For the former, it’s all about the deep spot, which is sometimes called the A-Spot. Basically you take you middle finger and go all the way back to her cervix. Using just the tip of your middle finger, you press the top of the cervix until she explodes. It works because the cervix contracts during the female orgasm, and so stimulating that contraction causes a very deep full body orgasm that she almost definitely hasn’t experienced before. This is also great for women who can come from the clit but not from penetration. Look up David Shade to learn more about this technique. If that doesn’t work, hypnosis is the next step.
Some girls get aroused by seeing you lose yourself to desire. If she wants to go down on you, let her, but don’t dare force her to. If you’re about to come in her mouth, tell her so, and if she’s ok with it, do it. Some girls get turned on by this. Some girls hate it. Some girls want you to come first because it turns them on. Some girls want to come together with you. Some want to come before you.
1) Please communicate. The advice I had doesn’t work on all girls, and there’s nothing but lovely fuzzy sexy orgasms to be had if you just check with your lady-friend about what they like. Do they like very gentle touching? Do they like more insistent touching? Do they like being teased for ages? Do they want your tongue on their clit? Just ask and incorporate (Please don’t have an actual conversation while eating her out, do it before sexytimes. If you don’t want to ruin the sexiness of it all, make it clear to her that she should tell you if she wants you to change anything you’re doing, and start on the gentler side.)
Some of it is out of your hands. Many women will tell you that an orgasm is nigh on impossible if she’s not in the right head space. If she’s distracted, worried or feeling uncomfortable, you can be the world’s greatest lover and still fail to give her real pleasure. So the first thing you need to do is relax and recognize that it’s not all about you. On the other hand, any man worth a place in bed beside a woman knows that he bears some responsibility for sexual satisfaction. For that part of the equation, read on for our for tips to make her orgasm.
Lots of people tense up when excited, like during sex. That can be fun, and often there is far more pleasure in the opposite direction – via relaxing. The more you relax while making out, the more fun you are likely to have (and the less tired you will be afterwards).
You can bring her to the brink of orgasm and then stop touching her “orgasm zone” completely (so if you’re giving her a clitoral orgasm using your fingers, you would completely remove your hand and stop all contact with her clit while you stimulate her breasts or kiss her).
The basis for OMGYES’ information is their research. They conducted in-depth interviews with 1,000 women, asking them things like how they discovered what works for them, as well as what techniques, specifically, get them off. Working with Indiana University and the renowned Kinsey Institute, they also surveyed a nationally representative sample of another 1,000 women. The results are in-depth and extensive. For instance, here’s just some of the data they collected on multiple orgasms:
DON’T slobber your whole mouth/face over my vulva. The worst is when men have beard stubbles and do this. It hurts and isn’t pleasurable in the least! Don’t suck my clit (although some women like this). Use the tip of your tongue and only use very little pressure at the beginning (maybe increase the pressure when she is properly aroused). The most common mistake is being too rough and putting too on much pressure.
“There’s a noticeable difference in the quality of sex if the order is rip off clothes and go down. I feel like women get so used to dudes just lying back and expecting head that it becomes routine and a little boring, despite it being inherently new and exciting.” — Martin
You can begin by gently kissing and fondling the area around the anus including the perineum (the area of skin between the genitals and the anus). You can then work your way in to anus by circling your tongue around the outer area and finally inserting your tongue.
Use lubricants if needed: For a woman to have multiple orgasms she must be comfortable and find the experience to be pleasurable, more than painful. The vaginal area is extremely sensitive, so if you are going to make love not once or twice, but a couple of times, use a lubricant to lubricate the area. Soreness of the vaginal area will diminish any pleasure and can make intercourse so painful that she may not even reach a single orgasm.
– Start touching everything except the clit and vagina. Don’t go for the sweet spots immediately. Build anticipation and make her beg by teasing her external genitalia and deliberately missing the sweet spots.
Have little pep-talks: Most men are averse to conversation, but you don’t need to have deep meaningful conversations; just talk or whisper in each other’s ears. That sleepy heavy voice that emanates during such moments is what makes the act a lot more sensual and intimate, both for you and your woman. Also know exactly how women can fake an orgasm.
Unless the clitoris is stimulated during sex, a woman is unlikely to climax during sexual intercourse. That is true whether she is stimulating herself or a man is trying to make her come during partnered sexual activity.
In my consulting room, I’ve seen many successful women – including lawyers, bankers and TV presenters – who were quite unaware of what it takes for most women to climax and who, as a result, had spent ages blaming themselves and feeling inadequate.