Sex toys have come a long way since your mother’s dildo (sorry, not a sexy image). Marin suggests trying a couples’ toy like the We-Vibe or, if you prefer going at it alone, the Eva by DAME products, which is an actual hands-free vibrator that stimulates the clitoris with zero effort — yay for that!
While she’s recuperating from her clitoral climax, give her a g-spot orgasm. It’ll take less and less time for her to come with every orgasm you give her until the point where one starts happening before the last is done.
Another vote for the vibrator. It’s not going to desensitize her unless she’s using it 24 hours a day for days on end. Even if she does feel a little desensitized at first, this will go away within a few hours, a day or two at the most. I would rather feel a little dull down there for a day than never have felt an orgasm in my life.
And if you don’t warm her up, and penetrate her properly, it probably WILL take her 15 – 20 minutes to get off… and most men don’t know what the hell they’re doing when they’re in the bedroom, so either 1) the girl naturally has quick/easy orgasms, or 2) she’s putting on a performance to please her man’s ego.
While 95 per cent of heterosexual men reporting that they usually or always orgasmed during sexually intimate moments, just 65 per cent of heterosexual women did. By contrast, the figure was 89 per cent for gay men, 86 per cent for lesbian women, 88 per cent for bisexual men and 66 per cent for bisexual women.
The sexual position that worked for us was woman on top, at a particular angle (that actually changes a bit as things go on). She has to be in control of this, and I basically need to let her determine most of the factors like angle, pressure, speed, etc.
Wow. I’ve got news for you fella, I don’t know what planet you’re from, but on Earth anyone born with a vagina IS in FACT a girl/woman. Anyone who would tell you otherwise apparently failed Junior High School biology class or they value pseudo “political- correctness” over cold, hard facts. Also, “shutting down entire avenues of self-identity” isn’t damaging anyone any more than they’ve already been damaged by being born freaks who don’t even know whether or not they are male or female! And aside from that, nobody gives a shit whether or not sex workers are being sexually fulfilled through cunnilingus or anything else. And in case you were unaware, prostitution is stigmatized because it’s not only illegitimate but also illegal in most countries on Earth. God didn’t give us the gift of lovemaking so we could sell our asses on a street corner or to the highest bidder, but so that a man and women can express their love for each other. Also I doubt if you’re really that busy if you had enough time to write all that nonsense.
“The most valuable thing you can do is find ways to bring more clitoral stimulation into your sex life,” says sex therapist Vanessa Marin, who is actually launching an online training program to teach women how to orgasm (bless her heart). Work on finding adventurous positions and activities that stimulate the clit, and you’ll be opened up to a whole new world of possibilities.
Women can sustain orgasms of length and intensity that men will simply never know (caveat: men can also become multi-orgasmic with a little bit of effort, but women still get the sweeter end of the stick in terms of orgasmic/peak arousal). So if you’re ignoring it, or are simply uninformed, you’re missing out on a massive treasure chest of sexual experience.
You can also use her hands to spread her labia, giving you better access. Or try pushing up the hood of the clitoris to let you reach the more sensitive with your tongue (this is a move for later in the game, not right at the beginning).
And how does he find out what she wants and what turns her on? Well, a wise man will ask her. What he should not do is to assume that his technique is flawless and that if his partner does not come, it’s her fault.
2) Some woman have mindbogglingly specific things which need to happen before they can have an orgasm. A ritual almost. Certain things need to be done in a specific order combined with some specific fantasies. So try mixing things up. Experimenting is fun.
If you’ve never tried this before with your partner, Dr. Carlen says to take your time and take it slow. “You don’t have to jump in with the dirtiest thing because it can come across as awkward or unauthentic,” she says. Instead of whispering in his ear that you want to have an orgy with him and 15 members of a football team, Dr. Carlen says tried-and-true dirty talk includes saying things like “I love it when you do (fill in the blank),” and the universally hot, “Oh, baby, I’m coming.”
Listen to your girlfriend; she says: “if the circumstances were right maybe it would be possible” . Women are not, as men are, immediately stimulated by sight. They need more time. They need the right atmosphere, some romance; sometimes candles and soft music can help.
#1 Prepare ahead of time. Keep your fingers clean and well-trimmed. Despite the punishment vaginas take during sex, it is still a delicate organ that ladies go to great lengths to pamper. The human hand and fingers are always exposed to different types of contaminants and bacteria since we use them in any activity we do.
Guys tend to go at it too hard, I guess in the theory that pressure is more exciting or because that’s how they like it on their cock. Hard licks or sucking doesn’t feel good to me, it gets into overstimulation and even pain. Light flickers, alternating with very gentle sweeps or circles… that’s the ticket. Also making sure that the woman is comfortable both physically and emotionally. Let her lie on her back, tell her how beautiful and hot her pussy is. Spend time kissing her and looking her in the eyes before going down. Touch her other places when you’re down there. I like a guy to caress my thighs, reach down to gently spread my knees apart further (very erotic), occasionally reach up to touch and squeeze my breasts. Murmur and smile occasionally to reassure her you like it and aren’t grossed out by her. If you’ve got the look and demeanor of martyrdom, no one’s going to have any fun.
It always amazes me to read ‘how to’ sex advice by men on how to please the woman. This article is a typical example of how you totally miss the point. This article totally ignores the simple things that men can do to help sex be more satisfying for the woman. There is no mention of men having good hygiene and smelling good and looking good and having a good relationship with their partner. Men don’t listen to the women or take the time to actually ask them to tell them what they want in bed. Perhaps if you encouraged men to take better care of themselves and develop their relationships, the women would respond with more orgasms. The build up of the satisfaction of sex precedes the actual act of sexual intercourse. And there’s no mention in this article of allowing her to be on top, a no brainer I thought (I was wrong). Why does this not surprise me? Perhaps if the author actually talked to women and asked their opinion, he wouldn’t be so eager to suggest that men bring the vibrator out and just get it over with already. Sort of like saying, don’t bother, it won’t work anyway so just get the vibrator already. Perhaps he wouldn’t make as much money if he didn’t just repeat what most men want to hear already. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with vibrators, but I thought the whole point of this article was help on sex tips.
How do you give her a mind-blowing fingering that leaves her quivering with delight? Like everything else, learning how to finger a girl requires research and practice. The first thing to remember—not all ladies and vaginas are alike in their preference for stimulation. [Read: Magic fingers – The sexual art of using your fingers right]
Variety is the spice of life and no more so than when it comes to romance and sex. During intercourse, change positions and mix things up to help make the sexual experience more pleasurable and successfully bring your woman to climax.
Start off softly, using a relaxed tongue to make slow movements and work up to faster movements with a firmer, pointed tongue. You can experiment with making different patterns with your tongue and try different rhythms – taking cues from your partner as to what she enjoys most.
Give her the opportunity to be totally swept away by you. Before you go down on her, hold both her hands with yours and put them above her head. Then tell her that your in control and that she is not to move her hands unless you tell her that it’s okay to do so. This will only add to the overall tease factor, guaranteeing a successful climax.
#8 Magic fingers. The above steps alone are often enough, but adding in fingers can help her, and enhance the orgasm. The clitoris is a bit like a small tree, with an immense underground root system. What you see is just a small part of it, the rest runs under the skin in a wishbone shape, down along both sides of the vagina, nearly to her anus.
First, you’ve got “women” in your title, which assumes that anyone who has a vagina is automatically a woman, regardless of how they might choose to identify themselves. I think it’s pretty damaging to shut down entire avenues of self-identity by branding everyone as one gender or another simply based on what genitalia they happen to have.
#1 Hygiene – His and hers. It’s no secret that there’s sometimes a smell down there. By design, the body has scent glands in the genitals just like in the armpits. Your balls have the same thing. But society has a lot more jokes about smelly pussy than about sweaty balls, so don’t be surprised if she feels somewhat self-conscious when you go down on her.
The amount of content available in what they call the first “season” is almost overwhelming, and that’s kind of the point. Yes, all women are different, but as you see and practice real-world techniques and understand how they relate to the larger concepts, you’ll eventually be equipped with a toolbox of sorts for the bedroom. The female orgasm has been a taboo subject for far too long, to the dismay of both women and men. These people are doing phenomenal work with regards to making sex a better experience for everyone.
Orgasms are not all about foreplay. A recent study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that the consistency of orgasms is more about the length ofintercourse than the length of foreplay. And another study in the same journal clocked her average climax seven minutes after penetration. That makes now the ideal timeto climb politely aboard and start the final leg of her leg trembler.
Additionally, Natalie Angier wrote in Woman: An Intimate Georgraphy that many women who have difficulty reaching orgasm can get past that with the help of a little pot. If she’s amenable to that, it’s worth a try.
Sexuality authorities also encourage couples to let go of the idea that women “should” have orgasms during intercourse. They encourage men to help women to orgasm using their fingers, hand, tongue, or a vibrator or other sex toys.
As you know, foreplay can take many forms, ranging from simple loving look to a gentle touch, from a passionate kiss to a warm embrace, from gentle stroking of the skin to a vigorous massage. Most women would admit that if they are being brought to orgasm, foreplay is essential to promote desire.
Psalm was one of the most transformational sex educators to grace Earth’s stage in the 21st century. She helped celebrities, CEOs and professional athletes rediscover their path to intimacy and ecstasy. Psalm’s foray into studying sexuality was triggered by the deep pain she endured during years of sexual trauma as a child raised in a Christian cult. That trauma led to her sexual awakening and deep passion for awakening the world’s awareness to the soul’s connection with sexuality. She shared her dreams with us, and we have come together to spread her message to the world.
Understanding how to finger a girl is not easy, but with a little curious exploration of her body, you’ll discover that fingering is as complicated as a high form of art. Giving her an orgasm with your fingers requires patience, careful attention, and a little bedroom creativity.
“More women are more self-conscious when they have someone in between their legs,” Dr. Carlen says. “They worry about what they taste or smell like. Instead, direct stimulation is the number one way women orgasm.”
if u have normal hands (man) second finger nucle in and pull up do the come here motion with your finger but it has to be quite fast and hard(please cut nails and use some sort of moistriser couple of days before hand so your hands are very smooth then use alot of lubracunt as it may take up to 30 mins if any longer please admit defet and try a few days later as you could make her sore. so while using the come here motion u will fell a pea size ball only 2 inches in place you other hand on the mound and push down u could even give oral while doing this please have alot of for play as well before hand when she gets the feeling to pee tell her not to tense up tell her to relax down there and just go for it she will have what u want and what she wants a brilliant orgasam please dont go loopy if it is pee she lets out or u will never get to try it again and u both loose out enjoy the golden shower if this happends please try and then let me know if it works