Be gentle at first and pay attention to your partner’s reactions both in terms of breathing and body tension. Slightly and gradually increase the pressure of your fingers following the same rhythm with your tongue (yes, it’s hard work to give an amazing orgasm!)
I sure have done so. I’m also a bisexual girl, although since I still have a penis, I don’t yet have that kind of experience on the receiving end. I like to think that I’m pretty darn good at giving it all the same. The current top comment here is pretty spot on in what I like to receive and what my partners have enjoyed.
I agree with those who have said that the Hitachi Magic Wand isn’t a good starter vibrator. That thing has some torque, lemme tell you. I think the vibe might be a good idea, but starting off small might work better.
I suggest she try on her own whenever she’s alone and feeling ‘randy’, and that she try a stimulating lube of some kind. I also suggest that she go to a nice sex toy establishment if possible, and talk to the ladies there.
The pain on deep penetration is him hitting your cervix. For some women that is extremely uncomfortable, and it can also be painful for days after. Get him not to go so deep, change positions to shallower positions, get him a penis ring that will stop him from going deep, or close your legs with his outside yours. also remember todo lots and lots of kegel exercises to tone your pelvic muscles and keep everything in its place.
#5 Turn her on and make her wet. Turning her on with foreplay before fingering is a useful trick to make the experience more enjoyable for both. If she’s really turned on, she lubricates freely and she responds better to stimulation.
This is the kind of information that a man trying to make a woman come needs to know – for it is often a better idea for him to give her an orgasm before entering her and enjoying his own orgasm.
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Many men find oral sex (also known as ‘blow jobs’) highly sensitive, so start gently and slowly and work up to a faster pace. You can experiment with different tongue, mouth and head movements to see what works best (but never use your teeth unless asked!).
For most men, sex ends with an orgasm. This is very important for most men. And after the orgasm, most men are satisfied and not willing to participate in active sex any more for some time. All this is different for women.
Clitoral orgasms are usually the easiest for women to achieve so whenever I’m edging multiple orgasms, I usually let her have a clitoral orgasm first. Remember, once she has that first orgasm, the next become MUCH easier and take a lot less time to achieve.
If you choose the first option, then your task is to keep your partner’s pleasure heightened. Try changing positions to see which is most pleasurable. Once you find the right technique, keep at it until you’ve reached your desired result. Have confidence in your endurance and let your penis do what it was made for!
Before you make your way down under, make sure she’s relaxed and comfortable. Some women can get super self-conscious over how long it’s going to take them to climax, but if you let her know you’re not in a rush, it’s more likely she’ll fully give herself up to the situation. Also, when she sees that you actually want to please her, and aren’t just doing it as a formality, it’ll turn her on and get her natural juices going even more.
If you are expecting to give your woman an orgasm through penetration, then you must get her aroused first and foremost. Foreplay is crucial to the g-spot orgasm and this is what you have to focus on the most here. Although the clitoris does bring her satisfaction, you need to focus on the g-spot if you want to make her orgasm during intercourse. As you get her aroused during foreplay, this increases blood flow to the g-spot, making it bigger and more engorged. This makes it easier for you to hit during sex.MORE AT — http://tinyurl.com/j68s5dm
Now, press your fingers against her in series of slow, even and medium-depth pulses. Light pressure is too insignificant. Heavy ones can hurt, but women sometimes prefer this. Keep kissing her while you touch her down there. Combining pleasures is a skill, and an incredible one when done right.
Lines like “it doesn’t mean we’ve had real sex – you’ll still be a virgin”, or “if you don’t want sex then you should at least go down on me”, or “it’s not as risky as having intercourse”, all suggest pressure and coercion. Remember that oral sex should be fun for both of you. If one person is doing it because they feel pressured, it can sour the whole experience.
This also sounds a bit obvious, but is one of the most important pieces of advice to keep in mind. If your partner is a man, ensure that you are fully comfortable with whatever arrangement you have with your partner regarding ejaculation BEFORE you start going down on him. If you need him to warn you if he is going to ejaculate so you can change your tactic, then tell him that. If you are comfortable for him to ejaculate in your mouth, tell him that too.
The CAT position sounds interesting but I am concerned with the awkwardness of the position. Using a vibrator with woman on top seems like the best option in my opinion. Then again I should try out some of the above options and then decide!
This is a particularly good position if you feel nervous about touching your own clitoris. You shouldn’t be of course because it’s yours – and you should feel perfectly free to stimulate it yourself if you want to.
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(3) Slow down. Extended sensual warm-up time helps women have orgasms. Compared with men, most women need considerably more time to warm up to genital play. Forget the wham bam you see in porn. When making love, do everything at half speed. Sex therapists recommend at least 30 minutes of kissing, cuddling, and whole-body sensual caressing before reaching between her legs.
“I love [giving oral sex] because it seems to be one of the most pleasurable things you can do for a woman. To hear and feel her reactions from that incredibly intimate point of contact is both bonding and super sexy, for me.” — Logan*, 22
That said, the tip of the clitoris is definitely a magic sweet spot. It’s slightly cloaked by a protective hood, so when you’re ready to really turn it up (generally at least 5-10 minutes into it), you’ll want to pull that back. There are two most comfortable ways to do this:
In fact, contrary to stereotypes that most straight men hate going down on ladies, for many men giving oral sex is just as good as getting it. According to data from the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior, a majority of millennial men reported having performed oral sex on their female partners in the past year — and it wasn’t just for reciprocity’s sake.
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The authors concluded: “Part of this difference in perception could be due to women faking orgasms, which research has suggested women will do for a variety of reasons, including out of love for their partner, to protect their partner’s self-esteem, intoxication, or to bring the sexual encounter to an end.”
Before she settles into a rhythm that eventually leads to orgasm (you’ll know by her consistent hip movements), move away from that area and pay some more attention to her nipples. Reaching down behind her with one hand, find some of her wetness, squeeze her derriere and tease the hole with a finger. Slip it inside a little way if she responds.
I’ve been seeing this girl for a while. We’re both in our 20’s. Everything is going great, except that she has never had an orgasm. Ever. Not even by her own hand. We are both sexually experienced and have been with several prior partners. I like to think I know what I’m doing–I can find the G spot–but I’ve never run into such a tough case as this one.
Create a romantic atmosphere: Remember stress and sex don’t go well together. So if you are planning a sizzling act for the bedroom, it’s imperative that you set the right mood for her. Gauge her emotions before you ask or initiate a lovemaking session. Is she in the mood for it or is she too stressed or tired? Knowing her mood is the key to start the night right. If you are oblivious to the emotions of your partner, then it’s foolish to expect an exciting climax from her, forget multiple orgasms.
You might want to fact-check that lol. I know you’re wrong, and you posted this 2 years ago, so perhaps you know better now too but holy shit haha. How could possibly have ever thought that? Porn is a big industry consisting of many big companies that would be…ya know…torn apart by their executives and performers being put in prison for very long periods of time, if what you said were true. Nope, sorry, porn is a legitimate industry, like anything else. Porn actresses are no more forced into performing in porn movies than regular actresses are forced into performing in regular movies.
Once you are doing that trick with your tongue. DO NOT STOP. In some cases, you will have to use you fingers to spread her “lips” to find her clit. And some girls like it if you finger them at the same time when you play with them with your tongue but I suggest you only do that once you feel them getting wet (around the hole of their vagina.)
It’s not true that you “have to learn to love yourself”. I never EVER ever could, but would only get close to that annoying plateau. I thought it wouldn’t happen, until one day, with a really patient partner, I discovered the glory of being on top. This is after 7 years of having sex.
It’s always good to try new things. I think that getting into a bit of S&M can be a lot of fun. And you’re right in that talking openly and having safe words etc is critical to ensuring you both feel safe to explore that side of your sexuality and enjoy it to the max.