You may feel nervous before having oral sex – whether you’re giving it or receiving it. The best thing to do is to carry on communicating with your partner. Ask them to tell you what feels nice and let them know when you are enjoying something.
The G-spot is located about 2-3 inches deep and upwards, towards the front wall. You should feel a rougher patch of skin. Imagine trying to touch her belly button internally and you’ve got the right idea. Start slowly, softly, and then, build yourself up to a hard thrust.
You can begin by gently kissing and fondling the area around the anus including the perineum (the area of skin between the genitals and the anus). You can then work your way in to the anus by circling your tongue around the outer area and finally inserting your tongue.
The real value, though, is in the “touchable” videos that let you practice the techniques. They used thousands of images of each woman’s vagina to create incredibly realistic simulations that respond to the speed, pressure, location and rhythm of your fingers on a touchscreen device. As you follow the instructions and perform the techniques correctly, you’re rewarded with (again, pretty hot) audio feedback.
Use lubricants if needed: For a woman to have multiple orgasms she must be comfortable and find the experience to be pleasurable, more than painful. The vaginal area is extremely sensitive, so if you are going to make love not once or twice, but a couple of times, use a lubricant to lubricate the area. Soreness of the vaginal area will diminish any pleasure and can make intercourse so painful that she may not even reach a single orgasm.
“Dive into her like you’ve never tasted something as good in your life. ” golden. absolutely golden. this entire reply needs to be published in some sex bible. you nailed every part of the ideal process.
Unless the clitoris is stimulated during sex, a woman is unlikely to climax during sexual intercourse. That is true whether she is stimulating herself or a man is trying to make her come during partnered sexual activity.
Austin, I appreciate the effort, but you haven’t gone nearly far enough. “Guide to Giving Women Oral Sex” still builds in a gigantic host of assumptions that really only serve to marginalize various groups or individuals and substitute the constricting bonds of conventional societal mores in areas where we need to focus on inclusiveness.
Below is some discussion about how to help a woman get an orgasm. Important to note is that obtaining an orgasm may not be what is most important for her. Maybe other things are more important. Do not feel forced to obtain orgasm for the woman, unless this is her own wish.
I’m glad you found the article uesful! It’s a very common thing for guys to last much longer with a condom on. You could try a desensitizing spray without the condom, if physical sensitivity is the main issue. I’d also suggest looking around this site for help. There are lots of articles with information about improving your sexual stamina.
For many women, sex can be satisfying even without an orgasm. They value the closeness, intimacy, cuddling, more than the orgasm. In a report asking women why they enjoyed sex, their most common answer was emotional intimacy, and the most pleasurable event during sex for women was penetration, not orgasm.
And straight women like me feel somewhat awkward at first when we read things like ‘kiss her from her neck to her naval…’ But after a second, I was able to read through the various advice and show my boyfriend what I found to be the best ideas. Maybe it will help more girls get the orgasms they need.
Aside from using your hands and tongue, there are some tricks you can use to make oral sex even more exciting. For example, using mentholated mints or mouthwash before performing oral sex can heighten the pleasure. When your breath is fresh and tingly from a strong mint, your partner will feel the tingling sensation along her vaginal lips and clitoris. You could also try using warming or cooling lubricants or scented massage oils to arouse your girl and amp up the excitement.
The reason? During intercourse (missionary, doggie, woman-on-top, whatever), the penis does not directly stimulate the clitoris, the organ responsible for women’s orgasms. Sexuality experts reassure couples that the woman’s inability to experience orgasm during intercourse is (1) very common, (2) no reflection on her sexual responsiveness, (3) no reflection on the man’s sexual technique, and (4) no reflection the woman’s feelings about the relationship. I agree.
Take it slow – When you finally decide to show her mercy and end the teasing, start off with a few gentle licks around the lips. Take your time and work your way up to the rough stuff (if that’s what she’s into).
Like, are you starting after a stressful day? Or are you starting with both people horny as fuck? That changes things. And everything else can change too. Sometimes some suction on the clit is the golden ticket to orgasm, other times it’s little circles, and other times its a big, wet tongue pressed hard everywhere.
Women get an orgasm by proper stimulation of the clitoris, a small lap of skin just over the vagina. The clitoris can be stimulated by hand, using lubricating gel, by the woman herself or her partner. It can also be stimulated by mouth. If the clitoris is stimulated by her partner, this is usually done before the vaginal intercourse. Note that during normal vaginal sexual intercourse, the nerve endings in the man’s penis are stimulated, but not the nerve endings in the womans clitoris. Only 30 % of all women get an orgasm through vaginal sexual intercourse according to Shere Hite! More.
And the number one way she suggests increasing your sexual confidence and taking control over your orgasms is by partaking in a naughty bit of adult show-and-tell and masturbating in front of one another. Whether you choose to discuss in advance the fact that you’re about to give your partner the thrill of their life or surprise them by letting them come home and “catch” you rubbing yourself on the Jennifer Convertible sofa, is entirely up to you. And though you may be tempted to let them jump in and finish the job, Dr. Carlen suggests restraining your passions and enforcing a no touching rule for as long as possible — which will only make things hotter.
On a related note, back when I was a wee teenage boy, I thought it was all about getting the tongue as deep into her as possible — like licking the last of the pudding out of a jello pudding cup. I’d strain to get my tongue as far inside as I could — to the point where it actually hurt, and I’d practically asphyxiate myself. I was digging for gold not knowing that the treasure was right there, hidden just below the surface!
“[Going down on a woman] is awesome. Especially when the sexual, physical and spiritual connection is there, it’s like two bodies connecting and expanding into a universe of sensation. It’s just all around awesome.” — Alan*, 33
The woman can feel genuinely weightless and free-as-air – which is quite a novel sensation. Another bonus is that either partner can touch the clitoris easily. So it’s different and fun – and usually a great time is had by all.
Psalm was one of the most transformational sex educators to grace Earth’s stage in the 21st century. She helped celebrities, CEOs and professional athletes rediscover their path to intimacy and ecstasy. Psalm’s foray into studying sexuality was triggered by the deep pain she endured during years of sexual trauma as a child raised in a Christian cult. That trauma led to her sexual awakening and deep passion for awakening the world’s awareness to the soul’s connection with sexuality. She shared her dreams with us, and we have come together to spread her message to the world.
In the plateau phase (see diagram above) a woman is highly aroused, physically and mentally, and she can remain in that state for some time without reaching orgasm unless additional stimulation is applied to take her over into the orgasm phase.
She’s almost naked now but keep her underwear on for another minute or so. “Stroke and caress her through the fabric rather than going for gold,” says sex therapist Paula Hall. “Focus on building anticipation rather than going straight for direct stimulation.” Feeling that time is short prevents a woman from reaching orgasm, adds Webber. Act like you’ve got forever, but then peel off her underwear and use Durex’s new strawberry-scented Intimate Lube (durex.com). This will get her excited, and make her more sensitive. Research at the US Association for Chemical Reception Sciences found the scent of strawberries alerts the senses. Move your fingers in slow, circular motions just inside her vagina. “Many women need attention focused on the outer third of the vaginal canal, where the G-spot, the clitoris, and the PS-spot (opposite the G-spot) can be reached,” says Emma Taylor of the sex blog emandlo.com. Women love a man who’s good with his hands…
Pleasing a woman is difficult according to most men! No one really knows what a woman wants or likes, do they? And what makes it complicated is what she wants once, she may not want the second time around. Now, when things are so complex, how does a man know how to please his woman in bed? Well, the secret is that the first organ that needs to be stimulated is her brain.
The unfortunate truth is that some people aren’t comfortable with words like clitoris, so for the purposes of this post I’ll refrain from the use of the word and call it “ringing her bell” after that ’70s song “Ring My Bell,” which I hope was referring to precisely what we’re talking about.
What you should do on your way down, however, is gently kiss her chest, stomach, and inner thighs—throw in some light nibbles, too. Do this until you reach the final point of destination, and then slowly and softly dig in with your tongue. Also, the slower the better – the wait will kill her with anticipation.
For best results, you’ll want to get her totally relaxed, comfortable, and in her body. Make sure she can lie back and let every muscle go. Set her up with a few pillows if she wants to be propped up for comfort, or get a better view if that’s what turns her on. If she’s a squirter, put down a sex blanket so that she can really let go without worrying about leaving a wet spot on the sheets.
Stare with fiery intention into her eyes while you keep your hand going. If you’re comfortable doing so, talk dirty to her. Ask her in a whisper if she wants anything to change. That gives her permission to communicate in the heat of the moment. Keep your technique steady. If it feels incredible to her, don’t change anything even if she says she’s going to come.
#9 Experiment with different finger movements. As mentioned, there are many ways to finger a woman. Finding the right type of stimulation sometimes requires you to try various techniques and movements to find out which one makes her moan louder.
Some of it is out of your hands. Many women will tell you that an orgasm is nigh on impossible if she’s not in the right head space. If she’s distracted, worried or feeling uncomfortable, you can be the world’s greatest lover and still fail to give her real pleasure. So the first thing you need to do is relax and recognize that it’s not all about you. On the other hand, any man worth a place in bed beside a woman knows that he bears some responsibility for sexual satisfaction. For that part of the equation, read on for our for tips to make her orgasm.
Another vote for the vibrator. It’s not going to desensitize her unless she’s using it 24 hours a day for days on end. Even if she does feel a little desensitized at first, this will go away within a few hours, a day or two at the most. I would rather feel a little dull down there for a day than never have felt an orgasm in my life.
(5) Break out of routines. Ever notice how sex feels more arousing in hotels? That’s because hotel sex is non-routine. Biochemically, the brain chemical (neurotransmitter) dopamine governs libido. As dopamine rises, so does arousal and likelihood of orgasm. What raises dopamine? Novelty. So try something different—anything. Make love in a new location, in a different way, at a different time, or with a different ambiance, for example, candle light, music, and sex toys. Beforehand, try bathing or showering together, or treat yourselves to professional massages.
Hi. My wife doesn’t like oral kissing, nipple kissing and caressing, clitorial stimulation and she said she feels good only during intercourse. She also doesnt like prolonged penetration. Does he have problem???
And how does he find out what she wants and what turns her on? Well, a wise man will ask her. What he should not do is to assume that his technique is flawless and that if his partner does not come, it’s her fault.