We just like you doing something for us that feels good. The fact you want to do it is awesome. Some women don’t expect an orgasm but you’re going to have to assume we want you to try your hardest for as long as you can. 3 licks and 1 minute is pretty lame. I have kicked guys out of bed for that “are you ready?” after 30 seconds of pussy play. What a stupid question!
And now the grand finale! Once her whole body starts to tremble and you feel like she’s coming to the edge, place your mouth to cover her “hot spot” (the clitoris) and suck it gently while stimulating it with your tongue. That should make her come like never before! Once your partner has been satisfied, it’s your turn! Try it once, satisfaction guaranteed – yours AND hers!
Don’t forget that by taking a little time with foreplay, women can have an orgasm before the intercourse has even begun. This then takes some of the pressure off how long the man needs to last for because we’re already satisfied.
Using a condom or dental dam (a thin, soft plastic that covers the vagina or anus) will protect you from most sexually transmitted infections. If you don’t have a dental dam you can also make an effective barrier by cutting a condom lengthways from bottom to top forming one piece of material that can be used like a dental dam.
Wow I have a girl friend that we have good sex . She had started taking some anti de present meds and after that it was impossible to make her come . I tryed a lot and talking some gentle spanks she likes , kissing her pussy , vibraters, bath tub , rubbing my cock all over her .i tryed a lot of new and all the past things she likes . After the med changes !!! All good . Her new doc have her some new mess for hormones inc testosterone . Women girls need that to . Or you may have the wrong partners . Keep it up 🙂 and take your time don’t try to hard or talk yourself onto you never will. Try some adult movies ??? I have no idea about you but I hope I can or have given you some new ideas !!
In answer to your question, maybe just try everything she finds good and try and get past that plateau a little bit further every time. And keep it fun, the whole orgasm thing, sex tricks aside, really is a head thing. No pun intended.
If you’re happy and comfortable with the person you’re with then oral sex can be a great way to get physically closer and learn what turns each other on. But remember that you can pause or stop at any point you want, and the same is true for your partner. Just because you have started something doesn’t mean you need to continue – stopping is actually very normal.
And don’t worry, if it’s way too intense, she’ll stop you. Again, listening and paying attention to her response throughout is key. But as a rule of thumb: it’s better to lean slightly over the edge of too much stimulation into the land of potentially-another-orgasm than it is to delicately handle her like a fragile soufflé and give her an underwhelming/frustrating almost-orgasm.
An alternative technique is sensory overload. “Simultaneous G-spot and clitoral stimulation is far and away the fastest route to orgasm,” says Hall. Having her from behind is the best position for this because while you work the former, you can call up sex toy reinforcements to take care of the latter.
Michael, as always you continue to offer really sensitive advice to help women have more pleasure. I for one, wonder about how you “get it” so thoroughly. You must listen to women. A quick read of any of your blogs and books would answer Lily’s accusations of missing the surround sound that makes the sexual experience so great for a woman.. I know you advise about that over and over!
Turns out, quite a lot. The reality is most women don’t reach orgasm — at least through sex alone — says Emily Morse. sexologist, host of the Sex With Emily podcast and Hustler Hollywood Contributor. “Between 70-80% of women do not achieve orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone,” says Morse.
If you are already penetrating correctly, or she’s on top, then sucking, pulling, spanking her “sexy parts”, preferably a few of them simultaneously (ask her what she likes; I’m sure she’ll point you in the right direction), combined with some dirty talk, and she’ll be tightening up, gyrating and vibrating into orgasm in no time.
Swallow – You know what I’m talking about! If you’re doing it right, it will be inevitable that she will urinate in your mouth. Don’t be afraid. Encourage her. And when she does, give her the same courtesy you’d expect and swallow every drop.
“Dive into her like you’ve never tasted something as good in your life. ” golden. absolutely golden. this entire reply needs to be published in some sex bible. you nailed every part of the ideal process.
In this case, a vibe would be great for helping her relax, have an orgasm, and get over the hump (yeah, yeah). Once those first few are out of the way, then she can start exploring other ways of having one.