(4) Use a lubricant. Wetter is better. In just seconds, lubricant makes women’s (and men’s) genitals more erotically sensitive, so it helps women have orgasms. In addition, for women experiencing post-menopausal vaginal dryness, sex may feel uncomfortable without a lubricant.
Multi-task. Don’t just have penetrative sex – stimulate her other erogeneous zones as well, simultaneously. I find if my partner is just stimulating my clit, it actually feels too intense. If there’s something else going on I get distracted by that, relax a bit more, and bam!
Whether you’re a woman who’s diving into improving your sexual experiences, or you’re a guy who’s wondering why your lady isn’t getting off as often as you’d like, you’re probably looking for the big secret to female pleasure. That’s a great start, but the answer goes deeper than you might expect …
You see, the best oral sex isn’t about how long you spend desperately licking and sucking (with a couple of fingers inside for good measure). The best oral sex is the climax of a chain of events. It’s about priming the territory, knowing how to exploit her desire to be delicately tortured and masterfully creating a sweet build-up to the point where you decide to hand over control.
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First consider your quarry. Whether it be a night at The Beaumont or simply remembering to pay the bloody parking metre – do it. But if it’s too late for such niceties and you are mid-way through, suddenly realising your trajectories may no longer be in sync, what then?
Get used to–femal orgasim serves no purpose whatsoever except to hurt people. If you don’t and can’t stand it-get with yourself. Its a mind game-mind over matter-if you don’t mind, it just don’t matter-got something productive.
Use lubricants if needed: For a woman to have multiple orgasms she must be comfortable and find the experience to be pleasurable, more than painful. The vaginal area is extremely sensitive, so if you are going to make love not once or twice, but a couple of times, use a lubricant to lubricate the area. Soreness of the vaginal area will diminish any pleasure and can make intercourse so painful that she may not even reach a single orgasm.
“I had a client who would regularly have 30 to 40 orgasms in a session with her man. She may be the extreme, but having one to five is totally normal and doable for any woman,” says holistic sex and relationship expert Kim Anami.
Finally I think I need to point out that “guide” is by no means a neutral term. To be able to guide someone in performing oral sex, we have to assume that there is a correct way to go about it, or at least some ways that are better or worse. This, I think, leads to a whole host of problems, but I’ll set those aside and simply focus on the narrower issue of whether someone who performs oral sex in a way not suggested by this “guide” (for example, someone who chooses to “ignore [their] hands while going down on [their] girl”) is somehow deficient sexually and is failing to give their partner the pleasure that oral sex ought to entail, or something like that. Better perhaps to phrase these things as “suggestions” or “options” and avoid excluding people who choose to act differently, or who perhaps do not have mobility in their arms (for example) due to a physical disability.
Honestly Breve you are thinking way too hard about the situation at hand. Women that can cum vaginally are rare. It just isnt something that all women can due. Try having her stimulate her clit while you are pumping and she will eventually reach her climax. Another thing that is rare but can be achieved is for your women to have multiple orgasms. you simply repeat the process that i just explained. if you can beat my record i would love to hear about. My record is giving my gf 6 orgasms in one 45 minute- 1 hour session. with her playing with her clit each time of course. good luck!!
On a related note, back when I was a wee teenage boy, I thought it was all about getting the tongue as deep into her as possible — like licking the last of the pudding out of a jello pudding cup. I’d strain to get my tongue as far inside as I could — to the point where it actually hurt, and I’d practically asphyxiate myself. I was digging for gold not knowing that the treasure was right there, hidden just below the surface!
By contrast, 80 per cent of heterosexual women and 91 per cent of lesbians always or usually orgasm with a combination of genital stimulation, deep kissing and oral sex – but without vaginal sex. “To say that there needs to be some education I think is an understatement,” said Prof Lloyd.
Lots of women like this, though not all of them find it easy to orgasm on their sides. But the great advantage here is that either partner can reach down and rub the clitoris. Also, neither of you is having to take the weight of the other.
– The G-spot. The G-spot is a spongy part of the vagina located on the anterior part of the vagina or the upper part if the woman is lying down. If stimulated properly, it provides the most mind-blowing of all orgasms. However there is no uniform way to stimulate this, and it can vary per person. [Read: How to tingle her G-spot without using a flashlight]
It was once assumed that women didn’t have orgasms, or at least that they were very different from what men experienced. Thankfully, nowadays we know that women have all the equipment required to produce sexual pleasure – and that there’s nothing wrong with enjoying it. Still, most statistics estimate that about 30 percent of women have trouble achieving orgasm.
Reaching orgasm is one of the peaks of sexual experience, but surprisingly, this can be challenging for a lot of women. Apparently, one-third of women have never had an orgasm — and even fewer have ever experienced multiple orgasms.
Once there—NO. BITING. EVER. Like, ever, ever. Seriously, it just hurts. Make sure her knees are still apart at this point, as well as her lips, so you can actually see where you are and what you’re doing.
– Use light, grazing touches. For the external parts such as the clitoris and the labia. Light touches to sensitive areas is a good way to turn her on and make her wet. Plus, it gives her anticipation making her receptive to aggressive fingering later.
Ok this is comin from my personal experience…I persoanlly love foreplay before sex wether it be by fingers or my vibrator I usually always use my vibrator before sex and sometimes during….I too have finally experienced a g-spot orgasim many times now and the easiest way we have found that I produced one at first was with a dildo, goin in and out almost at an upward angle toward the g-spot area and not too deep tho the g-spot is not that far I am able to produce one with my husband as well inside me both him on top and myself on top as well….I recomend experimenting if the two of you are comfortable with each other I would try it out….You can do a search on g-spot and it will give you some info almost a walkthrough on maybe gettin there and how to go about it…..Or even buy a penis ring with a vibrator on it so while you are having sex she will have clitoral stimulation as well……..I persoanlly dont think there is nothing wrong with makin a girl cum before sex I think it makes the joy of sex much better!!! But I do think you need to tell her to experiment with her self as well its hard for you as a man to know what to do to her if she herself really does not know what she likes!!!! Good luck