sleep per night increases youthfulness and physical vigor, while a sleepless night reduces attractiveness by 4 percent and elevates a stress hormone called cortisol by 37 percent, leading more frustration, irritability and unhappiness. is a great stress reducer and sleep aid, but the irony is that in order to really enjoy it, you need to be well rested. Setting the stage for sex means setting the stage for sleep, so don’t be ashamed to make sleep a priority for both you and your partner. Better sex will surely follow. (See some other ways to lay proper groundwork in 8 New Year’s Resolutions for the Best Sex Ever.)
I’ve been with someone before with a similiar issue. Once she figured it out, it still took us a few months of experimenting to make sex work for her. Oral and manual stimulation on my part were occaisonally successful but in general fairly difficult. Her need was for a very specific kind of stimulation that required very direct feedback.
This is the best advice for anything when it comes to pleasing a woman. The trick to making her orgasm? There is no trick. You’re going to have to learn her body language and figure out what works and doesn’t. Hopefully she will open up with you and communicate what she likes to make it easier over time.
The first time I vaginally orgasmed was last year, which is sad cause I’m 28. The pee feeling came. A secret: Pee BEFORE foreplay so in your mind, you know its not pee even if it feels like you might. In fact, it’s kinda hot, but you will see, it’s not pee. Also, I get pain with deep penetration so for me, the only angle I can come vaginally is if I ride on top, and kind of grind back and forth on my lover. You’ll then feel a gush, or flood. It’s totally different than a clitoral orgasm (which I’ve also learned how to squirt….again, let go of fears) which throws women off.
Men, do not underestimate the amount of razor stubble on your face and how this feels. If a man has not had a shave in over 8 hours, his razor stubble could approximate the grain of 120 grit sandpaper, which is pretty abrasive. Sometimes a little pressure from the chin or upper lip can feel nice, but not if you’re exfoliating the top layer of musocal tissue. If you think back to the ice-cream example, it may help you remember: while eating an ice-cream cone, you wouldn’t stick your chin in it. So if you have razor stubble, make sure it’s only lips and tongue are contacting the area.
Here’s a little bit of history for you: Sigmund Freud made a pronouncement that the “mature” woman has orgasms only when her vagina, but not her clitoris, is stimulated — this is commonly referred to as the “vaginal orgasm”. The emphasis on stimulation from penetration made the man’s penis central to a woman’s sexual satisfaction. It is important to emphasize that Freud did not base his theory upon a study of woman’s anatomy, but rather upon his assumptions of woman as inferior to men.
Not surprisingly, women report that the most orgasm-inducing muscle contractions are in their lower pelvis. These are the same muscles you squeeze to stop the flow of urine midstream (a conscious contraction of this group is called a Kegel exercise).
Your primary sex organ is your clitoris, not your vagina. But youou already know that from masturbation. So as long as you orgasm during intercourse, you should not feel like you are missing anything.
With age comes maturity, and with maturity comes the knowledge that sex usually just isn’t as fun when only one partner gets off. One of the primary reasons men say they love giving oral sex is partly selfish: Making women feel good makes them feel good.
Start by kissing your partner down there – on her inner thighs and lower belly, gradually approaching the clitoris. Start gently licking. Do not apply too much pressure! It’s full of sensitive nerve endings, so be gentle!
Third, “oral sex” is problematic at best. What “sex” consists of is a complicated, difficult topic, and to presume that the activities described in the article constitute sex is to denigrate people who may choose to engage in these activities precisely because they do not see them as sex, perhaps because their religion forbids sex outside of marriage or something like this. If we just run around willy nilly calling things sex without engaging in constructive dialog about what is and isn’t sex, we pigeonhole people into viewing their activities in ways that may not be compatible with what they would prefer to believe if we had a more open, inclusive society.
What women need to learn is that it just doesn’t matter. If you have a man that loves you and is good to you (I do NOT mean money) and is good to your kids (whether they are yours, his or y’alls) who gives a rat’s ass if you orgasim? It is damn sure not worth hurting his feelings over.
The sexual position that worked for us was woman on top, at a particular angle (that actually changes a bit as things go on). She has to be in control of this, and I basically need to let her determine most of the factors like angle, pressure, speed, etc.
Sex toys have come a long way since your mother’s dildo (sorry, not a sexy image). Marin suggests trying a couples’ toy like the We-Vibe or, if you prefer going at it alone, the Eva by DAME products, which is an actual hands-free vibrator that stimulates the clitoris with zero effort — yay for that!
If I’m climaxing, I hope to all the gods you keep doing EXACTLY what you are doing and you do not stop. Imagine if you are receiving a blowjob and as soon as you start cumming, your partner starts kissing your thighs and stomach. A woman’s climax can last minutes. A climax is NOT the time so start switching it up and kissing thighs.
For reference, this seems to be a tl;dr of one chapter of “She Comes First”, aka “Cunnilingus for Dummies.” It’s fairly enlightening and, for lack of a better word, educational – basic technique, mindset, it goes over the basics and then some. If anything, it’ll give you ideas. Would recommend.
A study from a team of US researchers suggests that a combination of genital stimulation, deep kissing and oral sex is the “golden trio” for women when it comes to increasing their likelihood of reaching orgasm with a sexual partner.
When this tender technique gets a teensy bit repetitive/bland, that’s when you should amp things up a bit. Experiment with how much pressure she enjoys, without taking it too far. How do you know if you’ve taken it too far? She’ll have kneed your head out her sanctuary by then. But for the most part, slowly rev things up and see how she reacts via her moans and hip movements.