Clitorises can vary greatly between women. Some are quite big, others tiny. But they’ll always be in the same place so it’s just a matter of knowing where to look. As it becomes more stimulated, it will swell and become more prominent. With the hand you wrapped around her leg and placed on her stomach, pull back slightly on the skin just above the hood and the clitoris will become more exposed.
“[Giving oral sex] is a key piece of being an all around good lover. Some women prefer or need penetration to reach orgasm, but I have found that many prefer cunnilingus and clitoral stimulation to get there.” — Simon*, 26
Finish her off – If you don’t know where the clit is, LEARN! While the entire area qualifies as an erogenous zone for a woman, pay special attention to her clit. Massage it with your tongue and pay attention to her verbal and non-verbal languages. Do whatever gets the best reaction!
well for one it sounds like she isnt in the right state of mind to orgasm. A woman isnt going to orgasm if shes not in the mood. I would suggest taking a weekend and getting a babysitter and doing whatever you can to rekindle that spark. Take her somewhere you used to go. Talk about the sex you guys used to have. Get her thinking about it. And finally take your time with her. Does she not like foreplay or is it just the time issue? If she likes it then go for that. dont rush. And when youre having sex use consistency. Changing positions too often can interfere with a woman’s ability to orgasm. Not saying do the same thing just dont change positions every two minutes. And consistency with strokes is also good. I would say start out slow and deep and gradually speed things up, while being careful not to lose depth in the process.
Seriously? You felt it necessary to chastise an individual for creatively expressing their experience simply to, in my personal opinion, further whatever ideal you are trying to glorify, which i can only assume is egalitarianism in nature. This article was not meant to breed socio-political correctness, it was an informational piece about pleasing a woman/female (in the sense that the human race has been signifying since the dawn of written/spoken word). This article isn’t a ‘bash’ nor exclusion of anyone; if you are not looking to amplify your sex life with a genetic female…then the article isn’t for you. Plain and simple. Your comment is a direct representation of what is wrong with society today…people wanting individualism without sacrificing separatism. If, in fact, society rid itself of all its descriptors chaos would ensue. Think that’s a bit overboard? Misunderstanding or a lack of comprehensiveness is what causes strife and wars. We don’t need to suppress authors like this from using descriptors…we need to stop objectifying every word each of us says as being oppressive. Much like your response to this author was. An oppression of free expression. So my question to you is…are you practicing what you preach?
Great tips, and as a woman I totally agree with what’s said here. I hate it when a guy goes too quick from the get-go and will just find a way to stop him. Take your time guys and don’t use the tip of your tongue as much as the flat, soft top of the tongue. Em
I am offended by your terrible advice to watch porn. The majority of women in porn are there against their will. They are victims of sex trafficking. It is not mentally healthy to get off on seeing women being tortured and humiliated. http://stoppornculture.org/
“For most women, your partner’s hands and mouth are the best tools for helping you peak, so make sure he knows how to use them,” Rose says. Show him exactly how you like to be touched—and then let him explore. (Find out how to Have an Amazing Orgasm: Make Solo Sex Count.) “A lot of women love the combination of oral sex with a few fingers inside. This works for good reason, as this combination allows him to turn on both the external clitoris and it’s internal roots,” Rose suggests. Move his hands to where you touch yourself, and give him audible feedback on what is working for you—right up until you reach your first peak.
“Circles with your tongue are great. I hate flicking. I see it in porn all the time and I don’t get it. Let your tongue be wide and slightly firm, I HATE that thing when a tongue gets all hard and pointy at the tip.”
I have a lot of go to moves, not quite sure what you mean by the question. For example, some of my go to moves are designed for a woman who has an especially difficult time finishing, but I also have a separate set of go to moves that are going to make me unforgettable with a girl who comes really easily.
While you’re using your tongue, try switching between accompanying stimulation, such as massaging her thighs, pulling back the clitoral hood, stimulating the G-spot with fingers and pushing up on the backs of her knees to change the angle and position of stimulation.
Now head back to her clit and edge her to the brink of orgasm with your favorite oral technique. Then return to g-spot stimulation but this time give it to her through penetration. Place her legs up over your shoulders and thrust back and forth. Because of the angle created by the pillow, you’ll be thrusting directly into her g-spot.
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The large disparities seen for women of different sexualities, the authors say, could at least in part be down to other women being more likely to take turns at inducing orgasms, and having a better understanding than men that female orgasms are not primarily associated with vaginal sex.
If I’m climaxing, I hope to all the gods you keep doing EXACTLY what you are doing you do not stop. Imagine if you are receiving a blowjob and as soon as you start cumming, your partner starts kissing your thighs and stomach. A woman’s climax can last minutes. A climax is NOT the time so start switching it up and kissing thighs.
Understanding how to finger a girl is not easy, but with a little curious exploration of her body, you’ll discover that fingering is as complicated as a high form of art. Giving her an orgasm with your fingers requires patience, careful attention, and a little bedroom creativity.
Orgasms are not all about foreplay. A recent study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that the consistency of orgasms is more about the length ofintercourse than the length of foreplay. And another study in the same journal clocked her average climax seven minutes after penetration. That makes now the ideal timeto climb politely aboard and start the final leg of her leg trembler.
“In a long-term relationship, the sight of your dad bod, which she has seen literally thousands of times, is not going to be enough foreplay to make penetration enjoyable. Cunnilingus goes a long way in bridging the gap between a man’s ‘instant on’ and woman’s need to gradually build up to sex.” — Christian*, 26
Building arousal and experiencing multiple Os in one go is definitely about physical technique (don’t worry, we’ll get there), but first step is setting your thoughts and emotions straight. “Becoming a multiorgasmic woman is a mindset more than anything,” Rose says. (And avoid these 5 Common Libido-Crushers.)
Below are some items on how to help a woman get an orgasm. Always note, however, that getting a woman to enjoy sex is not the same thing as getting her to have an orgasm, since women can enjoy other things with sex more than the orgasm. Thus, if a man wants his woman to be happy, it may be more important to provide closeness and love rather than orgasm. Most women are not satisfied if the man enters them too early, but that is not because of lack of orgasm but because of lack of love and intimacy.
Your tongue and jaw will get tired, at least until you are giving oral sex on a regular basis. When you need a rest, take her clitoris between your lips and give it a mini-blowjob. This will drive her wild. [Read: The man’s guide to lasting longer during sex without any difficulty]
Some guys will jump head first off the high dive into her lap and start lapping her up like their lives depended on it. There’s a time and a place for that, but her experience will be way more pleasurable if you start out very, very slow.
Just to add one thing; for some women, inability or difficulty achieving an orgasm can be related to hormones being out of balance. It’s important to have that checked out, not to mention any medications like anti-depressants can impact orgasms as well.
There is such thing as a g spot. If she sticks her finger inside her, and kinda curls it a little and presses, she’ll feel like she has to pee. That’s the g spot. I recommend her to get on top..The stimulation from the pelvic bone will help her to orgasm during sex. That’s the only way I do.
#2 Be patient. Great oral sex starts well before your face find its way between her legs. Good foreplay, done right is key to getting her warmed up and ready. A guy is like a light switch, you’re either up *turned on* or down *turned off*. Women are more like a rocket launch, a complex set of systems activated in the right order, and eventually turned on.
G-spots and vaginal orgasms aren’t proven. They are only theories at this point. Many people believe, and many don’t. There are many studies where researchers say, “it looks like they are real,” and many studies where other researchers say, “it looks like they are not real.” few women claim to have vaginal orgasms. Most women orgasm from clitoral stimulation.
If you’re in the right position, you can simultaneously caress her body with your hands while your tongue is busy. The breasts, inner thighs and backs of the knees are all erogenous zones, so stroking them will make her feel great.
Women should also take some time getting to know their bodies and how they work. In a 2011 survey by Debra Herbenick, an associate director at Indiana University’s Center for Sexual Health Promotion, women who felt positively about vibrators and had used one recently reported higher levels of sexual satisfaction – and higher levels of orgasm. If a woman knows what to do down there, chances are she’ll be able to help her partner learn the lay of the land too. And when it comes to having great sex, that’s a good thing. (Looking for a vibrator. Check out our sex toy reviews.)
Think beyond the thrust. On average, men thrust for about 3-7min before it’s game over. However, research shows this isn’t enough time to arouse most women. Stretch out your performance with clever positioning
Today I’m going to give you a series of basic techniques designed to give your beloved woman the very best in erotic, physical pleasure. In my experience, the clitoris is the most consistent source of orgasm for the majority of women. There are other ways to bring a woman to orgasm, of course, but this is where I encourage you to start.
And if you don’t warm her up, and penetrate her properly, it probably WILL take her 15 – 20 minutes to get off… and most men don’t know what the hell they’re doing when they’re in the bedroom, so either 1) the girl naturally has quick/easy orgasms, or 2) she’s putting on a performance to please her man’s ego.
You might not have thought about this one, but feeling time-pressured is one of the top orgasm killers for women. This is especially true when it comes to oral sex, as sexologist Yvonne Fulbright explains in her bestselling book The Best Oral Sex Ever – His Guide to Going Down.